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STAYATHOMEMAMA3

STAYATHOMEMAMA3

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LusbyMom said:
FYI I know the mom and kid you are talking about. The kid was NOT standing in the road and he was perfectly safe. He was across from the school on the post office property.

I think it was a great idea and the location was perfect. All his friends got to see him! :lol:
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Ha, I meant dangerous as in may cause rubber necking and maybe an accident:) I think it was a great idea too.
 
STAYATHOMEMAMA3

STAYATHOMEMAMA3

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Just in case you were all wondering what happened. I took my son down to the Police Station and spoke with an officer and told him the situation, they did the whole scared straight approach. He took him downstairs and put him in a cell, he then asked me after talking with him for a few min, if I minded if he closed the gate, I told him whatever it takes. So he did but only for like a min. then he returned to the cell and spoke with him some more. He just reassured him that this is where he will end up if he keeps up this kind of behavior. He also told he and I that he has seen kids start out just this way and the parents did not care enough to do anything about it and they are now residents of the co. jail. I dont think he will ever do this kind of thing again. He def learned his lesson. Some may agree and some may not, but he is MY son and this is the only way I saw fit to deal with the situtation. The officer kept comending me for my efforts. This is def something he WILL remember!!
 
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STAYATHOMEMAMA3 said:
Just in case you were all wondering what happened. I took my son down to the Police Station and spoke with an officer and told him the situation, they did the whole scared straight approach. He took him downstairs and put him in a cell, he then asked me after talking with him for a few min, if I minded if he closed the gate, I told him whatever it takes. So he did but only for like a min. then he returned to the cell and spoke with him some more. He just reassured him that this is where he will end up if he keeps up this kind of behavior. He also told he and I that he has seen kids start out just this way and the parents did not care enough to do anything about it and they are now residents of the co. jail. I dont think he will ever do this kind of thing again. He def learned his lesson. Some may agree and some may not, but he is MY son and this is the only way I saw fit to deal with the situtation. The officer kept comending me for my efforts. This is def something he WILL remember!!
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That's it? No parental at home punishment?
 
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STAYATHOMEMAMA3 said:
Just in case you were all wondering what happened. I took my son down to the Police Station and spoke with an officer and told him the situation, they did the whole scared straight approach. He took him downstairs and put him in a cell, he then asked me after talking with him for a few min, if I minded if he closed the gate, I told him whatever it takes. So he did but only for like a min. then he returned to the cell and spoke with him some more. He just reassured him that this is where he will end up if he keeps up this kind of behavior. He also told he and I that he has seen kids start out just this way and the parents did not care enough to do anything about it and they are now residents of the co. jail. I dont think he will ever do this kind of thing again. He def learned his lesson. Some may agree and some may not, but he is MY son and this is the only way I saw fit to deal with the situtation. The officer kept comending me for my efforts. This is def something he WILL remember!!
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Good! Glad it all turned out. :yay:
 
morningbell

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STAYATHOMEMAMA3 said:
Just in case you were all wondering what happened. I took my son down to the Police Station and spoke with an officer and told him the situation, they did the whole scared straight approach. He took him downstairs and put him in a cell, he then asked me after talking with him for a few min, if I minded if he closed the gate, I told him whatever it takes. So he did but only for like a min. then he returned to the cell and spoke with him some more. He just reassured him that this is where he will end up if he keeps up this kind of behavior. He also told he and I that he has seen kids start out just this way and the parents did not care enough to do anything about it and they are now residents of the co. jail. I dont think he will ever do this kind of thing again. He def learned his lesson. Some may agree and some may not, but he is MY son and this is the only way I saw fit to deal with the situtation. The officer kept comending me for my efforts. This is def something he WILL remember!!
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You did the right thing :yay: It's what I would do. I'm pretty strict when it comes to my son's actions. He is no angel but he minds his manners and cares a lot about others feelings.
 
STAYATHOMEMAMA3

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Thanks to all for the support!! Like the saying goes.. "It takes a community to raise a child" it is nice to know I have places like this to turn to for help and advice, Thanks again!!
 
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STAYATHOMEMAMA3 said:
Just in case you were all wondering what happened. I took my son down to the Police Station and spoke with an officer and told him the situation, they did the whole scared straight approach. He took him downstairs and put him in a cell, he then asked me after talking with him for a few min, if I minded if he closed the gate, I told him whatever it takes. So he did but only for like a min. then he returned to the cell and spoke with him some more. He just reassured him that this is where he will end up if he keeps up this kind of behavior. He also told he and I that he has seen kids start out just this way and the parents did not care enough to do anything about it and they are now residents of the co. jail. I dont think he will ever do this kind of thing again. He def learned his lesson. Some may agree and some may not, but he is MY son and this is the only way I saw fit to deal with the situtation. The officer kept comending me for my efforts. This is def something he WILL remember!!
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Good job, Mom!!! :clap: I should have read the whole thread before I responded before.
 
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STAYATHOMEMAMA3 said:
Just in case you were all wondering what happened. I took my son down to the Police Station and spoke with an officer and told him the situation, they did the whole scared straight approach. He took him downstairs and put him in a cell, he then asked me after talking with him for a few min, if I minded if he closed the gate, I told him whatever it takes. So he did but only for like a min. then he returned to the cell and spoke with him some more. He just reassured him that this is where he will end up if he keeps up this kind of behavior. He also told he and I that he has seen kids start out just this way and the parents did not care enough to do anything about it and they are now residents of the co. jail. I dont think he will ever do this kind of thing again. He def learned his lesson. Some may agree and some may not, but he is MY son and this is the only way I saw fit to deal with the situtation. The officer kept comending me for my efforts. This is def something he WILL remember!!
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Wow, I think it's really great that the officer took the time to do this. Your son will NEVER forget this experience and he'll certainly think twice before pulling a stunt like that again. I have to admit, I almost feel a little sorry for him because I'm picturing a little 11 year old boy in a big 'ol cell, scared outta his mind. :lol: I said a LITTLE sorry......I'll give my son the same experience in the future if needed.

One of my pet peeves are the parents who believe that "boys will be boys" or "not my child, he/she would never do that". Sounds like you helped your son learn a valuable lesson at a young age.
 
mamissa3

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I think that was a great on the officer to take the time to do that. When i was about 8 i took one of those rubber rings from a store, my mother made me go to the manager give it back and than to the police station to talk with them. I NEVER stole anything again and i still very vividly rember it. Good Job Mom!:)
 
dn0121

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STAYATHOMEMAMA3 said:
Ok, here is my problem. I was just looking at my bank account and saw that my son(11) used my card(w/out permission) to subscribe to a membership to gamefly.com. I am extremely disappointed. I thought I taught him better than that. I know he probably thought it was no big deal, but how do I get him to understand what he did was not only wrong but ILLEGAL? I would love to have a police officer come to the house and give him a good scare, but I know they have more important things to do. I just dont think grounding him, etc. is going to get the message through. I would love to hear some suggestions on what to do. Serious responses please, as this really is no laughing matter, this could lead to some really bad issues in the future if I do not handle it correctly. TIA.
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If only there was in internet forum in 1949 Bernie Madoff's parents could have saved people a lot of money and heartache.

PS: Good job :yay:
 
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STAYATHOMEMAMA3 said:
Thanks to all for the support!! Like the saying goes.. "It takes a community to raise a child" it is nice to know I have places like this to turn to for help and advice, Thanks again!!
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You are so right--it takes a village to raise children. Good for you for being a caring and loving parent. Alot of kids are being raised by parents that are either to lazy, or love themselves more than their children, to be a "good parent".
 
citysherry

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So, what happened with the other kid? What did his parents have to say and how did they handle the situation? Was it a case that your child succumbed to peer pressure from the other child or vice-versa?
 
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