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preciousness

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My 18 y/o daughter dropped a bomb on me over Christmas. I am going to be a 42 y/o grandmother. Once I got over the disappointment & anger, I started to think about the reality of it. She has a decent job at a Dr. office, but has only been there a little over 2 months. She isn't eligible for health insurance for 90 days (the end of Jan.), hence, she has no insurance. She qualifies for the WIC program, which I told her she needs to do until she can get on her feet and survive with the added expense of having a child. Is there a state program that helps uninsured, YOUNG adults in this situation?
Of course, she wants to do this all on her own, but I want to make sure she is set up to be a good mother that can take care of herself as well as the baby.
Can someone please point me in the right direction, as to where she can go for assistance?
Thank you in advance
 
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checkingthenews

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preciousness said:
My 18 y/o daughter dropped a bomb on me over Christmas. I am going to be a 42 y/o grandmother. Once I got over the disappointment & anger, I started to think about the reality of it. She has a decent job at a Dr. office, but has only been there a little over 2 months. She isn't eligible for health insurance for 90 days (the end of Jan.), hence, she has no insurance. She qualifies for the WIC program, which I told her she needs to do until she can get on her feet and survive with the added expense of having a child. Is there a state program that helps uninsured, YOUNG adults in this situation?
Of course, she wants to do this all on her own, but I want to make sure she is set up to be a good mother that can take care of herself as well as the baby.
Can someone please point me in the right direction, as to where she can go for assistance?
Thank you in advance
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Very rough way to begin life at the young age of 18. Did you discuss options with your daughter.
 
mAlice

mAlice

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preciousness said:
My 18 y/o daughter dropped a bomb on me over Christmas. I am going to be a 42 y/o grandmother. Once I got over the disappointment & anger, I started to think about the reality of it. She has a decent job at a Dr. office, but has only been there a little over 2 months. She isn't eligible for health insurance for 90 days (the end of Jan.), hence, she has no insurance. She qualifies for the WIC program, which I told her she needs to do until she can get on her feet and survive with the added expense of having a child. Is there a state program that helps uninsured, YOUNG adults in this situation?
Of course, she wants to do this all on her own, but I want to make sure she is set up to be a good mother that can take care of herself as well as the baby.
Can someone please point me in the right direction, as to where she can go for assistance?
Thank you in advance
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Contact Planned Parenthood. Maybe they can steer you in the right direction. You may also want gurl to see if she will qualify for insurance sooner due to "life changing event".
 
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preciousness

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Options.....

OF COURSE, I disussed options with her, but it is ultimately HER decision because she is an adult. And yes, she was well aware of the consequences that result from her actions. Let's just skip all the different scenerios & questions that everyone can come up with..... been there/done that with her.... trust me.
What I need to know, is my original questions..... does anyone know where she can go for medical assistance ???
 
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marlboro_girl

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preciousness said:
OF COURSE, I disussed options with her, but it is ultimately HER decision because she is an adult. And yes, she was well aware of the consequences that result from her actions. Let's just skip all the different scenerios & questions that everyone can come up with..... been there/done that with her.... trust me.
What I need to know, is my original questions..... does anyone know where she can go for medical assistance ???
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Health Department or Social Services.
 
lovinmaryland

lovinmaryland

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Toxick said:
Yes. Get her in touch with Social Services. She will be insured at least the entire time she is pregnant.
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:yeahthat: That will be her best option. It will cover her pregnancy and up to 6 weeks after (I think)
mAlice said:
Contact Planned Parenthood. Maybe they can steer you in the right direction. You may also want gurl to see if she will qualify for insurance sooner due to "life changing event".
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Unfortunatley marriage or the *birth* would be a life changing event. In this case it would not cover her policy. Infact most insurance companies tell you that certain things will be covered only after a certain length of time (pregnancy is normally 12 months)
 
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PEACHES76

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I was 18 when I dropped this same bomb on my parents. Luckily, I was covered under their insurance until I was 19. The insurance paid for my entire pregnancy and the child's father covered her once she was born.

My mother was also 42 when I made her a grandma, it took her awhile before she admitted to herself that I was pregnant, but she supported me an my decisions.

I now have a beautiful 13 year old who is the light of my life, and my mother's little darling.
 
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vbailey

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Carenet of Southern Maryland......they can help answer many of your questions and put you in contact with all kinds of other services in the area......congrads to you!!! I am also a new grandmother, my daughter was 24 when she told me she was expecting...she is not married but she and my 7 mth old grandson's father have bought a home together and are doing very well.....I would love to see them get married, but that has to be a decision they make together on their own....I could not be more thrilled being a grandmother....it is my greatest joy, and it will be for you too....it seems you are a very loving and caring mother...just be there supporting your daughter and do what is best for her and the baby...
 
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aosmiles

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I am sure it is helpful to have information from someone who has "been there." Thank you, Peaches76!

Preciousness: Check your PM. She can get insurance, WIC, and can get help from CareNet. :) Best wishes to you and your daughter.
 
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