Need some advice & direction, please

[ItalianScallion]

My 18 y/o daughter dropped a bomb on me over Christmas. I am going to be a 42 y/o grandmother. Once I got over the disappointment & anger, I started to think about the reality of it. She has a decent job at a Dr. office, but has only been there a little over 2 months. She isn't eligible for health insurance for 90 days (the end of Jan.), hence, she has no insurance. She qualifies for the WIC program, which I told her she needs to do until she can get on her feet and survive with the added expense of having a child. Is there a state program that helps uninsured, YOUNG adults in this situation?
Of course, she wants to do this all on her own, but I want to make sure she is set up to be a good mother that can take care of herself as well as the baby.
Can someone please point me in the right direction, as to where she can go for assistance?
Thank you in advance

Possibly the Catherine foundation in Waldorf? 301 932 8811 at 3065 Old Washington Rd. :shrug:

 

[vbailey]

Just defending myself. I'm not here to argue - truce. By the way, my sister's daughter decided not to have her baby which was the best decision she could have made. Had she kept it, she would have been on food stamps, living who knows where and not knowing how to be a mom at 18. Right choice.

I am so thankful my daughter chose LIFE, It would have broken my heart if she had not, but she believes like I do that it is a life before birth at the time of conception...
My mother was only 15 when I was born, she had a lot of support from family, I nor she feels that I ruined her life because she chose Life for me....
Be careful what you say because choosing LIFE as been the greatest Joy for my mother, and my daughter as well as me being a Grandmother...
Unselfish people give LIFE and find the Greatest joy!!!!

 

[sunflower]

Life...

 

[checkingthenews]

I am so thankful my daughter chose LIFE, It would have broken my heart if she had not, but she believes like I do that it is a life before birth at the time of conception...
My mother was only 15 when I was born, she had a lot of support from family, I nor she feels that I ruined her life because she chose Life for me....
Be careful what you say because choosing LIFE as been the greatest Joy for my mother, and my daughter as well as me being a Grandmother...
Unselfish people give LIFE and find the Greatest joy!!!!

Everyones situation is different. I'm glad yours worked out for you.

 

[sockgirl77]

Contact Planned Parenthood. Maybe they can steer you in the right direction. You may also want gurl to see if she will qualify for insurance sooner due to "life changing event".

Most insurances treat pregnancy as a pre-existing condition and will not cover it.

 

[Christy]

I understand that you discussed options with your daughter but said the final decision was hers since she is 18....my thoughts are, 18 or not, I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option. Mainly because life is hard enough as it is, let alone being a mommy at 18.
Don't take this the wrong way, but that's what I would do taking into consideration her age. Now if she was maybe 23 or something, then yes, I probably wouln't try to change her mind but at 18, yes indeed I would do everything in my power to change her mind.

If it were my daughter I'd argue the opposite. I'd do my best to convince her not to abort the baby. I'm not fond of abortion, but it would ultimately be her decision. It's a very personal decision for everyone and it's just really retarded to think you know better what to do than the person that's actually in the situation.

JMO :shrug:

 

[nana]

Checking The News

I understand that you discussed options with your daughter but said the final decision was hers since she is 18....my thoughts are, 18 or not, I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option. Mainly because life is hard enough as it is, let alone being a mommy at 18.
Don't take this the wrong way, but that's what I would do taking into consideration her age. Now if she was maybe 23 or something, then yes, I probably wouln't try to change her mind but at 18, yes indeed I would do everything in my power to change her mind.

I cannot believe you had the gall to write something like this. I am sorry that you are so ignorant as to believe abortion is a form of birth control. Every woman has a right to make a decision but.. for you to say "I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option" where do you get that right??? Did she say it was a mistake did she say she did not want it? Maybe your niece is too stupid to take care of a child or to get the father involved in raising it or really just didn't want it. Maybe your niece is not emotionally ready to have a child that was her choice. I think if you don't want a child then don't open your legs however, if you open them be aware of the outcome and deal with maturly. You know nothing about this family and have not right to that comment.
Who are you? The grandmother while shocked is trying to help her daughter and grandchild not enlisting the help of people who think its right to destroy a living cell.(Is that politically correct wording?)

 

[checkingthenews]

I understand that you discussed options with your daughter but said the final decision was hers since she is 18....my thoughts are, 18 or not, I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option. Mainly because life is hard enough as it is, let alone being a mommy at 18.
Don't take this the wrong way, but that's what I would do taking into consideration her age. Now if she was maybe 23 or something, then yes, I probably wouln't try to change her mind but at 18, yes indeed I would do everything in my power to change her mind.

I cannot believe you had the gall to write something like this. I am sorry that you are so ignorant as to believe abortion is a form of birth control. Every woman has a right to make a decision but.. for you to say "I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option" where do you get that right??? Did she say it was a mistake did she say she did not want it? Maybe your niece is too stupid to take care of a child or to get the father involved in raising it or really just didn't want it. Maybe your niece is not emotionally ready to have a child that was her choice. I think if you don't want a child then don't open your legs however, if you open them be aware of the outcome and deal with maturly. You know nothing about this family and have not right to that comment.
Who are you? The grandmother while shocked is trying to help her daughter and grandchild not enlisting the help of people who think its right to destroy a living cell.(Is that politically correct wording?)

I never referred to it as a form of birth control so do not accuse me of something I did not say.

 

[vbailey]

Most insurances treat pregnancy as a pre-existing condition and will not cover it.

sssshhhh, don't tell anyone this, but when my hubby and I got married ( I was with child ) and his insurance picked me up and the pregnancy...after we were married....

 

[nana]

I never referred to it as a form of birth control so do not accuse me of something I did not say.

Forgive me if I mis-quoted you did you not say I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option" If that does not put abortion in the same catagory as Birth Control then where does it put it. And I did not accuse you of saying anything I quoted you I accused you of being ignorant if that helps.

 

[vbailey]

By the way, many have suffered from the pain of having an abortion for years after, mental as well as phsyical.....it is not the easy way out...it is a mistake and I would not suggest it at all as a way out...there are other options if you are not able to care for a child and adoption is a very unselfish a loving way to go....

 

[lovinmaryland]

my butt bone hurts I have no clue what I did to it

 

[camily]

Possibly the Catherine foundation in Waldorf? 301 932 8811 at 3065 Old Washington Rd. :shrug:

That's exactly what I was going to suggest. The administrator belongs to my church and is a great lady. Let me know if you need any help. Congratulations!

 

[nana]

I just want to make one thing clear. I did not intend to offend anyone. I responded to a quote that was made and gave my opion and only my opion.

Abortion is the right of every woman. However, my personal feeling is that it should not be used as a form of birth control. If you are not emotionally ready to have a child don't spread your freaking legs. Accidents happen and nothing is 100% but it is your choice to have sex and believe me there are many women out there who would love to chance to have that child that you so carelessly are throwing away. I am not trying to start a war but the comment just irked me

 

[SoMDGirl42]

IMO having a child is never easy, 18, 28, 38 whatever. It is a personal choice. Start a new thread if you want to discuss abortion opinions. She asked about isurance.

That is all.

 

[checkingthenews]

Forgive me if I mis-quoted you did you not say I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option" If that does not put abortion in the same catagory as Birth Control then where does it put it. And I did not accuse you of saying anything I quoted you I accused you of being ignorant if that helps.

Ignorant....I'm not here to argue with you, if you want to fight with someone, join a freaking boxing gym.

 

[checkingthenews]

I just want to make one thing clear. I did not intend to offend anyone. I responded to a quote that was made and gave my opion and only my opion.

Abortion is the right of every woman. However, my personal feeling is that it should not be used as a form of birth control. If you are not emotionally ready to have a child don't spread your freaking legs. Accidents happen and nothing is 100% but it is your choice to have sex and believe me there are many women out there who would love to chance to have that child that you so carelessly are throwing away. I am not trying to start a war but the comment just irked me

and I'm the one that irked you I suppose. we are all entitled to our opinions and to be clear, no, I do not think abortion is birth control....I have a problem with that too. So, I guess you disagree on abortion if a women is raped?, sorry but I disagree. Also, medical issues?, I have a family member with epilespy and she had to have one or it would have taken her life and the babies life....so it's not okay then either? See, all situations are different and like I said, I'm not here to agrue with you personally, I'm just stating my opinions also.

 

[sockgirl77]

By the way, many have suffered from the pain of having an abortion for years after, mental as well as phsyical.....it is not the easy way out...it is a mistake and I would not suggest it at all as a way out...there are other options if you are not able to care for a child and adoption is a very unselfish a loving way to go....

My cousin had an abortion and she was dancing at a club later the same day. :shrug:

 

[SShewbert]

Just defending myself. I'm not here to argue - truce. By the way, my sister's daughter decided not to have her baby which was the best decision she could have made. Had she kept it, she would have been on food stamps, living who knows where and not knowing how to be a mom at 18. Right choice.

Just wondering why her not having the baby was the best decision she could have made? She could have had the baby but not kept it and still would not have worried about being a mom at 18. There are plenty of people that are out here wanting kids and can not have them. And what is so awful with having kids that young? Life is always going to be hard no matter what age you are when you have kids.

 

[Jeff]

My 18 y/o daughter dropped a bomb on me over Christmas. I am going to be a 42 y/o grandmother. Once I got over the disappointment & anger, I started to think about the reality of it. She has a decent job at a Dr. office, but has only been there a little over 2 months. She isn't eligible for health insurance for 90 days (the end of Jan.), hence, she has no insurance. She qualifies for the WIC program, which I told her she needs to do until she can get on her feet and survive with the added expense of having a child. Is there a state program that helps uninsured, YOUNG adults in this situation?
Of course, she wants to do this all on her own, but I want to make sure she is set up to be a good mother that can take care of herself as well as the baby.
Can someone please point me in the right direction, as to where she can go for assistance?
Thank you in advance

My next door neighbor volunteers with the Crisis Pregnancy Center. I bet they would be able to help steer her in the right direction for assistance.