Need some advice & direction, please

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preciousness

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Thank You

to all the wonderful people in SoMd.
I appreciate the kind words of encouragement and the advice & directions that were sent. Thanks again, and Happy New Year to you all.
 
nachomama

nachomama

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preciousness said:
to all the wonderful people in SoMd.
I appreciate the kind words of encouragement and the advice & directions that were sent. Thanks again, and Happy New Year to you all.
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Best of luck to you all. Now we expect to see baby pics in August, ya hear me!!!
 
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checkingthenews

C'mon...Smile!
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nachomama said:
Best of luck to you all. Now we expect to see baby pics in August, ya hear me!!![/QUOTE

I understand that you discussed options with your daughter but said the final decision was hers since she is 18....my thoughts are, 18 or not, I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option. Mainly because life is hard enough as it is, let alone being a mommy at 18.
Don't take this the wrong way, but that's what I would do taking into consideration her age. Now if she was maybe 23 or something, then yes, I probably wouln't try to change her mind but at 18, yes indeed I would do everything in my power to change her mind.
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nachomama

nachomama

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checkingthenews said:
I understand that you discussed options with your daughter but said the final decision was hers since she is 18....my thoughts are, 18 or not, I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option. Mainly because life is hard enough as it is, let alone being a mommy at 18.
Don't take this the wrong way, but that's what I would do taking into consideration her age. Now if she was maybe 23 or something, then yes, I probably wouln't try to change her mind but at 18, yes indeed I would do everything in my power to change her mind.
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#1 For the record - It's not my daughter.
#2 She is the mother of an 18 year old; I think the ultimate decision rests between her and her daughter, and we need to stay out of it. She came on here asking for advice about medical insurance - not how we thought she should handle the situation.
#3 You are treading into very emotional waters right now...Proceed with caution.
 
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kris31280

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preciousness said:
My 18 y/o daughter dropped a bomb on me over Christmas. I am going to be a 42 y/o grandmother. Once I got over the disappointment & anger, I started to think about the reality of it. She has a decent job at a Dr. office, but has only been there a little over 2 months. She isn't eligible for health insurance for 90 days (the end of Jan.), hence, she has no insurance. She qualifies for the WIC program, which I told her she needs to do until she can get on her feet and survive with the added expense of having a child. Is there a state program that helps uninsured, YOUNG adults in this situation?
Of course, she wants to do this all on her own, but I want to make sure she is set up to be a good mother that can take care of herself as well as the baby.
Can someone please point me in the right direction, as to where she can go for assistance?
Thank you in advance
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Pregnant women can usually get on medical assistance if they don't have health insurance.
 
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checkingthenews

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nachomama said:
checkingthenews said:
#1 For the record - It's not my daughter.
#2 She is the mother of an 18 year old; I think the ultimate decision rests between her and her daughter, and we need to stay out of it. She came on here asking for advice about medical insurance - not how we thought she should handle the situation.
#3 You are treading into very emotional waters right now...Proceed with caution.
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I was not saying it was YOUR daughter - thank you. and yes, it is that family's decision and only that family. Was just hoping that all sides of the coin were looked at that's all. Don't tell me about the emotional waters. Not that it is any of your freaking business but the same exact thing happened to my sisters daughter last year.
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nachomama

nachomama

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checkingthenews said:
I was not saying it was YOUR daughter - thank you. and yes, it is that family's decision and only that family. Was just hoping that all sides of the coin were looked at that's all. Don't tell me about the emotional waters. Not that it is any of your freaking business but the same exact thing happened to my sisters daughter last year.
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You quoted my quote. :shrug: No need to get nasty, but I'm sure they probably have weighed all of their options and decided on what was best for them. And you're right, your family issues are none of my freaking business.
 
Cowgirl

Cowgirl

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checkingthenews said:
I was not saying it was YOUR daughter - thank you. and yes, it is that family's decision and only that family. Was just hoping that all sides of the coin were looked at that's all. Don't tell me about the emotional waters. Not that it is any of your freaking business but the same exact thing happened to my sisters daughter last year.
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:lmao: I love when people say that. You don't HAVE to divulge information unless you choose to. :lol:
 
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checkingthenews

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nachomama said:
You quoted my quote. :shrug: No need to get nasty, but I'm sure they probably have weighed all of their options and decided on what was best for them. And you're right, your family issues are none of my freaking business.
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Just defending myself. I'm not here to argue - truce. By the way, my sister's daughter decided not to have her baby which was the best decision she could have made. Had she kept it, she would have been on food stamps, living who knows where and not knowing how to be a mom at 18. Right choice.
 
sunflower

sunflower

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checkingthenews said:
I was not saying it was YOUR daughter - thank you. and yes, it is that family's decision and only that family. Was just hoping that all sides of the coin were looked at that's all. Don't tell me about the emotional waters. Not that it is any of your freaking business but the same exact thing happened to my sisters daughter last year.
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You just made it our business by posting :yawn:

Its not quoting the right person...
 
SoMDGirl42

SoMDGirl42

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I was younger when my daughter made me a grandmother. If she can't qualify for medical assistance, take her to the health department. She can qualify for their program. Good luck, it could always be worse, just keep that in mind.
 
nachomama

nachomama

All Up In Your Grill
checkingthenews said:
Just defending myself. I'm not here to argue - truce. By the way, my sister's daughter decided not to have her baby which was the best decision she could have made. Had she kept it, she would have been on food stamps, living who knows where and not knowing how to be a mom at 18. Right choice.
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No prob. :huggy:
 
nachomama

nachomama

All Up In Your Grill
SoMDGirl42 said:
I was younger when my daughter made me a grandmother. If she can't qualify for medical assistance, take her to the health department. She can qualify for their program. Good luck, it could always be worse, just keep that in mind.
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My mom was younger than that when I made her a grandma too. :blushing:
 
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