Need some advice & direction, please

sk8enscars

New Member
Congratulations! My mom became a grandmother at 33 (not because of me...)... My mother-in-law is the WIC coordinator for So.MD. I'll ask her tonight if she has other suggestions not listed here.
 

sweetprincess23

New Member
not sure what county you are in but this is how it is done in St.Marys...

She can go to social services on Mon, Wed, and Friday from 8-11am and apply for state insurance. I would advise getting there at 7:45 and wait at the door or else she will be there all day. She will need b/c, ss card, last 4 paystubs, (my mind went blank on what else she might need, check the website). Sounds like she probably qualifies. This insurance includes medical, dental and prescription at no cost with no deductible or copays.

She can also go to the health dept. any day or time and apply for the insurance. In the end it is the same insurance. The health dept. will also set up a wic appt. if she wants it.

state insurances don't do the pre-existing thing.

Good luck and no matter what give your daughter your support. My mother did not and it was very tough on me.
 
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Wenchy

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not sure what county you are in but this is how it is done in St.Marys...

She can go to social services on Mon, Wed, and Friday from 8-11am and apply for state insurance. I would advise getting there at 7:45 and wait at the door or else she will be there all day. She will need b/c, ss card, last 4 paystubs, (my mind went blank on what else she might need, check the website). Sounds like she probably qualifies. This insurance includes medical, dental and prescription at no cost with no deductible or copays.

She can also go to the health dept. any day or time and apply for the insurance. In the end it is the same insurance. The health dept. will also set up a wic appt. if she wants it.

state insurances don't do the pre-existing thing.

Good luck and no matter what give your daughter your support. My mother did not and it was very tough on me.

Wicomico County was the same. I went to the health department and social services was also there. I was working full-time but had no insurance.

Medical Assistance (state) covered the delivery and hospital stay 100%. I went right back to work after the birth and didn't do the WIC thing but was so grateful for what the state provided. WIC was there if I needed it, but I didn't.
 

BlissfulJumper

Equestrian :)
Best of luck to you all. Now we expect to see baby pics in August, ya hear me!!![/QUOTE

I understand that you discussed options with your daughter but said the final decision was hers since she is 18....my thoughts are, 18 or not, I think I would do my best to persuade her not to have it and to choose another option. Mainly because life is hard enough as it is, let alone being a mommy at 18.
Don't take this the wrong way, but that's what I would do taking into consideration her age. Now if she was maybe 23 or something, then yes, I probably wouln't try to change her mind but at 18, yes indeed I would do everything in my power to change her mind.



Before I start this is JMO.. I'm 17 and IF I was pregnant I would never abort. It would not be an option. I am pro-choice but I only believe in abortion for people who are raped and whatnot. If a person thinks they are mature enough to have intercourse then they had to deal with the consequences no matter the age. Aborting like others have said can be mental and physical health concerns. could you imagine aborting a baby at 18 and then when someone asks you if you have kids you say no and can't stop thinking about how you could have and you pretty much killed someone cause you didn't want the responsiblity and you were selfish and just wanted to have the fun it involved.It would kill me everyday if it was me. That's JMO

In other thoughts, presiousness, I'm glad your daughter chose life and I hope she has a beautiful, healthy baby and that they have a wonderful, success life together!
 

sockgirl77

Well-Known Member
Congratulations! My mom became a grandmother at 33 (not because of me...)... My mother-in-law is the WIC coordinator for So.MD. I'll ask her tonight if she has other suggestions not listed here.

:jet: I do see the possibility though. My BFF is high school is 31 now and has a 15 year old daughter. It's definitely possible but eff that.
 

Sonsie

The mighty Al-Sonsie!
:jet: I do see the possibility though. My BFF is high school is 31 now and has a 15 year old daughter. It's definitely possible but eff that.

My 1st cousin had her daughter at 17 her senior year. Her daughter delivered her granddaughter at 16. The apple didn't fall far from the tree unfortunately...
 

mamissa3

New Member
The pregnancy care center past gate 2 can help out with a direction. My sister went there when she was 17 and had a baby) good luck with everything!
 

preciousness

New Member
IMO having a child is never easy, 18, 28, 38 whatever. It is a personal choice. Start a new thread if you want to discuss abortion opinions. She asked about isurance.

That is all.

My sentiments, exactly. I've gotten the advice I was looking for, and we are following it. Now, it's getting to be a battle about options. She IS having the baby, and we are going to love her and the baby til the end of time. I just needed some direction, for my daughter. I appreciate everyone's help.
 

preciousness

New Member
Before I start this is JMO.. I'm 17 and IF I was pregnant I would never abort. It would not be an option. I am pro-choice but I only believe in abortion for people who are raped and whatnot. If a person thinks they are mature enough to have intercourse then they had to deal with the consequences no matter the age. Aborting like others have said can be mental and physical health concerns. could you imagine aborting a baby at 18 and then when someone asks you if you have kids you say no and can't stop thinking about how you could have and you pretty much killed someone cause you didn't want the responsiblity and you were selfish and just wanted to have the fun it involved.It would kill me everyday if it was me. That's JMO

In other thoughts, presiousness, I'm glad your daughter chose life and I hope she has a beautiful, healthy baby and that they have a wonderful, success life together!

You sound like a very smart 17 year old. Thank you for your well wishes.
 

HeadCase

IT's ALL RED
Yes start with Social Services or the Health Dept and they will tell her where she needs to go for WIC, MD Medical assistance, Section 8 and the MD Intependence card (or whatever it's called now). The important thing is to start now so she's in the "system" before the baby comes.

Also, she may be eligable for some kind of tuition assistance. Tell her to look into that as well. It doesn't hurt to ask because I know a couple of women that the county paid for their schooling and the state paid for their college.

There is also "van pools" (not sure what they call it) but it will pick her up and bring her to her Dr appts if she doesn't have a car.

Good luck and keep in mind that it's ok to make a mistake...its not like it's the end of the world.... It's how you handle it and move on from there that matters.

I was in that same situation many MANY years ago and having my daughter gave me a stronger spine to get out/off welfare and do something big.

And I did...

It'll be ok:huggy:
 

preciousness

New Member
Yes start with Social Services or the Health Dept and they will tell her where she needs to go for WIC, MD Medical assistance, Section 8 and the MD Intependence card (or whatever it's called now). The important thing is to start now so she's in the "system" before the baby comes.

Also, she may be eligable for some kind of tuition assistance. Tell her to look into that as well. It doesn't hurt to ask because I know a couple of women that the county paid for their schooling and the state paid for their college.

There is also "van pools" (not sure what they call it) but it will pick her up and bring her to her Dr appts if she doesn't have a car.

Good luck and keep in mind that it's ok to make a mistake...its not like it's the end of the world.... It's how you handle it and move on from there that matters.

I was in that same situation many MANY years ago and having my daughter gave me a stronger spine to get out/off welfare and do something big.

And I did...

It'll be ok:huggy:

Thank you for your post. We are going on Thursday to fill out the paperwork and see what she qualifies for, so she'll get the ball rolling well in advance.
I appreciate your information.
 

LadyWolf

New Member
Just defending myself. I'm not here to argue - truce. By the way, my sister's daughter decided not to have her baby which was the best decision she could have made. Had she kept it, she would have been on food stamps, living who knows where and not knowing how to be a mom at 18. Right choice.

Well, it was a good choice to not be a mother but perhaps giving it up for adoption would have been a better choice. Lots of childless couples out there who can't have children and would love to be parents that can actually provide more than a single mother with nothing to offer. The mother is still giving the gift of life, but also not being selfish to the child by keeping it and having nothing to offer this child. It's in the best interest of the child...not the parent. Just food for thought!!
 
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preciousness

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Strikes me funny, how "off track" everyone can get. My daughter IS having her baby, with all the love & moral support her family can give her. Her boyfried IS in the picture and they are looking for a place to rent, so they can be together during this memorable time. It's unfortunate that they are so young, but I know that they will be fine and the baby will be very loved & well taken care of. No abortion, No adoption!! End of subject, PLEASE !!!
I asked for advice on where to go for her to receive assistance, and I received what I was looking for.
I think those wanting to talk about choices should start a new thread. Her decision has been made, since day 1.
 

SouthernMdRocks

R.I.P. Bobo, We miss you!
Strikes me funny, how "off track" everyone can get. My daughter IS having her baby, with all the love & moral support her family can give her. Her boyfried IS in the picture and they are looking for a place to rent, so they can be together during this memorable time. It's unfortunate that they are so young, but I know that they will be fine and the baby will be very loved & well taken care of. No abortion, No adoption!! End of subject, PLEASE !!!
I asked for advice on where to go for her to receive assistance, and I received what I was looking for.
I think those wanting to talk about choices should start a new thread. Her decision has been made, since day 1.

Good for her that she has made her decision, it is much easier when you have a family support network, as she does. Congrats!! Becoming a single mom can motivate some people towards a brighter future because now, it's no longer about yourself!!
 

vbailey

vbailey
Strikes me funny, how "off track" everyone can get. My daughter IS having her baby, with all the love & moral support her family can give her. Her boyfried IS in the picture and they are looking for a place to rent, so they can be together during this memorable time. It's unfortunate that they are so young, but I know that they will be fine and the baby will be very loved & well taken care of. No abortion, No adoption!! End of subject, PLEASE !!!
I asked for advice on where to go for her to receive assistance, and I received what I was looking for.
I think those wanting to talk about choices should start a new thread. Her decision has been made, since day 1.

Don't forget to check out Carenet...they also have support groups for new young mothers as well as young fathers....they are free and a great way for your daughter and the baby's father to make friends with other young couples that are also learning to be new teen parents as well....
 

preciousness

New Member
Don't forget to check out Carenet...they also have support groups for new young mothers as well as young fathers....they are free and a great way for your daughter and the baby's father to make friends with other young couples that are also learning to be new teen parents as well....


We're planning on going there Thursday to get her signed up for the Mom to Mom program. Sounds like it is a great program and she'll have outside support. She needs all she can get.
Thanks
 

lbreder

2into4
and I'm the one that irked you I suppose. we are all entitled to our opinions and to be clear, no, I do not think abortion is birth control....I have a problem with that too. So, I guess you disagree on abortion if a women is raped?, sorry but I disagree. Also, medical issues?, I have a family member with epilespy and she had to have one or it would have taken her life and the babies life....so it's not okay then either? See, all situations are different and like I said, I'm not here to agrue with you personally, I'm just stating my opinions also.

Ok, this quote REALLY bothers me. A baby is a baby and doesnt get asked to be born into this world. The whole problem I have is you saying a baby with medical conditions. That makes it sound like its ok to use as "birth control". I had a son with a serious medical condition. Do you think I should have aborted him? Not once has that ever crossed my mind and I dont believe in abortion. I would rather fight my hardest battle to make his life as good as possible instead of saying "Oh well maybe the next one will be normal". Anyone who has a baby has to understand things happen for a reason and I was given my son with his medical condition for a reason. I was 19 when I had him flown out 6 hours later to have open heart surgery. He is now 10 years old and everyday I thank God for him and I wouldnt take back what we've been through. When you become a parent its not about you anymore its now about the child growing inside you.
 

HeadCase

IT's ALL RED
Ok, this quote REALLY bothers me. A baby is a baby and doesnt get asked to be born into this world. The whole problem I have is you saying a baby with medical conditions. That makes it sound like its ok to use as "birth control". I had a son with a serious medical condition. Do you think I should have aborted him? Not once has that ever crossed my mind and I dont believe in abortion. I would rather fight my hardest battle to make his life as good as possible instead of saying "Oh well maybe the next one will be normal". Anyone who has a baby has to understand things happen for a reason and I was given my son with his medical condition for a reason. I was 19 when I had him flown out 6 hours later to have open heart surgery. He is now 10 years old and everyday I thank God for him and I wouldnt take back what we've been through. When you become a parent its not about you anymore its now about the child growing inside you.

With all due respect ... that is why it's a "choice" and is legal. I'm very happy and appreciative of all the efforts you've given to your child but this thread swerved WAY high and left.

I will put my "nuts on the line" and tell you face/face without a keyboard to hide behind that if the doctor told me when I was pregnant that there was no doubt the child would be severely handicapped...I'd abort.

There, I said it and still stand behind it.

I know my shortcomings and it was hard enough as a young person having a healthy baby without complicating matters.

God Bless you for your efforts, you are a stronger woman than me but don't condemn me when I have a "choice".

I'm not an uneducated, underprivileged person...I have my own mind and I HATE when someone tries to stuff their opinion down my throat and infer that I'm a bad person for having an opinion opposite of theirs.

Again, I wish you and your family blessings, health, happiness and good luck but don't point your finger at anyone for having an opinion.
 
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