Larry Gude
Strung Out
Already using fishing references?
"Where's the good fishin' holes around here?"
Off to a great start...
- Thread starter Larry Gude
- Start date
"Where's the good fishin' holes around here?"
Radiant1
Soul Probe
They're 90 minutes away.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Hear that? Listen....
It's the sound of nothin' going on.
A dry hole? As it were?
It's the sound of nothin' going on.
A dry hole? As it were?
1 hand clapping
I'm scared to think about the other hand....
Hank
my war
Larry Gude
Strung Out
acommondisaster
Active Member
So that means the second best first date has turned into the second best first date that only lasted two dates?
Hank
my war
mamatutu
mama to two
I told Larry at the beginning of this thread that he was brave for posting his personal life. For that he does deserve a hug.
Serious.
So now he has to tell us what happened. The silence could mean that he's been busy burning the sheets with this woman, or it could mean the firecracker was a dud. Enquiring minds want to know.
mamatutu
mama to two
For the life of me, I will never understand your relationship with your x, Larry. Y'all kid around on this forum and even Monello gets involved. It is pretty cool. I could never do that. I do have a decent relationship with the father of my children's new wife. As she says, if it weren't for Dennis, we would be best friends. I never comment on that comment.
But, y'all's relationship seems to be very modern, or something like that. More power to y'all! 
Larry Gude
Strung Out
No. The second best first date became a dud of a second date and fizzled out. The first date of late, a new first date, was great and the second date of that was fine BUT there were concerns, again, about chemistry, which was the concern with the second best first date that fizzled on the second date due, I think, to lack of chemical attraction. So, this new first date, while not being particularly noteworthy on the all time scale but, totally acceptable as first dates go, above average actually, the second date was also good but, having slept together in a fashion more befitting of year 7 of a marriage, chemistry, I think, has yet again come into play. Or not, as the case may be.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
There's no there there. That 'silence' reference I made was an update that nothing is happening. We've talked, fine conversation, I inquired as to when I get to see here again, I got what I took as an interested replay, a few texts, but, nothing much happening. Now, I am, for sure, not pressing because I am pondering the chemistry thing again.
On top of that, I recently bumped into someone via work who I'd met before, a year ago, and got no 'bzzzzzt' from, at all and haven't given her even a thought, but now, two weeks ago, a meeting environment I felt myself trying to snag inappropriate glances as we, several other people, walked about, and I didn't get any dirty glances in return. Nothing too overt like second grade in the library when I got sent to the office for getting down on my hands and knees and looking up a classmates skirt and sent to the office but, that sort of friendly thing. The 'hmmmm' thing.
Then, the other day, saw her again on her turf and it was interaction, but, I was feeling IT, big time, and I think she was, too. The eye contact was focused. Can't be messing up the business relationship part so, I'll take this nice and easy and I don't know squat about her so, asking her out at her office is probably a bit too forward for now. But, I realize that my interest in D is casual, at best, as I suspect hers is in me.
So, now, as far as chemistry goes, I dunno but, I don't see how it can't matter.
acommondisaster
Active Member
Is it you having the chemistry issues in each case? Because maybe you're at an age where ummm....chemistry.....isn't instantaneous anymore. Maybe it's low T? Hey, I'm being serious here. I know for a fact that I found WAY more guys attractive when I was 17 than I do now.
So did I but I'm a lot pickier now.
I'm a big believer in chemistry and I think it happens within a date or two. I dated a guy a couple years ago and had hoped he might be "the guy" but after 3 weeks I put the relationship out of its misery. Which is too bad because he was wildly attractive and had a lot going for him, but...no chemistry. We didn't have much to talk about and conversation was awkward, we didn't have any similar interests, our senses of humor were miles apart, just wasn't happening.
Contrast that with Monello, where we clicked right away and it felt right. We were comfortable and compatible.
:shrug:
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Nope. Every 'attractive' relationship I've ever had, from Tina Callahan in 9th grade on, had 'chemistry' that magic something where you 'click', you're attracted, you 'hit it off'. Now, a good part of it is psychological but, that can't over come not being attracted to one another chemically and visually and compatability-wise. By the same token, chemistry alone isn't enough.
Now, having said that, it can be said that I am a lot pickier but, that is not accurate. It is better said that I know what I like much clear-er and I am a lot less interested in compromise for the sake of a relationship. Wouldn't be fair to her or me and just getting laid is not the be all, end all it was 35 years ago. I am not interested in climbing in bed with some woman whose mind, body and soul I don't find attractive. Good sex, great sex, for me, has always come from that magic thing that can only come from familiarity and growing intimacy. I can't even do one night strands let alone have any interest in them. To me, the attraction is in the knowing AND LIKING, being attracted to, her.
So, because the rest of my life is freaking awesome right now, the very idea of being in a relationship and sacrificing ANY of that for someone I'm not attracted to mentally, physically, psychologically and chemically isn't of interest.
By the same token, it's been so long now, I probably wouldn't remember what to do with it if she fell into my lap.