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Larry Gude
Strung Out
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Good point.
See, sent no real signals, other than dry humping her leg as we walked downtown Frederick but, that was more for her benefit than mine as Frederick is very dog friendly and, if someone isn't humping your leg, someone soon will be.
I think we're good. Our texting today was normal 'all systems go' stuff. How is your day? Whatcha doing for dinner? Wanna screw? All that sort of stuff...
Radiant1
Soul Probe
Hell, just listening to Larry's dating experience is exhausting!
Larry, for Christ's sake stop thinking too much. I have a feeling you even over analyzed the crap you took today. Enough already!
acommondisaster
Active Member
GEEZUS - are ya'll in middle school? OMGZERZ!!!!!!1111
She lives 90 minutes away and they had a full weekend planned - that means if they don't seal the deal on the SECOND TIME they've spent a few hours together that she doesn't wanna pass notes to him in study hall anymore?!? Personally, I had some kind of CRAZY notion that there was a different level of maturity here. There are other ways to let someone know you're into them and want to know more about them and really really dig them than hopping in the sack. Once there's sex, sex becomes part of the focus and the desire to discover more about each other changes. The chase itself can be, and make each other, very attractive.
She lives 90 minutes away and they had a full weekend planned - that means if they don't seal the deal on the SECOND TIME they've spent a few hours together that she doesn't wanna pass notes to him in study hall anymore?!? Personally, I had some kind of CRAZY notion that there was a different level of maturity here. There are other ways to let someone know you're into them and want to know more about them and really really dig them than hopping in the sack. Once there's sex, sex becomes part of the focus and the desire to discover more about each other changes. The chase itself can be, and make each other, very attractive.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Hell, just listening to Larry's dating experience is exhausting!
Larry, for Christ's sake stop thinking too much. I have a feeling you even over analyzed the crap you took today. Enough already!
Larry Gude
Strung Out
That has not been my experience. #1, the chase sucks. Some people like those games and good for them but, if it takes a chase to make someone attractive, what happens when they get caught?
#2, all of my major relationships started out with extensive communication before the first official date took place. By then sexual compatibility was the only thing of importance left to discover. Once it's established that you can have an intimacy with this person, you can lay in bed later and talk about your favorite color and crappy childhood. People don't typically drop their company manners until the relationship has been firmly established anyway, so it's not like it's feasible to really *know* someone before you sex them up. Unless you wait to throw down on your 5th wedding anniversary, and even that's iffy unless you can somehow manage to have and raise children without benefit of sex.
#3, I've mentioned that Monello and I got serious right away. Larry and I did, as well. You either click or you don't. If you're not clicking, that's okay - you can still date casually as long as everyone knows what's going on. But if you click, why waste time playing silly chase games? Why not acknowledge the click and start your relationship?
There are couples for whom sex and passion isn't important, and they have a highly functioning marriage with common goals and warm companionship. Good for them! Knowing Larry and his proclivities, though, girlfriend better be putting out soon or he should move on.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Well put and that was what was rattling around in my brain that I couldn't put my finger on; D and I don't know each other well yet. Communication has been great but, again, very, very new.
Hmmm...
Vince
......
Hell, just listening to Larry's dating experience is exhausting!
Larry, for Christ's sake stop thinking too much. I have a feeling you even over analyzed the crap you took today. Enough already!
But then, at least he's dating.
kwillia
n/a
And this is my perspective. It's not like you two have been dating for long at all and nothing is happening. Some women need to get a sense of who the man is before they bed him. Some look at dating as a way to figure out if he's someone you want to sex up and some look at sex as a way to figure out if he's someone you want to date. Neither is wrong because not all women think the same.
Hank
my war
We should submit this thread to Tiger Beat.
At the end of the day it boils down to: if you like her and have a good time, keep seeing her but don't stop sampling the buffet just yet.
PS, I enjoy the overanalyzing. It's not so fun when I do it myself, but if someone else wants to do it I'm right there with 'em.
Relationships and the people who try to be in them are fascinating and I'm enjoying this thread much more than some political rant blah blah blah.
PS, I enjoy the overanalyzing. It's not so fun when I do it myself, but if someone else wants to do it I'm right there with 'em.
Relationships and the people who try to be in them are fascinating and I'm enjoying this thread much more than some political rant blah blah blah.
BadGirl
I am so very blessed
Did you forget a comma or sumpin', huh?????
There certainly is a HUGE difference between:
Dating Larry is like a job. An EXHAUSTING job.
and
Dating, Larry, is like a job. An EXHAUSTING job.
Which viewpoint was the one that I was going for?
Radiant1
Soul Probe
At the end of the day it boils down to: if you like her and have a good time, keep seeing her but don't stop sampling the buffet just yet.
PS, I enjoy the overanalyzing. It's not so fun when I do it myself, but if someone else wants to do it I'm right there with 'em.
I usually do but in this case I find it cringeworthy; however, that may be because my analysis focuses more on why Larry is making this public (regardless of his stated motivation). I think there's a bigger picture here, but I'll refrain from commenting on that.
You're overanalyzing this
Larry has a long history on this forum of oversharing and navel gazing - it's what he does. He has just ended a long term relationship and is in the dating pool again after 2+ years of nut scratching complacency. His last boo, they didn't do that getting to know you dating thing because he'd known her for quite some time. So he is seriously asking for other opinions.That and he just likes to make threads that are interesting and get some play.
Radiant1
Soul Probe
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Larry Gude
Strung Out
The WHY is because of Vria's post; she's enjoying this as a conversation and I know that because I know here. Plus, it is a hoot to make people I know and like shake their head at me (Kwill, BG) in addition to the fun I am having (which is where I should start, this IS fun to me). And it isn't about Vrai per se because I could type her responses for me. She simply serves as a sort of subject matter catalyst to help the conversation along and help give it some credibility as, frankly, this is the sort of thread I would enjoy reading even if it was not about me in particular.
We humans are a fascinating bunch and relationships are a huge part of that and I happen to be in a position in my life where my priorities, work and the band, allow me to maintain perspective on any relationship I might pursue and how to go about it in light of 3 divorces and the end of a recent LTR with a gal who I had hoped to grow old with.
So, I'm happy to be a social studies project and welcome comment and input.
