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Pete
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Ok, I found it............
Manhandbook, section 24, chapter 6, para 71, sub para 3:
"Never, never actually apologize. Use gifts and/or LOVE cards to show feelings of remorse for the disagreeement.
Sub para 4:
If in a post argument discussion in which the fault is totally yours and weaseling is not an option, grunt words sounding like "I'm sorry" IE: "Im hungry" in a manner that it will be mistaken for "I'm sorry".
Manhandbook, section 24, chapter 6, para 71, sub para 3:
"Never, never actually apologize. Use gifts and/or LOVE cards to show feelings of remorse for the disagreeement.
Sub para 4:
If in a post argument discussion in which the fault is totally yours and weaseling is not an option, grunt words sounding like "I'm sorry" IE: "Im hungry" in a manner that it will be mistaken for "I'm sorry".
I'm stunned that no one wants to know what I got! I thought for sure one of you would get on and say, "Depends - what was the present?"
JabbaJawz
Be about it
Originally posted by vraiblonde
I'm stunned that no one wants to know what I got! I thought for sure one of you would get on and say, "Depends - what was the present?"
We thought it was hypothetical - therefore assuming the gift wasn't actually real!! Now that we know for sure it's YOU...fess up!! Whad'ya get?!?! Anything good??
Gorilla Dog! The Safeway has these enormous stuffed animals and I fell in love with this gorilla dog. I've wanted him for months but it's one of those stupid things you'd never buy yourself. It's been a running joke with the Safeway ladies that I have to hug this gorilla dog every time I go in the store.
JabbaJawz
Be about it
Normallys I'd think a gorilla dog was a hokey gift, but in this instance you wanted him for a while, so it's a super sweet gift. Plus....he remembered and thought about that before buying you something else - which makes it a definite, "I'm sorry" replacement!
So, uh....did you forgive him, or not!? Did gorilla dog do the trick?
What about Bob?
New Member
Hmmmmm, has anybody even noticed that this is one sided?? It was his fault. I'd like to hear it from the horse. Sorry to be a stick in the mud, I'd like to talk to the fly on the wall!!
I think he did apologize. I hate it when people tell me how I have to apologize before they'll accept it. Words are cheap. He made an effort.
You can even USE the words "I'm sorry, I was wrong, I apologize" and some folks still will tell you "not convinced, you'll have to do better".
I think if you insist on more means you don't want an apology, you want proof you WON the argument. To me, an apology is saying that you are more important than the outcome of an argument. Let it go. Life really IS too short. Try to imagine how trivial this would be to you if he were gone tomorrow.
You can even USE the words "I'm sorry, I was wrong, I apologize" and some folks still will tell you "not convinced, you'll have to do better".
I think if you insist on more means you don't want an apology, you want proof you WON the argument. To me, an apology is saying that you are more important than the outcome of an argument. Let it go. Life really IS too short. Try to imagine how trivial this would be to you if he were gone tomorrow.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
I LOVE...
...hypothetical questions. It doesn't matter what I say because there is no way I can get in trouble for merely having an opinion!
MY thoughts on the test case at issue:
ENTIRELY his fault??? My daddy always said "...it takes two to tango...and if you find a box of chocolates, eat them %uckers before anybody else knows you got 'em..."
It seems to me that the dynamics of intimate human relations oft manifest themselves in mysterious, intriguing ways.
For instance, what if our hero had made no peace offering, say left a flaming paper bag full of #### instead? What would THAT say? Fairly thoughtful yes, but not particularly endearing.
Perhaps this fine fellow is, err, could be, merely a man of action and not words? A "Superman' if you will.
What if the poor chap is mute and has no other means of communicating save gestures and tokens of affection?
I would postulate that whatever the particulars of this given hypothesis, that the memory of this little set to will tend towards the warm and fuzzy rather than thoughts of a few words, no matter how well chosen.
Besides, if a man extracts himself from a minefield the same way all the time, oh, how boring. Hypothetically speaking of course.
It seems most of the fine people in this thread are very intelligent, bright, perceptive and just plain good people with common sense save for perhaps this "Mean Queen" person who is a known golf club kisser and non-gender specific mechanical animal rider and I think we can all agree that those are disqualifying habits in most of the original 13 colonies and some 66% of the one third of the earth not actually under water.
Implausible, but a great scenario anyway! No one could be lucky enough to have guy like that.
...hypothetical questions. It doesn't matter what I say because there is no way I can get in trouble for merely having an opinion!
MY thoughts on the test case at issue:
ENTIRELY his fault??? My daddy always said "...it takes two to tango...and if you find a box of chocolates, eat them %uckers before anybody else knows you got 'em..."
It seems to me that the dynamics of intimate human relations oft manifest themselves in mysterious, intriguing ways.
For instance, what if our hero had made no peace offering, say left a flaming paper bag full of #### instead? What would THAT say? Fairly thoughtful yes, but not particularly endearing.
Perhaps this fine fellow is, err, could be, merely a man of action and not words? A "Superman' if you will.
What if the poor chap is mute and has no other means of communicating save gestures and tokens of affection?
I would postulate that whatever the particulars of this given hypothesis, that the memory of this little set to will tend towards the warm and fuzzy rather than thoughts of a few words, no matter how well chosen.
Besides, if a man extracts himself from a minefield the same way all the time, oh, how boring. Hypothetically speaking of course.
It seems most of the fine people in this thread are very intelligent, bright, perceptive and just plain good people with common sense save for perhaps this "Mean Queen" person who is a known golf club kisser and non-gender specific mechanical animal rider and I think we can all agree that those are disqualifying habits in most of the original 13 colonies and some 66% of the one third of the earth not actually under water.
Implausible, but a great scenario anyway! No one could be lucky enough to have guy like that.
Well. I had a shrink once tell me that an apology is a promise - a promise not to do the offending act again. Giving one a gift is not an apology (i.e., a promise). It is merely an attempt (like make-up sex) to divert attention away from the offending act and hope that you'll never have to make (or live up to) that promise.
*humpf*
And Cari, you quit laughing at him!!!!!
lol
*humpf*
And Cari, you quit laughing at him!!!!!
lol
So air the dirty laundry.Originally posted by vraiblonde
Well. I had a shrink once tell me that an apology is a promise - a promise not to do the offending act again. Giving one a gift is not an apology (i.e., a promise). It is merely an attempt (like make-up sex) to divert attention away from the offending act and hope that you'll never have to make (or live up to) that promise.
*humpf*
And Cari, you quit laughing at him!!!!!
What was the arguement about? Tell us, please. Pixie does.
Yes. I might need a weapon.
M
metoo
Guest
Some rethinking may be necessary...
Chances are pretty good that the woman is the one who's wrong at any given time.
Ask HIM for forgiveness.
Chances are pretty good that the woman is the one who's wrong at any given time.
Ask HIM for forgiveness.