My (23F) boyfriend (25M) and I have been dating for four months now, and he has introduced me recently to a hobby he has always kept a secret from his friends, which is being a furry. When he first told me, I tried to get rid of the prejudice I had against furries and understand him. I have liked him since day one when mutual friends introduced us, so I didn't see why it should be a deal breaker.
He's very close to his brother, who has a full fursuit and goes to cons, and my bf now wants to do the same. He wants to spend around 4000€ on a fursuit when he's struggling to buy his own car, which I told him I find a bit idiotic and that I don't like that he has his priorities so mixed. I have grown in an environment of reckless spending and I told him I don't want to forge a long term relationship where priorities aren't straight. He said he understands that and that I made him realise his childish priorities. I felt a bit bad about making him change his priorities if that is something so important.
Prejudice againts furries is something I tried to get off me, the Internet has made me think of them as... odd. And I am odd myself. But when he introduced me to his furry friends... I was grossed out by their attitudes, the way they talked about some sexual stuff, about their fursonas... And it made me see him in a different light. Since then I see him as a little bit less attractive. But I don't want that.
I'm conflicted because this hobby isn't inherently bad, and he isn't his friends or what they say and do. But I can't see him the same when I think about that. And I'd feel horrible if I made him change for me. I want him to live his life and his truth...
How should I proceed? I want to stay with him, I don't want to date a furry, and I don't want him to change...
tl;dr: boyfriend told me he's a furry and introduced me to his furry group and I instantly lost all attraction, yet I want to be with him