LordStanley
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either way.... your husband wont stop having sex because you lost intrest.
Sex after Pregnancy
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either way.... your husband wont stop having sex because you lost intrest.
SingerLady
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I beg to differ.... My husband is so pressed on my booty, and on my coat tails that he wouldn't dream of cheating. Although sometimes I wish he would just to hear the nagging stop of, " when am I gonna get it"?, "You gonna let me get it tonight"? I think to myself GOD WILL IT EVER END!!!
Cowgirl
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LordStanley
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Yay stereotypes.
how is that a stereotype?
Cowgirl
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Do you know her hubby? What makes you think he'd cheat?
LordStanley
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What person wouldnt????
If your hubby stopped having sex with you (assuming you're married) how long would you hold out, till you found some strange??
These women are only stringing their husbands along enough so they wont cheat on them... They would rather give up sex all together, but know if they do, that could mean the end of the marriage.
pebbles
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A relationship shouldn't be based soley on sex. A strong relationship means you talk about your issues/problems & come to a solution. What you said would suggest that we don't even care about each other's wants/needs or feelings.
lovinmaryland
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Sorry I agree w/ LS on this one. It is a bit absurd to go a year or more w/ out sex and think your man isnt getting it somewhere else. I mean what is the big deal role over and let him tap that once in awhile even if you arent into it.
SoMDGirl42
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My problem after having each was always worrying if I would get pregnant again. Scared me half to death. Didn't matter what type BC we used, nothing but absenence is 100%. After I passed the time frame when it wouldn't matter if I became pregnant again, sex was no longer was a burden, it was a pleasure again. Even if you don't think this is it, it may still be a worry in the back of your mind subconciously. :shrug:
pebbles
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Please read all my posts....I never said we haven't had sex in over a year.
I said that it's been over a year since my son was born & it's just not the same any more. I do it but I don't have the drive that I used to.
Cowgirl
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Ok. Seems to me that if the man TRULY cared what the woman was going through (PPD) and wanted their relationship to be better (meaning, he actually wanted her to WANT sex and not just tolerate it), he'd suggest she get help, and not just suggest that she let him "tap it" every now and then.
But hey, all men cheat, right?
LordStanley
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so your solution is complain on a open forum that your hubby "naggs" you to have sex with him. So you give him just enough so he wont cheat on you.
Yeah, thats a healthy relationship.
Sex is an urge which has nothing to do with love. Hubby still has the urge. You dont. what happens if you stop all together. do you really expect him to wait around for you/
Hell maybe you just dont find him attractive anymore?
LordStanley
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Seems to me that if the man TRULY cared what the woman was going through (PPD) and wanted their relationship to be better (meaning, he actually wanted her to WANT sex and not just tolerate it), he'd suggest she get help, and not just suggest that she let him "tap it" every now and then.
But hey, all men cheat, right?
Seems to me, if the woman truely loved her man, she would fix her own problem.
But hey, all women think about themselves right?
Cowgirl
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Seems to me, if the woman truely loved her man, she would fix her own problem.
But hey, all women think about themselves right?
Seems to me that if the hubby was so sick of not having sex, he'd tell her they needed to fix it (yes, THEY) or get a divorce. And it's not just her problem. If she's too stressed, maybe he should step up and take some responsibilities off her. :shrug:
And gee, if a woman isn't interested in sex, guys shouldn't use the line "am I gonna get it tonight?"
Very romantic. Makes me want to drop my pants right there. 
lovinmaryland
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How long could/would you go if your man all the sudden stopped having sex w/ you? Wouldnt after a while you feel lonely, frustrated, unloved?
Seems to me that if the man TRULY cared what the woman was going through (PPD) and wanted their relationship to be better (meaning, he actually wanted her to WANT sex and not just tolerate it), he'd suggest she get help, and not just suggest that she let him "tap it" every now and then.
But hey, all men cheat, right?
I mean really some men cheat who are getting it from their wives 3 or 4 times a week, so to think a man who is getting zippy sex wouldnt cheat is just silly.
Exactly just coming on the boards proves that she knows something isnt right so she look into ways to fix the problem.Seems to me, if the woman truely loved her man, she would fix her own problem.
But hey, all women think about themselves right?
Cowgirl
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Not a year, that's for sure. But, I can say with 100% certainty that I would never, EVER cheat. If there's something wrong enough witht he relationship for me to feel that unhappy, I'd tell him we either need to fix it, or get divorced. There's never any good reason to cheat.
SingerLady
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LordStanley
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Seems to me that if the hubby was so sick of not having sex, he'd tell her they needed to fix it (yes, THEY) or get a divorce.
And gee, if a woman isn't interested in sex, guys shouldn't use the line "am I gonna get it tonight?"
Considering how much of a burden it is for them to have sex with their husband, can you blame him for not being more romantic.
Say husband draws a bubble bath, lights some candles, mood music and flowers... you know all that crap
Then she still turns him down. He'll for all we know he's already done this and got tired of being shot down.