Should I have been notified??

[Tina2001aniT]

...with your kid.
The school probably assumed your child would be able to remember recieving a death threat and would pass that info along to you.

point taken, now say my kid told me the same day it happened. Should I not be upset that the school did not notify me as well?

 

[jenbengen]

...with your kid.
The school probably assumed your child would be able to remember recieving a death threat and would pass that info along to you.

That's ridiculous on so many levels! It is NOT the kid's responsibility, it's the adults! Second, a kid that age is often frightened into saying ANYTHING in fear of what their parents or peers will do. Plus, kids tend to embellish or downplay things- a note or call from a person at the school would have given the facts so the parent could deal with things.

You are way wrong on this one.

 

[dems4me]

OMG, I agree with ASP

I think the school should have followed up on this one yes. But the kid should have said SOMETHING to the parents and school maybe thought the kid would have :shrug: If the kid was afraid of peer pressure and all it wouldn't have gone to the TEACHER which would directly impact those girls.

What harm would it had done to tell the parents? Not trying to give anyone a hard time or get the "well dems you can't possibly be right or understand because you don't have kids" bullchiat. No one seems to throw that out there when I'm in agreement with folks and their kids

I just think the kid should have said something to the parents and I'm not buying "well the kid was embarassed" scenario. If the kid was embarassed or worried about consequences the kid wouldn't have said anything at all to the teacher which would in turn punish the kids :shrug:. I'm just worried about ALL the blame being put on the teachers and principal. The parent does need to be notified if not by the kid then hopefully the school would followup. :shrug:

 

[MMDad]

...with your kid.
The school probably assumed your child would be able to remember recieving a death threat and would pass that info along to you.

I think the kid should have told you.

How cute... Aps and Dems.... On heart, one mind.

 

[donbarzini]

OMG, I agree with ASP

I think the school should have followed up on this one yes. But the kid should have said SOMETHING to the parents and school maybe thought the kid would have :shrug: If the kid was afraid of peer pressure and all it wouldn't have gone to the TEACHER which would directly impact those girls.

What harm would it had done to tell the parents? Not trying to give anyone a hard time or get the "well dems you can't possibly be right or understand because you don't have kids" bullchiat. No one seems to throw that out there when I'm in agreement with folks and their kids

I just think the kid should have said something to the parents and I'm not buying "well the kid was embarassed" scenario. If the kid was embarassed or worried about consequences the kid wouldn't have said anything at all to the teacher which would in turn punish the kids :shrug:. I'm just worried about ALL the blame being put on the teachers and principal. The parent does need to be notified if not by the kid then hopefully the school would followup. :shrug:

I understand your point, but in this age of "zero tolerance" the call should have been made by the school. Leaving it up to a 3rd grader to remember to tell Mom is like leaving it up to JPC to remember to pay child support.

 

[Larry Gude]

How many...

...3rd graders do you, we, suppose said something mean or hateful sometime in May? How about April? What do you figure we're up to in June, so far?

How many things do you think kids have said, nation wide, that, had they actually 100% meant it, that, in hindsight, we parents would be like WHY WEREN'T WE TOLD????????????? Heads must roll!!!! That could have been another (your worst fear here)!!!!

And, just for kicks, how many 3rd garders shot anyone of late? Ever? Now compare that number to how many 'threats' were issued. Uh oh. We don't know how many, do we????




I love that one ---->


So, with this nationwide crisis of threatening 8 years olds, what should the SOP be? Immediate lockdown and haz mat roll out? Grievance counselors for all? SWAT with squirt guns and chicken nuggets? Call all parents to drop what they are doing and come rescue Hortense and Sigmund from the evil designs of their psychotic classmates, drug addict parents, inept administration and thoughtless teachers?



How about every time a kid threatens another, we stop school and spend the rest of the day printing handouts that must be signed and returned the very next day notifying all and everyone that Lil' Timmy has promised to kill Bobby with a gun?

And hold a community meeting that night, every time, that EVERY parent MUST attend or they will be called BAD parents on web blogs, for all to see.

I wonder, as I sit here contemplating how the terrorists have mobilized our very children, right before our eyes, just how many horrible things my kids have heard, said and been told over the years that I never heard one peep about? I wonder how many bullets I've dodged, so to speak, an never known a thing about it?

I really like that one ------>


My God, it could happen. It has happened. It will again. It could be happening right now and I'm acting like I don't even care!!!?!??!?



It has a name; Catastrophic thinking.

 

[Tina2001aniT]

...3rd graders do you, we, suppose said something mean or hateful sometime in May? How about April? What do you figure we're up to in June, so far?

How many things do you think kids have said, nation wide, that, had they actually 100% meant it, that, in hindsight, we parents would be like WHY WEREN'T WE TOLD????????????? Heads must roll!!!! That could have been another (your worst fear here)!!!!

And, just for kicks, how many 3rd garders shot anyone of late? Ever? Now compare that number to how many 'threats' were issued. Uh oh. We don't know how many, do we????




I love that one ---->


So, with this nationwide crisis of threatening 8 years olds, what should the SOP be? Immediate lockdown and haz mat roll out? Grievance counselors for all? SWAT with squirt guns and chicken nuggets? Call all parents to drop what they are doing and come rescue Hortense and Sigmund from the evil designs of their psychotic classmates, drug addict parents, inept administration and thoughtless teachers?



How about every time a kid threatens another, we stop school and spend the rest of the day printing handouts that must be signed and returned the very next day notifying all and everyone that Lil' Timmy has promised to kill Bobby with a gun?

And hold a community meeting that night, every time, that EVERY parent MUST attend or they will be called BAD parents on web blogs, for all to see.

I wonder, as I sit here contemplating how the terrorists have mobilized our very children, right before our eyes, just how many horrible things my kids have heard, said and been told over the years that I never heard one peep about? I wonder how many bullets I've dodged, so to speak, an never known a thing about it?

I really like that one ------>


My God, it could happen. It has happened. It will again. It could be happening right now and I'm acting like I don't even care!!!?!??!?



It has a name; Catastrophic thinking.

All I asked was for notification, that is it. The school should have let me know, period.

 

[Larry Gude]

Then get...

All I asked was for notification, that is it. The school should have let me know, period.

...a lawyer and threaten as many people as possible until you're satisfied.

One of my girls was attacked by a little, POS broken wild animal in second grade that the school system was forced, by their policies, to bounce from school to school as he attacked other kids. I got a lawyer. I raised Holy Hell. The principal all but begged me to get a lawyer because, she hinted, legal action is the only way they can fight policies that they are stuck with.

You're concerned, get after them. It'll only cost a couple hundred bucks to get a lawyer to write of a clear letter of concern. It starts the process to change how they deal with...incidents.

 

[julz20684]

How cute... Aps and Dems.... On heart, one mind.

 

[Midnightrider]

All I asked was for notification, that is it. The school should have let me know, period.

If she didnt get injured, it seems the school handled it.... they are 8, kids do and say stupid things all the time.

Besides, what would you have done differently if you had known?


BTW, what precipitated the incident?

 

[PelyKat]

Yes the school, as in the principal, should have called you...and yes your child should have mentioned it.

But yes an 8 y.o. has a busy day, and the memory of a seive. If it happened in the morning, and was dealt with by the teacher, it became a non-issue for her by lunch. which is why the school should have followed up.

And a side note...people without kids Can have valid insights...as they were kids once.

 

[multitaskerJuls]

...3rd graders do you, we, suppose said something mean or hateful sometime in May? How about April? What do you figure we're up to in June, so far?

How many things do you think kids have said, nation wide, that, had they actually 100% meant it, that, in hindsight, we parents would be like WHY WEREN'T WE TOLD????????????? Heads must roll!!!! That could have been another (your worst fear here)!!!!

And, just for kicks, how many 3rd garders shot anyone of late? Ever? Now compare that number to how many 'threats' were issued. Uh oh. We don't know how many, do we????




I love that one ---->


So, with this nationwide crisis of threatening 8 years olds, what should the SOP be? Immediate lockdown and haz mat roll out? Grievance counselors for all? SWAT with squirt guns and chicken nuggets? Call all parents to drop what they are doing and come rescue Hortense and Sigmund from the evil designs of their psychotic classmates, drug addict parents, inept administration and thoughtless teachers?



How about every time a kid threatens another, we stop school and spend the rest of the day printing handouts that must be signed and returned the very next day notifying all and everyone that Lil' Timmy has promised to kill Bobby with a gun?

And hold a community meeting that night, every time, that EVERY parent MUST attend or they will be called BAD parents on web blogs, for all to see.

I wonder, as I sit here contemplating how the terrorists have mobilized our very children, right before our eyes, just how many horrible things my kids have heard, said and been told over the years that I never heard one peep about? I wonder how many bullets I've dodged, so to speak, an never known a thing about it?

I really like that one ------>


My God, it could happen. It has happened. It will again. It could be happening right now and I'm acting like I don't even care!!!?!??!?



It has a name; Catastrophic thinking.

Loved reading this....have to say that I agree with you! I think that parents should try to ask their children daily how their day went when they get home from school and anytime they are away from them for awhile. The school that my children go to, I pretty much know everything that they are doing, did or are going to do. I can honestly say that there are some good schools in St Mary's County and other ones that I personally would not send my DOG to. I think that nowadays if kids are being threatened with being harmed or being shot....the kids are getting it from some where and most of the time it is coming from HOME. I call it lack of disipline and lack of parental control. I have to feel sorry for the teachers and principals that have to deal with these children that are brought up not respecting ANYTHING! I would not want their jobs for any amount of money! I think that the school should of notified the parents that this had taken place, but I think more that the kids that did the act should be suspended and their parents should take a good hard look at themselves and really buckle down on their kids before it is too late.

 

[Nanny Pam]

I would be at that school as we speak!!!

Me too!

 

[Tina2001aniT]

Just got a call back from PRINCIPA: and he says he talked to kiddo and kiddo said Teacher handled it???? Are you freakin kiddin me...first of all you ask the kid what happened, why not the teacher or counselor. 2nd of all you are telling me that is acceptable to you?? I then explained to @$@$@ principal that this was a death threat, nothing less and that I would at least expect to be notified. He said he was gonna talk to the teacher and have her call me. It appears as though I will be at the school first thing in the morning.

 

[SLIM]

Yes the school, as in the principal, should have called you...and yes your child should have mentioned it.

But yes an 8 y.o. has a busy day, and the memory of a seive. If it happened in the morning, and was dealt with by the teacher, it became a non-issue for her by lunch. which is why the school should have followed up.

And a side note...people without kids Can have valid insights...as they were kids once.

Well said PelyKat
The other two girls' parents should have been notified also!

 

[Larry Gude]

Ok...

Just got a call back from PRINCIPA: and he says he talked to kiddo and kiddo said Teacher handled it???? Are you freakin kiddin me...first of all you ask the kid what happened, why not the teacher or counselor. 2nd of all you are telling me that is acceptable to you?? I then explained to @$@$@ principal that this was a death threat, nothing less and that I would at least expect to be notified. He said he was gonna talk to the teacher and have her call me. It appears as though I will be at the school first thing in the morning.

...you're starting to paint a bad picture here. TRUST your gut and act accordingly.

 

[SLIM]

Just got a call back from PRINCIPA: and he says he talked to kiddo and kiddo said Teacher handled it???? Are you freakin kiddin me...first of all you ask the kid what happened, why not the teacher or counselor. 2nd of all you are telling me that is acceptable to you?? I then explained to @$@$@ principal that this was a death threat, nothing less and that I would at least expect to be notified. He said he was gonna talk to the teacher and have her call me. It appears as though I will be at the school first thing in the morning.

Did the teacher and counselor not tell the principal?

 

[multitaskerJuls]

Just got a call back from PRINCIPA: and he says he talked to kiddo and kiddo said Teacher handled it???? Are you freakin kiddin me...first of all you ask the kid what happened, why not the teacher or counselor. 2nd of all you are telling me that is acceptable to you?? I then explained to @$@$@ principal that this was a death threat, nothing less and that I would at least expect to be notified. He said he was gonna talk to the teacher and have her call me. It appears as though I will be at the school first thing in the morning.

Why wait till tomorrow morning? Something like this should not be put off for another minute. If you are that upset about this situation, go speak with everyone that had a part with this incident TODAY!!! IMO

 

[Midnightrider]

Just got a call back from PRINCIPA: and he says he talked to kiddo and kiddo said Teacher handled it???? Are you freakin kiddin me...first of all you ask the kid what happened, why not the teacher or counselor. 2nd of all you are telling me that is acceptable to you?? I then explained to @$@$@ principal that this was a death threat, nothing less and that I would at least expect to be notified. He said he was gonna talk to the teacher and have her call me. It appears as though I will be at the school first thing in the morning.

Seriously, what precipitated the death threat? little girls dont usually make death threats.

 

[Tina2001aniT]

Seriously, what precipitated the death threat? little girls dont usually make death threats.

Seriously, I don't know. Kiddo has been in class with these two girls since pre-k, so I have no idea.