SMO: Staying together 4 the kids....

[Qurious]

can anyone sell me on this??

 

[Nickel]

You sure are a busybody.

 

[Qurious]

You sure are a busybody.

serious question.

How can you stay with someone who doesn't love you just for the children? How are the children benefitting from this?

 

[RoseRed]

SMO?

 

[pixiegirl]

who's doing this and where have you been?

 

[Dupontster]

Southern Maryland Oil... :shrug:

 

[Nickel]

serious question.

How can you stay with someone who doesn't love you just for the children? How are the children benefitting from this?

I don't know, I wouldn't do that. :shrug:

 

[Qurious]

SMO?

sell me on

 

[vraiblonde]

How can you stay with someone who doesn't love you just for the children?

What is more important to you: that YOU feel loved and secure or that YOUR CHILDREN feel loved and secure?

 

[Qurious]

What is more important to you: that YOU feel loved and secure or that YOUR CHILDREN feel loved and secure?

Her children. But eventually the kids would see that mom isn't happy and its all just for them. That could be damaging.

 

[vraiblonde]

Her children. But eventually the kids would see that mom isn't happy and its all just for them. That could be damaging.

I disagree. They will say, "Thanks, Mom, for caring enough about us that you didn't break up our home."

And how does she know she'll be any happier if she's single with children? Then they'll be like, "Thanks, Mom, for busting up our home just because YOU weren't happy, and now NOBODY'S happy. "

 

[harleygirl]

Her children. But eventually the kids would see that mom isn't happy and its all just for them. That could be damaging.

Exactly. I always thought it was better for the children to see their two parents apart but happy, than together but miserable.

 

[vraiblonde]

Amendment:

If she's going to run around and go, "The only reason I stayed with that rat bastard all these years and wasted my life is because of YOU CHILDREN!" then she should probably move on. And leave the kids with him.

 

[Qurious]

I disagree. They will say, "Thanks, Mom, for caring enough about us that you didn't break up our home."

And how does she know she'll be any happier if she's single with children? Then they'll be like, "Thanks, Mom, for busting up our home just because YOU weren't happy, and now NOBODY'S happy. "

knowing what she's going through i want her out of that situation, i dont think its healthy. There are plenty of single mothers who can raise their children just as well without having to deal with the bs from the childrens father. She's miserable everyday. Its not healthy for her, and its tearing her up. I would let her move in with me if I could but her kids would drive me nuts

 

[vraiblonde]

Exactly. I always thought it was better for the children to see their two parents apart but happy, than together but miserable.

I have never known a kid in my whole entire life who cared two figs about what their parents "felt" or whether they were happy.

 

[vraiblonde]

knowing what she's going through i want her out of that situation, i dont think its healthy.

What's the situation? Abuse? Chemical dependence?

 

[Nickel]

I have never known a kid in my whole entire life who cared two figs about what their parents "felt" or whether they were happy.

 

[vraiblonde]

Really? When you were a young child?

Anyway, speaking as a divorced person, I wish I'd have been more mature and waited until the kids were grown before I left their father.

 

[DoWhat]

Is she upset about the sex?

 

[morganj614]

Seeing parents fight, even when they think you don't see, can be very disturbing to the kids. Living in an unhappy home either with one or both parents is not good. There are so many variables here, it's hard to say what could be best, unless it is for a specific situation.