Solomons Bridge Jumper

vraiblonde

Board Mommy
PREMO Member
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Curious what you Mommies of the World are doing to prevent future suicides and deaths? Besides "caring", I mean.

You want to criticize those of us who aren't in mourning for some guy we didn't even know, and are discussing how this unidentified stranger's act DID impact us, yet I don't see you all out there being positively productive with regard to the issue.

What are you doing besides "feeling terrible" and running your fingers on the internet to make sure everyone knows how "compassionate" you are? At least the rest of us realize there was nothing we could have done about this, nor any way we could have prevented it. Some of you even had a suicide close to home, yet you still did nothing besides "feel bad".

Do you really think you're better than anyone else because of your "feelings"?
 

Chasey_Lane

Salt Life
The guy wanted to jump. He did. He obviously didn't want to be in control of his life anymore. Let's respect his wishes and honor him for knowing when it was his turn to check out. :buddies:
 

sockgirl77

Well-Known Member
Curious what you Mommies of the World are doing to prevent future suicides and deaths? Besides "caring", I mean.

You want to criticize those of us who aren't in mourning for some guy we didn't even know, and are discussing how this unidentified stranger's act DID impact us, yet I don't see you all out there being positively productive with regard to the issue.

What are you doing besides "feeling terrible" and running your fingers on the internet to make sure everyone knows how "compassionate" you are? At least the rest of us realize there was nothing we could have done about this, nor any way we could have prevented it. Some of you even had a suicide close to home, yet you still did nothing besides "feel bad".

Do you really think you're better than anyone else because of your "feelings"?

I really do not think that there is anything that you can do other than direct them to a psychiatrist. My cousin had nothing but love surrounding him. But, he had a drug addiction. He did go to rehab for a bit but was using within a few months of getting out. There was nothing that anyone could do. You cannot force anyone to want the help. Even if the drug addiction was not present, he still had mental issues that needed to be treated. I talked to him on the phone and visited when possible. He knew that he was loved. But, he walked around moping and feeling like a piece of chit. He told people that he felt like he was failing in life. Everyone fails in life. Some of us are equiped with the ability to get over it and strive to do better and others are not. I've grown to be a synical bitch.

I just do not feel sorry for most people anymore. While I will not be online bitching about the traffic backup that a bridge jumper causes, I will not judge those who do. This guy had 101 different ways to off himself. He chose the one that inconvenienced hundreds of people. However, I do feel bad for the loved ones that he left behind. I hope that he had life insurance and that he did not leave any financial burden on his family.
 

Chasey_Lane

Salt Life
I hope that he had life insurance and that he did not leave any financial burden on his family.
Having life insurance is not a guarantee that they will pay when suicide is the CoD. For instance, if he only had an employer-sponsored plan, he's probably screwed.
 

Pyrotech

Les Paul Addict
Well I certainly "think" (not "feel") that its inappropriate to trash talk a guy (or lady) when there's acknowledgement by some "inconvenienced" people here that they have no idea what was in this persons mind that caused them to take a permanent solution to a temporary problem. In my opinion, this is the exact reason this person most likely had noone to turn to they could trust. Would you, in their predicament? A person who is suicidal could be reading these posts right now.
 

sockgirl77

Well-Known Member
Well I certainly "think" (not "feel") that its inappropriate to trash talk a guy (or lady) when there's acknowledgement by some "inconvenienced" people here that they have no idea what was in this persons mind that caused them to take a permanent solution to a temporary problem. In my opinion, this is the exact reason this person most likely had noone to turn to they could trust. Would you, in their predicament? A person who is suicidal could be reading these posts right now.

Then maybe they'll think about not being suicidal and get the help they need so they do not burden people with grief, financial expenses, and backed up traffic. :yay:
 

vraiblonde

Board Mommy
PREMO Member
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I've grown to be a synical bitch.

It's not cynical, it's just realistic.

Most of the time there's just nothing you can do, especially if you didn't even know this person existed before they made themselves a public figure. It doesn't mean you don't "care", it means you cannot spend your energy on every stranger in the world and have it be productive. They have free will and will do as they please, regardless of what you want them to do.

I think about all the food and condom drops the US has done in the past, none of which did a damn bit of good besides making us "feel better". Like we were "doing something", when in fact we were doing absolutely nothing for anyone other than egotistical ourselves.

Perhaps it IS heartless of me to not want to waste my time or energy "caring" about crazy people and low lifes that I don't even know. But I'm okay with that because whatever I'm doing instead is probably going to be much more productive, even if I'm just clipping my toenails.
 

sockgirl77

Well-Known Member
It's not cynical, it's just realistic.

Most of the time there's just nothing you can do, especially if you didn't even know this person existed before they made themselves a public figure. It doesn't mean you don't "care", it means you cannot spend your energy on every stranger in the world and have it be productive. They have free will and will do as they please, regardless of what you want them to do.

I think about all the food and condom drops the US has done in the past, none of which did a damn bit of good besides making us "feel better". Like we were "doing something", when in fact we were doing absolutely nothing for anyone other than egotistical ourselves.

Perhaps it IS heartless of me to not want to waste my time or energy "caring" about crazy people and low lifes that I don't even know. But I'm okay with that because whatever I'm doing instead is probably going to be much more productive, even if I'm just clipping my toenails.

I never think to look, but is the Walden sign still on the bridge? I wonder how many people have actually called the number as they were standing at the top of the bridge. My guess is none. Once someone actually gets the balls to do that, there's just no talking them down. I cannot recall hearing about one person standing on top of the bridge being talked down
 

MMM_donuts

New Member
Everyone handles this stuff differently. Instead of letting someone else's reaction anger and appall you, try to understand it. Emotional responses are not the same for everyone.

Some people try to rationalize things, some get mad, some have to make jokes about it.
 
Curious what you Mommies of the World are doing to prevent future suicides and deaths? Besides "caring", I mean.

You want to criticize those of us who aren't in mourning for some guy we didn't even know, and are discussing how this unidentified stranger's act DID impact us, yet I don't see you all out there being positively productive with regard to the issue.

What are you doing besides "feeling terrible" and running your fingers on the internet to make sure everyone knows how "compassionate" you are? At least the rest of us realize there was nothing we could have done about this, nor any way we could have prevented it. Some of you even had a suicide close to home, yet you still did nothing besides "feel bad".

Do you really think you're better than anyone else because of your "feelings"?
Nope. :coffee:
 

MMDad

Lem Putt
You want to criticize those of us who aren't in mourning for some guy we didn't even know, and are discussing how this unidentified stranger's act DID impact us, yet I don't see you all out there being positively productive with regard to the issue.

The criticism of you was for being a heartless bitch, not for the lack of mourning.

What I do for other people is not something I advertise. It's not about me, and it's not about bragging to you. I can rest assured knowing that I have helped, am helping, and God willing will continue to help. And it's none of your ####ing business how I do that.
 
Oh no... avatar29956_50.gif ... Let's not be hateful to each other.


Everyone just clam the #### down. :cds:
 

aps45819

24/7 Single Dad
Do you really think you're better than anyone else because of your "feelings"?

Of course they do :lol:

Isn't that why we have the current gun control debate?
Nothing proposed or passed would have stopped any of the previous gun free zone shootings but it feels good to do something
 

vraiblonde

Board Mommy
PREMO Member
Patron
The criticism of you was for being a heartless bitch, not for the lack of mourning.

Yet people who know me know that I am not a heartless bitch at all, and in fact quite the opposite. So you can take your holier than thou attitude and shove it up your sanctimonious ass. :smile:
 
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