Spanking

[camily]

I'm not a big spanker. I have on a VERY rare occasion given swats but they are few and far between. I talk to my kids alot though and each kid is different. I mean, people that spank alot I don't get. If you have to keep doing something then obviously it doesn't work and maybe they should try a different approach. How can you teach a child not to be violent etc. if you are hitting them? I will smack a hand when they are little and I have given spankings so I am not totally against it, I just think there are better ways to reach a desired behavior. My husband always threatens the belt, but my kids know I WILL NOT let that happen. I think a person is a pu$$y if they have to use an object to hit their kids. If you have to spank, use your hand.

 

[Geek]

Seriously, I am getting red because I don't think you should spank your kids? I taught special ed. You can't hit kids when you are a teacher so I guess I am out of touch with how most parents do stuff.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

My mom used to beat my azz. I've spanked my daughters azz more than once, as well.

 

[Nickel]

Seriously, I am getting red because I don't think you should spank your kids? I taught special ed. You can't hit kids when you are a teacher so I guess I am out of touch with how most parents do stuff.

You're probably getting red because, yet again, you are trying to tell everyone how they should raise their children. And our kids are not like special ed kids. Of course you can't spank special ed kids, we aren't retarded.

 

[cattitude]

My father never spanked me. Smacked me on my face one time for a nasty remark after I'd graduated and on the day I was moving out. My mother hit me one time with the metal end of flyswatter...I was probably about 8. Other than that, I was never spanked. I was threatened with a huge belt with a large buckle that my dad wore as part of his Marine uniform. Maybe that was enough.

I am totally against it hitting a child.

One of my favorite grocery store scenes is a tired toddler crying. The kid keeps crying and the mom/dad swats the kid and then says "do you want me to give you something to cry about?"

 

[sockgirl77]

Rare times. Usually, mom chased me around the house with the wooden spoon. Scared the shiat out of me.

Oh,but...as a teenager, I was backhanded a few times. :welldeserved:

 

[RoseRed]

Wooden spoons and bamboo tomato stakes really hurt on a bare ass.

 

[PrepH4U]

Seriously, I am getting red because I don't think you should spank your kids? I taught special ed. You can't hit kids when you are a teacher so I guess I am out of touch with how most parents do stuff.

no its your comment on hoping kids are able to hit their parents back!

QUOTE=Geek I hope the kid gets a few in on the parents when they are big enough to fight back.

Way to teach respect! Great teacher!!

 

[MysticalMom]

Yea AND in the GA public school system back then they would bust your ass too. All they needed was 3 minutes and another teacher as a witness.

You know we never had kids mouth off to teachers, hit teachers, threaten teachers, pull guns, knives, or destroy stuff just for fun. You think that was just a coincidence?

This is from my old man...he couldn't STAND it and had to get his 2 pennies in on this one..........

"I went to school right here. And corporal punishment (spanking you with a wooden paddle) was common practice. And they didn't worry about another teacher in attendance. There were no witnesses.

For those who think this is a terrible thing...I spent 3 of those years in a catholic school. Trust me..you have not had an a$$ whoopin' until a nun does it. Fear of a good a$$ whoopin' was the ONLY thing that kept me from screwing up more than once."

 

[pixiegirl]

One of my favorite grocery store scenes is a tired toddler crying. The kid keeps crying and the mom/dad swats the kid and then says "do you want me to give you something to cry about?"

That line is very effective with NLB. If he doesn't get his way and wants to pout about it or even squeeze out a few tears I'll let him know quickly that it's not nice behavior and that if he wants a reason to cry I'll give him one. It works. I can't remember EVER having to follow through but if need be I would. I will not tolerate temper tantrums.

 

[Softballkid]

Oh,but...as a teenager, I was backhanded a few times. :welldeserved:

I was 16 or so, an my ole man told me when I thought my balls were big enough to try him, we could go outside..he was standing in my doorway..well, I said screw it, got up, went to like walk threw him since he was in my doorway, I put d*mn near all I had into it..he didnt budge....

SO, needless to say, I laid back down on my bed and I never tried pops EVER again...after that, it became, yes sir, no ma'am like ALL THE TIME....

 

[Geek]

Emotionally disturbed kids will kick the living shiat out of you and they are special ed. I have two kids. I have not hit them. I will not hit them. I really don't care if other people hit their kids. Whack the crap out of them I got the living crap beat out of me growing up. Hubby did not. I liked his way better so that is what we are doing.

 

[MysticalMom]

Any time I have witnessed spanking (Wal mart) I thought it was sad and pointless. I hope the kid gets a few in on the parents when they are big enough to fight back.

Attitudes like this are exactly why we have so many hoodlums running around.

 

[PrepH4U]

Attitudes like this are exactly why we have so many hoodlums running around.

 

[RoseRed]

Attitudes like this are exactly why we have so many hoodlums running around.

Agreed.

 

[kwillia]

I got the living crap beat out of me growing up. Hubby did not. I liked his way better so that is what we are doing.

But you didn't ask if we got the living crap out of us... you asked if we were spanked. There is a difference.

 

[pixiegirl]

Attitudes like this are exactly why we have so many hoodlums running around.

No $hit! My ex husband is 30 and still lives at home with his mommy, does drugs and can't hold down a job for more then a couple months. Yet it's all his friends' fault.... Hope geek is looking forward to similar!

 

[Pandora]

If you have to spank, use your hand.

I agree with that. I was cut across my ankle on a belt buckle once when my father hit me, which is why I only use my hand on the ass and no where else. I shutter at the thought of seeing a child get smacked in the back of the head or slapped.

 

[MysticalMom]

But you didn't ask if we got the living crap out of us... you asked if we were spanked. There is a difference.

absofreakinlutely!

 

[Pete]

My parents

I only got it from dad

My dad raised his hand to me one time and one time only. I was so scared I ran from him and he had to chase me up the stairs.

My father never spanked me.

Common theme? I think a great deal of societies ilk comes from absentee, missing, disassociated, disinterested father figures. Dad's are more than people who kill spiders and reach stuff on the top shelf.