Stepping Out

[vraiblonde]

Steve, the original question was "how many have had legitimate temptation to step out on the spouse?" To me, that wouldn't count lusting after some celebrity or Playboy centerfold - that would be lusting after someone you know personally and really getting a crush, as opposed to just a passing physical appreciation.

I think most people will look at someone else and think they're good-looking or sexy or something, but they don't really get ate up with it. So I don't know if that would be considered a "legitimate" temptation. One of Larry's clients is adorable and I think the world of him. I've told Larry that if I was single, I'd go scratching at this guy's door - but it's more commentary on how cool I think this guy is, not a real desire to have sex with him. Does that make sense?

 

[SmallTown]

I still love the Dice man's take on this.. About, uhmm, getting it "out of your system" by, uhm, taking care of the job yourself when you see a hot chick..

"Good-bye... good-bye...good-bye... and you're staying loyal.."

 

[Larry Gude]

SEX!!!????

I thought you said you run over all the time to have a smoke with him??? ...

Hey! Just EXACTLY what DO you mean when you say "he lights my fire"??? Hmmm!!!??

God, I need some Ice Cream...

 

[vraiblonde]

Originally posted by Larry Gude
I thought you said you run over all the time to have a smoke with him??? ...

<----actually I had a different smilie I wanted to use as a reply but then I'd have to ban myself.

Besides, I'm talking about Mike M. - who are YOU talking about?

 

[Larry Gude]

I know who you are talking...

...about! I WAS trying to make a joke of it. Alas, it seems worse than I thought. No room for humor here...


Ben! Jerry!

 

[SmallTown]

Woo hoo! Only my second night on here and I've already stirred things up!

But seriously, I think everyone has their moments of "temptation." I mean, we're all human. But it's what you decide to DO about that temptation that matters. I come home to my husband every night, who just happens to love me and make me laugh. Who could ask for more?

I don't really know what to say to my friend who feels otherwise. I actually thought she had the perfect life...cute kids, a good husband for over 10 years...when she told me, I was like

I don't know what advice to give her, except to be careful what she wished for. She said she would "never be serious" with this other guy, but I think kissing him is serious enough. I mean, just imagine the implications. My husband would be FURIOUS, and I would think he would never forgive (or at least never forget). You would immediately lose that special "bond" in your relationship, and I don't think that things would ever be the same.

Marriage is for better AND for worse. It's all about negotiation and compromise. If you can't work through your issues, don't make it worse by lying and cheating. Just get out and be done with it. Why prolong the inevitable?

 

[kwillia]