To quote Vrai: "BULL####"
Power in a marriage does not come from being able to influence a decision made by the husband. It comes from being EQUAL to him and making the decision WITH him. I don't NEED a man; I want one. I don't NEED a father; I want a partner. I don't NEED anyone; I want a person to share my hopes and dreams with and make them come true TOGETHER.
You don't walk two steps behind your husband; you walk beside him as an equal.
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ceo_pte
New Member
never said you weren't equal. Just said that there can be only one head in the house. If there is more than one head it is a monster. Not a good thing. If your husband is a man and undestands God, he will know that he should be the 'head and not the tail' above and not beneath. It's called SUBMISSION... but you wouldn't understand it unless you read the Bible.
citysherry
I Need a Beer
AMEN Sister!
ceo_pte
New Member
I know my last remark will spark some remarks, but that's the way God intended it. It's not my Christianity or Relegion. I just take what I read from the Bible. I've seen examples of both in marriages and when the wife is not in-line with her husband their are problems. You can say there are not, but there are.
Sorry, I'm not a Bible freak, but I have read quite a bit of it and don't agree with a lot it says. My opinion is it is a work written by MAN for MAN and interpreted by MAN for a patriarchal society. I don't think there has to be a HEAD of the house just as there doesn't need to be subservient individuals in it either. Just what makes anyone the head of the house anyway? Because they're male? They make the most money? They don't have a spouse so it's a default?
Anyway, back to the topic. If it works for you and your wife and she's fine with being SUBMISSIVE to you, good for you guys. I'm just saying not everybody interprets things framed in reference to the Bible.
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I am the "head" in our household, and Larry would agree with me. I don't consider Larry and I equals at all. I could live without him a LOT easier than he could live without me. Being secure in this knowledge allows me to turn the reins over to him and let him be the boss. He pretty much gets his "way" with everything that goes on, from how the money gets spent to what color I'm going to paint the dining room.
The only thing that really matters to me is how the children are being raised and that is where I exercise my authority. He can have everything else.
20 years from now, I'm not going to remember what kind of car we drove or what color the bathroom was. Or that he bought a $2000 Marshall stack for his birthday. What I will remember is that the kids were raised to be productive, thoughtful, intelligent people. So even though it would appear that HE is the decision maker in our family, the REAL decision maker and head of the household is me.
The only thing that really matters to me is how the children are being raised and that is where I exercise my authority. He can have everything else.
20 years from now, I'm not going to remember what kind of car we drove or what color the bathroom was. Or that he bought a $2000 Marshall stack for his birthday. What I will remember is that the kids were raised to be productive, thoughtful, intelligent people. So even though it would appear that HE is the decision maker in our family, the REAL decision maker and head of the household is me.
nomoney
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I know what you're saying ceo. I understand that my husband has hard days at work and that when he comes home (before me) he needs a warm dinner ready and his sore feet rubbed. I don't get upset when he has to smack me around every now and then for not remembering to fold his tshirts right or to tuck in the sheets the right way on his side of the bed. Thats my fault, I should know better by now. Heck just the other night when I was cutting his toenails I told him how lucky I was to have such a good provider for a husband. 
Tonio
Asperger's Poster Child
That sounds more to me like a practical division of responsibility. I would guess that you and Larry both agreed to the arrangement. That's not nearly the same thing as a husband demanding submission from his wife, or even a wife demanding submission from her husband.
Pete
Repete
She does have a point other than the one on the top of her head. It seems to me that for a man who took a pic of his johnson and mailed it around you sure do qoute the bible a lot. Not that our views are that much different (except of course the johnson email thing) but it does make you seem hypocritical.