The breakup - guys, help a sista out

[Larry Gude]

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Breakups are never good, .

Depends on how you look at it. One of the many things Vrail taught me was to look at the other side of the coin, 'taught me' as in practical application. What could be better than breaking up and saving one another the unspeakable misery of being in a bad relationship?

For example; if we think breakup is bad then, guess what? It is. If we think, "Breakup is good" then, it's at least not so bad and, at best, something to be very thankful for AT THE TIME. Which gets to my questioning of Tilted and how 'honest' we are capable of being in the first place, whether we simply don't know, are lying to one another or ourselves;

If you're honest with yourself, 'we don't really mesh all that well on day to day stuff' it's a good thing to stop trying to get that square peg into that round hole. So to speak. The sooner, the better.

There has NEVER been a good relationship, one that was healthy and productive and happy for both parties, that just fell apart. There are PLENTY of bad ones held together with whatever is handy; money, convenience, etc.
Then, there are the pretty good relationships that have a glaring issue or two. Can it be overcome? Outgrown? Just accepted and dealt with?

Plus, I can't think of anything worse than a breakup where the guy learns NOTHING, ie, your suggestion of letting him think he did the breaking up. That's passing on a defective product to the next lady down the road.

 

[FED_UP]

I would rather have her just come out and say it, breaking up is never easy, don't keep me thinking I still got a chance, because I will still keep begging for some butt only to get rejection. You need to be up front and tell him NO more kitty or tiddy.

 

[sockgirl77]

Depends on how you look at it. One of the many things Vrail taught me was to look at the other side of the coin, 'taught me' as in practical application. What could be better than breaking up and saving one another the unspeakable misery of being in a bad relationship?

For example; if we think breakup is bad then, guess what? It is. If we think, "Breakup is good" then, it's at least not so bad and, at best, something to be very thankful for AT THE TIME. Which gets to my questioning of Tilted and how 'honest' we are capable of being in the first place, whether we simply don't know, are lying to one another or ourselves;

If you're honest with yourself, 'we don't really mesh all that well on day to day stuff' it's a good thing to stop trying to get that square peg into that round hole. So to speak. The sooner, the better.

There has NEVER been a good relationship, one that was healthy and productive and happy for both parties, that just fell apart. There are PLENTY of bad ones held together with whatever is handy; money, convenience, etc.
Then, there are the pretty good relationships that have a glaring issue or two. Can it be overcome? Outgrown? Just accepted and dealt with?

Plus, I can't think of anything worse than a breakup where the guy learns NOTHING, ie, your suggestion of letting him think he did the breaking up. That's passing on a defective product to the next lady down the road.

Well said!