The breakup - guys, help a sista out

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bresamil

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Vrai you should know by now that there is only one break up excuse that a man will happily accept:

"I'm sorry but my doctor said we need to break up because your extremely large penis is causing irreparable damage."

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Misfit

Misfit

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bresamil said:
Vrai you should know by now that there is only one break up excuse that will make a man will happily accept:

"I'm sorry but my doctor said we need to break up because your extremely large penis is causing irreparable damage."

:coffee:
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but my sisters would like a ride first. :yay:
 
Tilted

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vraiblonde said:
Here we go again (and no, this is not specifically about me or my breakup so don't start).

Gentlemen, which method would you prefer a woman employ when breaking up with you: the honest approach ("you're a great guy but I don't feel we're right for each other, this thing has run its course, probably time for us both to move on) or the fade (where she stops taking your calls, is too busy to see you, etc etc)?

This is assuming that you still like her and would like to continue to see her.

I'm a big fan of honesty and the clean cut. I think it's more respectful and doesn't jerk the other person around. However it appears that I'm in the minority among my dating peers. I'm curious what guys think about this when it's them getting the boot.
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I think honesty is about the only thing you've a right to expect from a relation. At least, it's about the only thing you should expect and ask for. When you ask for or expect much more, you're setting yourself up to be less likely to get that honesty. It took me a lot of mistakes and a lot of hurting (and hurt) feelings to get to that enlightenment; but now and going forward I hope to never feel entitled to ask for much more than honesty.

If you want to be here right now (whatever being here happens to mean), then be here right now. If tomorrow you don't, then don't. For that matter, if at any time you don't want to be here, then I'd prefer you not be. That's all you owe me - the feeling that if you are here right now, it's because this is where you want to be right now. It's not because this is where you wanted to be yesterday. It's not because this is where you wanted to be last month or last year. It's not because you made some commitment. It's not because you feel some obligation or don't want to hurt feelings. It's because... at this moment, there's no place you'd rather be than here.

If someone wants to be with you, and you're happy together, great. If they don't, but you still do, maybe that's not so great. It is what it is though, their lying about it (or avoiding being upfront with you about how they feel) won't change that. So... method A.
 
sockgirl77

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dontknowwhy

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bresamil said:
Vrai you should know by now that there is only one break up excuse that a man will happily accept:

"I'm sorry but my doctor said we need to break up because your extremely large penis is causing irreparable damage."

:coffee:
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trust me, anything that has a multitude of little people come crawling out of it...

Men already know that thing can NEVER be hurt :whistle:
 
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dontknowwhy

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I don't know about other men but I always preferred

REALLY!?!?...MY BEST FRIEND???!!!

that's all that really needs to be said don'cha think?
 
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czygvtwkr

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The best way to breakup with a guy would be to take him to a strip club (a good one) and say which one of these girls would you rather be with than me, then pay the girl to give him a night he wont forget.
 
Vince

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czygvtwkr said:
The best way to breakup with a guy would be to take him to a strip club (a good one) and say which one of these girls would you rather be with than me, then pay the girl to give him a night he wont forget.
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Now that's a breakup I could live with. :lol:
 
Toxick

Toxick

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vraiblonde said:
Gentlemen, which method would you prefer a woman employ when breaking up with you: the honest approach ("you're a great guy but I don't feel we're right for each other, this thing has run its course, probably time for us both to move on) or the fade (where she stops taking your calls, is too busy to see you, etc etc)?
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Depends on how long we've been going out.

If it's only be a few dates, I'm not against the fade-out. After two or three date requests are met with "I'm washing my hair", I get the idea and move on without much reluctance or hard feelings. I prefer not to be blown off, but at that point in a relationship, who cares? Not much time (and probably not much money) has been wasted on something going nowhere.




Obviously if we've been going out a while, something more direct, probably with some form of explanation, would be nice.
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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Tilted said:
I think honesty is about the only thing you've a right to expect from a relation. At least, it's about the only thing you should expect and ask for. When you ask for or expect much more, you're setting yourself up to be less likely to get that honesty. It took me a lot of mistakes and a lot of hurting (and hurt) feelings to get to that enlightenment; but now and going forward I hope to never feel entitled to ask for much more than honesty.

If you want to be here right now (whatever being here happens to mean), then be here right now. If tomorrow you don't, then don't. For that matter, if at any time you don't want to be here, then I'd prefer you not be. That's all you owe me - the feeling that if you are here right now, it's because this is where you want to be right now. It's not because this is where you wanted to be yesterday. It's not because this is where you wanted to be last month or last year. It's not because you made some commitment. It's not because you feel some obligation or don't want to hurt feelings. It's because... at this moment, there's no place you'd rather be than here.

If someone wants to be with you, and you're happy together, great. If they don't, but you still do, maybe that's not so great. It is what it is though, their lying about it (or avoiding being upfront with you about how they feel) won't change that. So... method A.
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You are so mature :smack:
 
Pete

Pete

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Toxick said:
Depends on how long we've been going out.

If it's only be a few dates, I'm not against the fade-out. After two or three date requests are met with "I'm washing my hair", I get the idea and move on without much reluctance or hard feelings. I prefer not to be blown off, but at that point in a relationship, who cares? Not much time (and probably not much money) has been wasted on something going nowhere.




Obviously if we've been going out a while, something more direct, probably with some form of explanation, would be nice.
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Ding!
 
Gilligan

Gilligan

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The best way to break up with a guy, especially one you've been in a relationship with for 10 years (hypothetical) is to covertly move all of his clothes and other personal items out of your house one morning, after he has left for work, and put them somewhere else...then call him on the phone at work and tell him to go look where you put the stuff. Don't leave any hints as to why you want him to go look in that place; that would spoil the surprise.

Oh..and leave a nice letter of explanation on top of the stack of clothes.


My .02, anyway. Some of the other idears are good too. :whistle:
 
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gary_webb

gary_webb

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Given my relationships of late, I don't think it would matter either way.

In fact, I would be more inclined to believe I would feel a sense of relief that I didn't have to make conversation anymore.

But that may just be my liver talking.:howdy:
 
Christy

Christy

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vraiblonde said:
It occurred to me that some guys might prefer she start acting like a real beech to encourage him to break up with her.

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I have tried that approach, it never works. :ohwell: I swear men like women better when they are mean. My whole entire female side of the family is a good example. My sister is mean as #### to her husband, so are all of my cousins. They've all been married forever. Go figure. :shrug:
 
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