The long-distance relationship.
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Wenchy
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Distance can be good and bad. The same with closeness 24/7.
It's all what you make of it and how much you love the person.
Any long-term (not just long distance) intimate relationship takes a lot of compromise, trust and love.
I haven't found the balance yet, but still believe I can.
It's all what you make of it and how much you love the person.
Any long-term (not just long distance) intimate relationship takes a lot of compromise, trust and love.
I haven't found the balance yet, but still believe I can.
Beelzebaby666
Has confinement issues..
DR and I dated long distance (well, it was a three hour drive) for over a year. Married 27 years this November.
And you two look like you are so happy together.
BS Gal
Voted Nicest in 08
And you two look like you are so happy together.
He's my best friend that is a boy.
Did I lose your number? 
I bit my tongue and sat on my hands for a while to avoid posting anything inappropriate.*cough cough cough*
Sorry, got something caught in my throat
Beelzebaby666
Has confinement issues..
So,
Is someone trying to say that I"ve been seeing Ken King ??
You have seen me, at least once, a couple of years ago.
So,
Is someone trying to say that I"ve been seeing Ken King ??
Beelzebaby666
Has confinement issues..
That sure is a long distance realtionship
We could start, I am in Illinois, almost Wisconsin.That sure is a long distance realtionship
morningbell
hmmmmmm
We get to got to PA!
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Goyde
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Dougstermd
ORGASM DONOR
have you been drinking?
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Wenchy
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DreamBlaze
Do I smell Burning Rubber
Been there. What may not be considered is the compatability day to day. You don't see the clothes on the floor, the bathroom antics, cooking together, etc... You can fall for someone over the phone, even visit them, but you don't have the settled down rhythm of a relationship. As humans we thrive on touch, it is an essential part of a relationship that's missing from an LDR. If it's good and there are plans to be together sooner than later, it would probably work better.
I still had the flood sexual tension, and it's only smothering when the people don't agree on on levels of affection, and if the word smothered is used, the relationship is on the outs.
my 2 cents
Beelzebaby666
Has confinement issues..
Well, we did see one another every day before his job took him to Michigan and we get along famously. People around here thougth we ere loving together, that's how much time we spent together.
When I fly up to visit, he frets over whether the shower is clean enough for me.
He's a very clean guy, I think it's from his stint in the navy and the fact that he's always kind of had to do for himself. He never leaves a real big mess.We don't screw like rabbits, maybe just gerbils.
He tries to fill our time together with more than sex. I find that terribly sweet. He's a very quiet man, but admittedly talks to me more than he's ever talked to anyone. He tells me how he feels while maintaining the "man" thing. We've talked about a plan for the future and agree that living together is in the cards, it's just that his job happens to make him travel. I'm ok with that. I'm struggling with not having someone to go out with when my couple-friends go places. I feel like a fifth wheel sometimes but seeing him makes it worthwhile. He doesn't even talk to his co-workers when I visit. He spends the time with me and only me
I'm looking forward to next month, when he'll only be 6 hours away and the plan is to come back here for another year+ to build a new tank over in Calvert. I honestly think the arrangement will be ok for a year or two, plus its not like I want to see anyone else.
moviegirl1980
It's only life....
OK.....my feelings on the topic are pretty much what some of you have already said.
Long distance is hard but sometimes what is harder is being together after the LDR is over. Like Dream said it is the every day antics that are hard. Being in the same town where you can be together all the time....or even living together for that matter, let you know who the real person is and whether or not it is meant to be. If you know the LDR will be over in x amoutn of months it is more doable but it is still not easy. Intimacy of all levels is part of every stong relationship and you dont get all of those levels when you are far away.
Anyway, I hope it works out for you, but if you are feeling smothered thats not good. On that same note devoting 100% attention to you isnt all that great either. Guys need their guys, their friends, just as much as girls need their girls. I think it would drive me nuts if someone wanted to spend 100% of their time with me since I like to spend time either out w my girls or even out with friends as a couple.
Ok just my thoughts.....although I am currently single, so take it for what it is worth.
Long distance is hard but sometimes what is harder is being together after the LDR is over. Like Dream said it is the every day antics that are hard. Being in the same town where you can be together all the time....or even living together for that matter, let you know who the real person is and whether or not it is meant to be. If you know the LDR will be over in x amoutn of months it is more doable but it is still not easy. Intimacy of all levels is part of every stong relationship and you dont get all of those levels when you are far away.
Anyway, I hope it works out for you, but if you are feeling smothered thats not good. On that same note devoting 100% attention to you isnt all that great either. Guys need their guys, their friends, just as much as girls need their girls. I think it would drive me nuts if someone wanted to spend 100% of their time with me since I like to spend time either out w my girls or even out with friends as a couple.
Ok just my thoughts.....although I am currently single, so take it for what it is worth.