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pixiegirl

pixiegirl

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tygrace said:
I completely agree with you that many know one another on here. But IMO she isn't on here to make friends to go hang out with. She's asking for advice/opinions. That is why I said that if she wants to post her business - then why not.
Why would you say you 2 are on the same team? Do you feel like you need to gang up on me? Really??
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We're on the same team cause you feel the need to mommy us both. I'm obviously biatchy enough on my own that I don't need any help. :diva: And if the OP has every right to post her personal crap for everyone to see then I have the right to post my personal opinion then don't I? See the irony here?
 
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tygrace

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pixiegirl said:
I don't have any hate or anger. I'm happy as a clam matter of fact. I took responsibility for my own life/happiness. I didn't have any self doubt; I knew I screwed up by marrying a donkey and I left. I have a right to be a biatch if I so choose just like the OP has the right to be a co-dependent whiner that looks for reassurance and guidance from strangers on the internet opposed to having already done right by herself and her children. We all have the right to screw up but as parents we have the responsibility to try to make it right. Get off my ass for having an opinion that doesn't cater to your fluffy feel good psychology.

That'll be $50. :lol:
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Good for you for being such a strong person who doesn't need anyone's help. I'm not mommying you--I'm giving my opinion, just as you are. BTW, I really like that "fluffy feel good pyschology" statement. Like I said before, the remarks do not need to be put in such a shtty manner. If someone you loved were receiving advice to something the same way you gave it to OP, how would you feel? I bet I know your answer: Noone I know would ask for advice to strangers--right??
 
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tygrace said:
Good for you for being such a strong person who doesn't need anyone's help. I'm not mommying you--I'm giving my opinion, just as you are. BTW, I really like that "fluffy feel good pyschology" statement. Like I said before, the remarks do not need to be put in such a shtty manner. If someone you loved were receiving advice to something the same way you gave it to OP, how would you feel? I bet I know your answer: Noone I know would ask for advice to strangers--right??
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I for one, would not put that kinda personal info on here and actually I never have.
 
pixiegirl

pixiegirl

Cleopatra Jones
tygrace said:
Good for you for being such a strong person who doesn't need anyone's help. I'm not mommying you--I'm giving my opinion, just as you are. BTW, I really like that "fluffy feel good pyschology" statement. Like I said before, the remarks do not need to be put in such a shtty manner. If someone you loved were receiving advice to something the same way you gave it to OP, how would you feel? I bet I know your answer: Noone I know would ask for advice to strangers--right??
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I know plenty of people that would do such nonsense and I'd tell them they get what they ask for. AND, if a loved one came to me asking for advice on such a matter I'd give them the same straight forward no nonsense answers I have here. Caring about someone doesn't equate to blowing happiness and sunshine up their butt.

I never stated that I don't or never have needed anyone's help. I just don't prey on the sympathy of strangers to get it. Believe it or not my biatchy ass does have friends and family to go to. Most people that don't, don't because they've used to many retard credits and don't want to hear the truth so they seek out new victims to get their feel goods off. They want someone to agree with them and justify their behavior, not tell them the truth.
 
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tygrace

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pixiegirl said:
We are in bed. We're watching episodes of American Dad on the laptop. Hot hu?
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American Dad--hot no!!!!

Didn't mean to come off as such a fluffy person--well, actually that isn't such a bad thing!! Anyway, maybe I feel so strongly on not remarking harshly, because I can relate to her feeling so confused in the head. Not that I'm there (confused), but in the past-sure I have.
 
Tilted

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notthatone said:
For those of you who didn't read my previous post,my husband is bi-polar,among other things I suspect being wrong but are not yet diagnosed. We have been living with his mood swings for a long time. Today I got an email from my daughters teacher saying she was behind in one of her classes. I decided to go get a pizza for dinner and took her with me to talk on the way. As soon as we began to talk,she started crying..not a little,but to the point she could not be understood. She let loose a flood of info,from how she feels like she can't talk in school for fear of being ridiculed or beaten up by the "ghetto kids"(Spring Ridge) to our home life. And therein lies the kicker. She tells me that she is miserable the way things are and she wishes I would leave her dad. She tells me how I tell her to stand up to bullies and yet I tolerate all sorts of crap from him. She pretty much lets me know how destructive he and his mood swings are to her and her sister. I felt so bad. I feel like a failure as a parent...if he were sexually or physically abusing them I would be out the door,but for some stupid reason I feel more like his parent than his wife and I feel responsible for him. I feel like I owe it to him to stay. Before any of you think that he is in a bad mood once every few months,let me explain what we live with. He fluctuates between being really hyper and wanting to do EVERYTHING...RIGHT NOW...to the worst,most miserable lows. And the lows last and last...sometimes two or three weeks at a time. He will fly off the handle over anything...and this will range from him crying and going on and on about how he hates his life to throwing things,kicking our pets,mimicking me and insulting me until I cry,etc. I hate that he is bi-polar because during the highs,he is the man I married,but we hardly see those anymore. I feel awful for putting this person in my kids lives,and now I know I need to leave him. I guess at the end of this long a$$ story,I just want to hear from someone else that I am not some jerk who is walking out on her sick husband and that leaving is right.
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If he has become that emotionally unstable, and is unwilling to make significant efforts to address the issue, then I think you probably need to get out of the situation - especially if your children are openly communicating to you that the situation is unhealthy. Basically, his denial and laziness is more important to him than his family - and families shouldn't accept anything being more important than them.

From what you said, he is already violent (kicking the pets?), and I would imagine that the violence is likely to grow if something doesn't happen to stem the tide. Frankly, even if he wasn't doing anything other than kicking the pets, that should be enough for you to want to leave. You owe it to the pets not to keep them in that kind of situation, let alone your kids. Only a cowardly, insecure POS would kick pets - is that the kind of person you want to be an ever present example in your children's lives? Furthermore, is that the kind of person you thought you married?
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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notthatone said:
I guess at the end of this long a$$ story,I just want to hear from someone else that I am not some jerk who is walking out on her sick husband and that leaving is right.
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You are not a jerk who is walking out on her sick husband and leaving is right.

Seriously, what are you supposed to do? There are meds he can take to regulate him, and if he refuses to do that, what can you do? Like Tilted said, you have a duty to protect your children and prevent them growing up in a life of pure hell.
 
camily

camily

Peace
notthatone said:
For those of you who didn't read my previous post,my husband is bi-polar,among other things I suspect being wrong but are not yet diagnosed. We have been living with his mood swings for a long time. Today I got an email from my daughters teacher saying she was behind in one of her classes. I decided to go get a pizza for dinner and took her with me to talk on the way. As soon as we began to talk,she started crying..not a little,but to the point she could not be understood. She let loose a flood of info,from how she feels like she can't talk in school for fear of being ridiculed or beaten up by the "ghetto kids"(Spring Ridge) to our home life. And therein lies the kicker. She tells me that she is miserable the way things are and she wishes I would leave her dad. She tells me how I tell her to stand up to bullies and yet I tolerate all sorts of crap from him. She pretty much lets me know how destructive he and his mood swings are to her and her sister. I felt so bad. I feel like a failure as a parent...if he were sexually or physically abusing them I would be out the door,but for some stupid reason I feel more like his parent than his wife and I feel responsible for him. I feel like I owe it to him to stay. Before any of you think that he is in a bad mood once every few months,let me explain what we live with. He fluctuates between being really hyper and wanting to do EVERYTHING...RIGHT NOW...to the worst,most miserable lows. And the lows last and last...sometimes two or three weeks at a time. He will fly off the handle over anything...and this will range from him crying and going on and on about how he hates his life to throwing things,kicking our pets,mimicking me and insulting me until I cry,etc. I hate that he is bi-polar because during the highs,he is the man I married,but we hardly see those anymore. I feel awful for putting this person in my kids lives,and now I know I need to leave him. I guess at the end of this long a$$ story,I just want to hear from someone else that I am not some jerk who is walking out on her sick husband and that leaving is right.
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Is he the father of your children?
 
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