Trying reverse psychology...

morningbell

hmmmmmm
Hmmm... Barrack Obama's mama used to wake him at 4 a.m. to begin his lessons each day and when he complained she would tell him, "Lookie here, mister... this isn't a walk in the park for me either." and look at him today...:smile:

that commercial makes me laugh :killingme not sure why, could be the way he delivers it, "look mister... this isn't a walk in the park for me either".
 

Beelzebaby666

Has confinement issues..
Why not let him stay home and you can home school him? What's he in, first grade? You can teach him that stuff.

:pete: Yeah, I wish. When I moved, I took the kids out of daycare and opted to work around school because they're both in school all day, I can be home at night with them and start living a somewhat normal life. If I could stay home I would, no doubt about that. But I'm a single mom:shrug:

Hmmm... Barrack Obama's mama used to wake him at 4 a.m. to begin his lessons each day and when he complained she would tell him, "Lookie here, mister... this isn't a walk in the park for me either." and look at him today...:smile:

I don't know whether to :lol: or :eyebrow:
 

morningbell

hmmmmmm
Can't be worse than mine :whistle:

Next time make it look like you have an important meeting to go to, tell him he can't stay home b/c you're not going to be home. Does he have an alarm clock? I was thinking about getting my cub one.

The above works for me, "COME ON, YOU HAVE TO GO, I HAVE TO LEAVE FOR SCHOOL TOO!!!" Or I have to take M to work.

Does he take a multi vitamin?
 

Beelzebaby666

Has confinement issues..
Just got off the phone with someone from the mentoring program at school. Confirmed that it's ok to send him in his pj's, dirty, anyway I can get him to go...:lol:

She'll be checking in on him daily.:cool:

For now, I hear him rolling around in his bed.. He's so pissed that I haven't caved on the punishment. I discussed the mentoring thing and he thought he was off the hook..:evil:

His day is gonna suck!:lmao:
 

Beelzebaby666

Has confinement issues..
The above works for me, "COME ON, YOU HAVE TO GO, I HAVE TO LEAVE FOR SCHOOL TOO!!!" Or I have to take M to work.

Does he take a multi vitamin?

He doesn't care if O have to go to the OBGYN, he wants to laze around:ohwell:
He takes vitamins too:yay:

Wait.. .my question first... does he have a specific bedtime?

I tried adjusting bedtime to work better for both of my kids. Older child get's up at 5am, but he doesn't have to get up until about 7:30. I've tried two different bed times and that's a PITA but it seems to work.
The oldest goes to bed when she's ready, which is generally 9pm. I make him go to be no later than 10. If he gets up too early, he falls asleep before it gets dark at the end of the day.
 

Sweet 16

^^8^^
I know, I know!! He's so charming, and he's my baby! I let him get away with the whole, "Mommy, I love you, can't I just stay with you all day, pweaasse!!"

But that was pre-k and I've been fighting the urge to keep him with me for a year now.. He's no longer a baby, I know this..:frown:

Oh crap, I'm welling up over here.:bawl:

Therein lies your problem. You are the adult, he is the child. If you let him be the boss, he will be.....forever. You think it's hard now, wait until he's 16!! Set the rules now and ENFORCE them.
 

redneck_woman

Starting Over
Hmm, that opens another door...The Bebe Daddy :rolleyes: No help, only trouble.

My boys father is not involved at all and I don't let that stop me from my boys getting the upper hand on me. So what is the trouble of the father not being involved? That means you got to step up to the plate and do what is required of both a mother and father. I am telling you if you don't put him in his place now it will only get ALOT harder for you.....
 

Dupontster

Would THIS face lie?
Just got off the phone with someone from the mentoring program at school. Confirmed that it's ok to send him in his pj's, dirty, anyway I can get him to go...:lol:

She'll be checking in on him daily.:cool:

For now, I hear him rolling around in his bed.. He's so pissed that I haven't caved on the punishment. I discussed the mentoring thing and he thought he was off the hook..:evil:

His day is gonna suck!:lmao:

He is just looking for the remote....:whistle:
 

Masey

New Member
My darling 6 year old, who is the apple of my eye and the cutest thing in the whole world, is a lazy, whiney momma's boy and I can't take it any longer!!

So, since he complains soooo much that he's tired and he hates school, and I fight him about everything from picking up to helping out to getting dressed in a timely manner...


This morning I let him stay home, again, but every time he leaves his bed, I say get dressed.


I hope this works. I've tried cajoling, bribery, and threats.....Let's see how much he hates school and schleps around after sitting on the top bunk alone with out toys for 6 hours....

:ohwell:

For crap sake woman PARENT your child. Grow a spine and don't let him dictate what he will or will not do. You are in charge of him so let him know it so don't play games with him, parent him. Let him know the night before exactly what is expected of him in the morning. After you're done, ask him if he has any questions. Now, tell him what the consequences will be if he fails to comply with your expectations. Ask him if he has any questions. Now kiss him good night and tomorrow if he fails, drop the hammer on him!
 

EmnJoe

nunya bidnis
Try telling him that if he doesn't go to school then Mommy will go to jail. Back it up with school rule book proof or a trip to the sheriffs office.:coffee:
 

DanceMom

New Member
For crap sake woman PARENT your child. Grow a spine and don't let him dictate what he will or will not do. You are in charge of him so let him know it so don't play games with him, parent him. Let him know the night before exactly what is expected of him in the morning. After you're done, ask him if he has any questions. Now, tell him what the consequences will be if he fails to comply with your expectations. Ask him if he has any questions. Now kiss him good night and tomorrow if he fails, drop the hammer on him!

:high5: I agree.
 

jsouthan

New Member
He doesn't care if O have to go to the OBGYN, he wants to laze around:ohwell:
He takes vitamins too:yay:



I tried adjusting bedtime to work better for both of my kids. Older child get's up at 5am, but he doesn't have to get up until about 7:30. I've tried two different bed times and that's a PITA but it seems to work.
The oldest goes to bed when she's ready, which is generally 9pm. I make him go to be no later than 10. If he gets up too early, he falls asleep before it gets dark at the end of the day.

Well, no wonder he doesn't want to get up in the morning. Kids that age need 11-12 hours of sleep. My kids are in bed (even the oldest who is 10) by 8 - 8:30. They may not fall asleep right away, but as long as they are in their bed and quiet, I'm okay with that. No getting out of bed, no 15 trips to the bathroom, no playing with toys. They sometimes read a book for a few minutes (by nightlight, don't ask me how they see!), but that's about it. If they don't follow the rules or they don't get up the next day, then it's an even earlier bed time the next night. It doesn't happen often now because they know that it will happen.

You may also want to try implementing a reward system. It depends on what motivates him. My son was always one that wanted to stay home with me too... he's just a homebody. If we are out too many evenings, he gets stressed. So anyway, we have cards for each of the activities for their morning and evening routines. In the am it is things like getting dressed, getting their backpack & lunch together, brushing teeth. In the pm it is showers in < 15 min (that's for dd), getting PJ's on, brushing teeth, taking medicine. Basically anything you want them to do in a timely manner, without you having to tell them to do it 15 times. If they do it without having to be told, they get a point. For my son (who loves to save $$$), 1 point = 1 penny. No biggie, as with the tasks he has it is only about a dollar or so a week. With my dd, we just do points and when she reaches 500 points, I take her to the bookstore in PF and buy her 2 books. That's what does it for her. You have to stick to it, though. If you have to remind them, then no points for the task. It has really made our am/pm times much less stressful.

Good luck!
 
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