Unhappy marrige
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ceo_pte
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Originally posted by Nickel
And you know me from where? Dumb? Maybe you, but not me, I think realistically. Nothing I have said, except for stating that I will only marry for love, has been "my mantra". I'm trying to explain to your dumb ass why people get divorced. Have you ever seen a battered wife? Or her child with a broken arm b/c daddy threw him down the stairs? Try telling them that they "just need to try harder to make it work". You truly are a simple mind.
That's why my wife and I DATED (tip), so that we could get to know each other. I realize some people have problems they need to deal with and that's why dating is important. Do you think this 'battered wife' knew about her husbands problems before they got married? Or was it something that just started when they got married?
It's obvious that you are a female...
I know I didn't plan on divorce 20 years ago, but it happens. And sometimes it takes a long time to get over it, but eventually you do.
ceo_pte
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Originally posted by RoseRed
What makes you an expert after only one year of marriage?
Marriages can and do fail for a myriad of reasons, many of which may arise after many years and just can't be fixed.
But hey, you're the expert, so Good On You!
You called me the expert! But that's just your way of being sarcastic, right!
I don't think the marriage fails! People give up on the marriage, hence people fail. The marriage is simply the union.
Nickel
curiouser and curiouser
Let me reiterate for the slo-mo's. The scenarios I gave are not ME, they are common situations where your "rules" aren't gonna cut it. It doesn't matter if the battered wife dated her now-husband beforehand or not. They're married and he beats her, their dating history doesn't excuse it and certainly shouldn't confine her or her children to a life sentence of abuse. Men are fairly capable of hiding their true colors until they get married, who knows, maybe his wife just pizzed him off one day and he finally snapped...I wouldn't know, I'm not weak enough to be in an abusive relationship, but there are women who are, and they don't need you to be their mouthpiece. I don't need marriage tips from you, TYVM, I'm fairly certain your marriage isn't perfect, no one's is. My relationship is wonderful, with no help from outside influences.
What was your first hint? The fact that I'm not a moron?
mainman
Set Trippin
The sanctity of marriage is very precious, however sometimes circumstances arise that cannot be seen in the begining which can and often do ruin this sanctity... I fully agree that marriage is worth saving, as long as there is something left to salvage. If you are left with nothing left to save, then it is unhealthy for all parties involved to stay and you might as well wipe your ass with that legal document.
People change my friend...
Sometimes the person you marry is not the person you dated or fell in love with, it's a part of life...
People change my friend...
Sometimes the person you marry is not the person you dated or fell in love with, it's a part of life...
Nickel
curiouser and curiouser
Okay, Mr Holier Than Thou, thankfully I wasn't around way back then, but why did you feel the need to share your package? Shouldn't that be for your wife's eyes only, or is "sharing/exchanging" part of your "perfect" marriage? Doesn't sound like Christian behavior to meOriginally posted by ceo_pte
Made a lasting impression on someone...
ceo_pte
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Originally posted by RoseRed
Glad you could read into that.
I think it is pretty presumptuous of you to make such a blanket statement regarding all people/marriages/unions. Not everyone is as perfect as you and yours.
We are far from perfect, but we made the committment for forever. I realize people change and different people make different decisions for their own reasons. I just wish more people would take marriage and the committment they make to each other more seriously. I hate seeing kids in broken families.
