I'm having a hard time deciding if I want to get married at the courthouse or have a wedding. My mom has offered to help pay for a wedding but I don't feel like dealing with the planing of a wedding. I also don't want anyone to feel left out if we go to the courthouse. My fiancé doesn't care what we do as long as I'm happy. I don’t know what to do.
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Larry Gude
Strung Out
This your first marriage? How many do you plan on having?
Larry Gude
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Moved_south
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If we had it to do over, we would've had a destination wedding and saved a ton of money
How does a destination wedding save money? I always thought that would cost more....
Most everything's included with a destination wedding...ceremony, flowers, centerpieces, etc. plus you could just stay and honeymoon there (I guess I'm taking that cost into consideration too)
Moved_south
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Hmmm... I guess I could see where it could save money for the couple.... just the idea of travel to some exotic destination wedding worthy area seems like a big splurge. Also travel expenses for the guests could be hard for them to afford. Would be lovely tho. We celebrated our 10th anniversary with a ceremony on a beach here locally.... does that count??? Ha.
I offered my oldest daughter $5,000 cash to use the courthouse. She refused, saying "Is that all I'm worth???"
We gave her and hers a $10,000 budget, had a fantastic wedding and reception. They had a surplus of two grand, which was rolled into their wedding gift (of course!), and all mom and I got out of it was a beautiful 19 month old grandson who is my almost daily partner.
Life is good, for sure.
We gave her and hers a $10,000 budget, had a fantastic wedding and reception. They had a surplus of two grand, which was rolled into their wedding gift (of course!), and all mom and I got out of it was a beautiful 19 month old grandson who is my almost daily partner.
Life is good, for sure.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Hmmm... I guess I could see where it could save money for the couple.... just the idea of travel to some exotic destination wedding worthy area seems like a big splurge. Also travel expenses for the guests could be hard for them to afford. Would be lovely tho. We celebrated our 10th anniversary with a ceremony on a beach here locally.... does that count??? Ha.
That absolutely counts!
There definitely wouldn't be nearly as many guests at a destination wedding, family and close friends that could make it. You could always have a big party (less formal) at home....maybe a cookout type thing, if it were nice out.
Don't get me wrong, I absolutely LOVED our wedding. It's just, ya know what....I take my whole statement back......I'd definitely redo my wedding
OP....I say go for the wedding, if you can
Awww all you got out of it was a little partner in crime.....love it! We blessed "Grammy" and "Paw Paw" with a little guy just over 8 months ago. We conceived on our one year anniversary in Aruba (TMI?
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JenniferCNJR
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A formal wedding runs the risk of turning in to what everyone wants as opposed to what the bride and groom want....where to marry, where to have the reception, who to invite, what to eat, what to wear, etc. I felt in my wedding, we lost what we really wanted in order to please everyone else.
A courthouse wedding, in my opinion, just isn't "special" enough. It lacks romance.
If I had to chose again, and I do, I would opt for a small/private ceremony in a place that is special to us. It is an exchange of promises between the two of us in a place that we can sort of memorialize (for lack of better word) and revisit for years to come.
A courthouse wedding, in my opinion, just isn't "special" enough. It lacks romance.
If I had to chose again, and I do, I would opt for a small/private ceremony in a place that is special to us. It is an exchange of promises between the two of us in a place that we can sort of memorialize (for lack of better word) and revisit for years to come.
luvmygdaughters
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Have the wedding at the courthouse with a few close family members and friends. Then plan a reception somewhere where you can invite other family members and friends to celebrate you special day.
Best $10k you ever spent, huh?
Yeah, buddy. I could have tossed a few camels and goats into the dowry as well, but apartment living for the newlyweds, well, that could have been a strain on the relationship.
Moved_south
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I like this idea too-- although "small/private" may cause some drama as to who is invited vs who is not. Could get complicated. A big back yard informal cook out bash for everyone a week or so later would be nice and a whole lot cheaper too. We had a medium-sized wedding and I would not trade it for the world. All that really matters is the end result-- you just sometime need to keep reminding yourself of that fact
That absolutely counts!
There definitely wouldn't be nearly as many guests at a destination wedding, family and close friends that could make it. You could always have a big party (less formal) at home....maybe a cookout type thing, if it were nice out.
Don't get me wrong, I absolutely LOVED our wedding. It's just, ya know what....I take my whole statement back......I'd definitely redo my wedding
OP....I say go for the wedding, if you can
Awww all you got out of it was a little partner in crime.....love it! We blessed "Grammy" and "Paw Paw" with a little guy just over 8 months ago. We conceived on our one year anniversary in Aruba (TMI?
I am Papa. Our house is Papa. Grandma is still waiting for that first "gwamma" or anything close to it.
I am also "Cuckoo!".
When our grandson was about15 months old, our daughter was in the backseat with grandson and a girlfriend. Their husbands were in the front seat. My daughter was showing grandson photos of family members, with no response until he saw my picture. He immediately pointed and said "Cuckoo!"
My son-in-law told he almost drove off the road laughing so hard.
We have a Black Forest, genuine Cuckoo clock in the house. It wa/still is an event holding him up to the clock when it sounds off. Now that is just cuckoo.
What a hoot!
Grandpa is cuckoo. That rocks.
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JenniferCNJR
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I feel age plays a factor too. I can't imagine my parents accepting a private wedding when I was in my early 20's. It's kind of like a rite of passage in life...letting go of their son or daughter.
Now that I am in my 40's and life is a little more "real", that whole image is gone and it's now about a promise I am making for my future with someone, to grow old together, and not about a spectator event or presents.
JMO
Well duh, I figure you (or anyone) wouldn't intentionally put a ring on the "wrong" gurl's finger....and yes, there shouldn't be an interrogation needed