My best suggestion is to give it some time and hope it all works out. Your pets need to adjust and so does she. Venting helps but it would really be best not to get on the offensive if at all possible.
My best suggestion is to give it some time and hope it all works out. Your pets need to adjust and so does she. Venting helps but it would really be best not to get on the offensive if at all possible.
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jp2854
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i understand tigerlily. She is the one who isn't giving it any time she wanted me gone from the day I moved in. Its hard to be nice to someone who doesn't want you around. I try hard to be nice to her and be respectful of her by not slamming doors when I go out to take the dog potty or come back in. I also keep my music low (she blares hers). Things shall work out because if they don't I think she will be having to find a new home. I plan to keep my mom and stepdad posted as to what is going on because stress does me now good as I have health issues.
She is also a smoker and smokes in her apt (I dont complain about it but it drives my asthma nuts) I asked her one time nicely if she could please smoke outside and she told me a big fat NO. So in return she gets to listen to me cough.
She is also a smoker and smokes in her apt (I dont complain about it but it drives my asthma nuts) I asked her one time nicely if she could please smoke outside and she told me a big fat NO. So in return she gets to listen to me cough.
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jp2854
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I am 32. this lady is a pain in the rear end. I know I live in the real world now but nobody told me I would get to listen to someone complain daily about the dog or call me and chew me out for running the vaccumm cleaner in the morning. I have to clean house at some point in the day I can't let it go becasue she is home in bed sleeping because she stays up all night to make her boyfriend lunch for when he goes to work in the morning.
I live in a home that is basically a duplex. My BF's mother lives below us. We have all moved in a year and a half ago and let me say we have had to adjust daily in this time.
I used to cringe everytime I heard a door slam, a dog bark or the washing machine running at 5am. Until, I went down to her floor one day heard the thunderous noise coming through the floor that was my children. I looked at her and said "My gawd woman I cannot believe why you have not killed us by now" I could fill pages of instances of this and thats and I am sure she would have just as many if not more.
The bottom line is you are residing in bascially an old home that was converted to apartments and it's store. Everyone will hear almost every little noise etc. Sometimes you have to take a few steps back and think about what the other person is adjusting to. I refer to it as putting yourself in their shoe's.
Maybe you two should have a drink one night and get to know each other that may be a way to bridge this gap and work towards co existing in the same place.
Lilypad
Well-Known Member
Thank you-
Does this gal work? You posted she doesn't get home until 11.
Block her number.....
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jp2854
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this lady and I were friends (she always called me etc.) now that I am living here she hates me. I always ask her if shes going to come over to the store and she says no. The other night she came over for the first time in a while. So I was sitting there talking to her and she said she was glad we had a talk and she told people how good it was that i was on my own then sunday wham bam thankyou mam she called me up and chewed me out for the dog barking as the vaccumm was on and bruno is afraid of it. I don't plan to have any contact with her anymore and if she calls she will be talking to my voicemail til she appologizes to me in person about her outburst and yelling at me when i didn't deserve it one bit til then I don't plan to speak to her.
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jp2854
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yes she works at a bar from about 5 til 11 or 12. I did I deleted it from my phone and if she calls she will talk to my voicemail. She told me pointblank to never speak to her again so I don't plan to. One of the other ladies that came into the store knows this person and she said she thinks she will appologize after she cools down we'll wait and see what really happens.
Lilypad
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jp2854
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i feel the same way lilypad
she drives me to drink and I don't even drink so I guess that is a bad thing if she does that to me.This is probably the reason she has called since as you stated you were both friendly prior to you moving in. I know her as I used to work with her myself and I think you will be able to work through it. It will just take some time.
The only other suggestion I have is to write her a letter and explain that you are doing the best you can and voice your concerns as well. I hope you both make it to the middle ground on this.
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jp2854
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thanks for the suggestions tigerlily. I think for now i am going to take it one day at a time and see how things go if things get worse i will get my landlord (stepdad) more involved and have him talk to her because that is the only thing that will make things better.
SoMDGirl42
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and I'd say that was a pretty fricken rude response to a simple question. A "I'd rather not say" would have gone a lot further. Maybe your issues aren't your dog at all, but your attitude in general. I'm just saying. Maybe your former friend is sick of you jumping down her throat everytime she asks a simple question.
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jp2854
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well its true i don't want everyone to know where i live. Sorry if it came across rude I didn't mean for it to. I never really talked to former friend she would come see me at work and talk to me there. But now that I live here it all has changed because she now doesn't want me here or any of that.
It is no great secret that a particular store in Ridge has always had a St. Bernard named Bruno. :shrug:
and I'd say that was a pretty fricken rude response to a simple question. A "I'd rather not say" would have gone a lot further. Maybe your issues aren't your dog at all, but your attitude in general. I'm just saying. Maybe your former friend is sick of you jumping down her throat everytime she asks a simple question.
That was a rude response to DoWhat's question. Its not hard to figure out since you put you whole life on the fourms. Remember this thread.....
http://forums.somd.com/life-southern-maryland/159982-buzzy-s-country-store.html
MissKitty
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PsyOps
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Wow! Now you're getting nasty. Are you sure your neighbor is the problem?
don't get bent... it was a joke.