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dboz
Guest
hi everyone i am new to the forums on here but very familiar with SOMD. what i posted is very true and should be a recognized as a problem. feel free to pass it on to other forums if you would like.
When is Enough, Enough?
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When is enough, enough? Is enough when a 4 year old is living in the same apartment as a convicted Sex offender? I have a 4 year old son who is staying with his mother in the same apartment as a convicted Sex offender and no one seems to care. As a parent most would say are you serious? Why don’t you just go and get him from there that’s not safe, and I agree it is not safe.
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The hard part of it all is that there is nothing you or I can do. You may ask why not? According to the Court system the reason for this is that the child is not in any immediate danger. So basically you have to wait until something happens to your child before the courts do anything about it. Why is it that the people that are doing the right thing always seem to get the short end of the stick and the people breaking the law and putting innocent children in danger get away with it? Sure you can go and tell the courts your child is living with a sex offender and they will say where is the proof? You can’t just tell the courts well I know he lives there because I see him there all the time, that doesn’t cut it for the courts. You have to have proof that he is living there. Is it proof enough that your 4 year old son comes to you and sees this person’s picture and tells you that this man lives there? No because he is 4 years old and cant tell the difference between fiction and non fiction.
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Most parents out there will tell you that you should not underestimate children they are smart and very good judges of character. The Court doesn’t see it that way. But when there is a crime and the have a young witness they will use that witness in a lineup to identify the accused, why not listen to them when the tell you that something is wrong and they don’t want to live in that house anymore.
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In my personal situation I have dealt with a lot of different things. I know from experience these things I talk about and it has had and is still having an adverse effect on my 4 year old. Is it enough for the Courts when you child says that his mother doesn’t take care of him but other people do. Is it enough when you child tells you that while that mother is home someone else is watching the child so the mother can play on the computer. What child knows or thinks about these things at 4 years old. These things are not just figments of our children’s imaginations they are real.
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When a child is hurt that is when things get done or new laws are made. Why does it have to come to that? Why do our children have to suffer? Is there not anyone anymore that believes in doing what is right? Has society come to that point where it is ok to put in danger innocent children to make sure that they don’t make a mistake? When a father gets locked for hurting another person that hurt their child people always ask why did he do that? This is why. Any parent will tell you that if you hurt my child I will come after you, or when a father tells his daughters boyfriend you hurt her and your dead. How come we will say it and then when something happens to our children the people always turn to the parent? Why not turn to the court system for not protecting the children enough? But wait we do turn to the courts to protect our children and what happens they tell us if he is not in immediate danger there is nothing you can do. This is what makes parents so angry and irritated with the courts. Why does the child have to be in immediate danger for us to take action? I had a lawyer today tell me that the justice system is flawed and doesn’t always work the way it should. They are right when a child comes to an adult to look for protection to we just turn and walk away? If a child is drowning in a pool do you just look the other way? When will someone step up to the plate and ask the courts When is Enough, Enough? When will we do what is right?
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DB (concerned parent)
When is Enough, Enough?
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When is enough, enough? Is enough when a 4 year old is living in the same apartment as a convicted Sex offender? I have a 4 year old son who is staying with his mother in the same apartment as a convicted Sex offender and no one seems to care. As a parent most would say are you serious? Why don’t you just go and get him from there that’s not safe, and I agree it is not safe.
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The hard part of it all is that there is nothing you or I can do. You may ask why not? According to the Court system the reason for this is that the child is not in any immediate danger. So basically you have to wait until something happens to your child before the courts do anything about it. Why is it that the people that are doing the right thing always seem to get the short end of the stick and the people breaking the law and putting innocent children in danger get away with it? Sure you can go and tell the courts your child is living with a sex offender and they will say where is the proof? You can’t just tell the courts well I know he lives there because I see him there all the time, that doesn’t cut it for the courts. You have to have proof that he is living there. Is it proof enough that your 4 year old son comes to you and sees this person’s picture and tells you that this man lives there? No because he is 4 years old and cant tell the difference between fiction and non fiction.
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Most parents out there will tell you that you should not underestimate children they are smart and very good judges of character. The Court doesn’t see it that way. But when there is a crime and the have a young witness they will use that witness in a lineup to identify the accused, why not listen to them when the tell you that something is wrong and they don’t want to live in that house anymore.
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In my personal situation I have dealt with a lot of different things. I know from experience these things I talk about and it has had and is still having an adverse effect on my 4 year old. Is it enough for the Courts when you child says that his mother doesn’t take care of him but other people do. Is it enough when you child tells you that while that mother is home someone else is watching the child so the mother can play on the computer. What child knows or thinks about these things at 4 years old. These things are not just figments of our children’s imaginations they are real.
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When a child is hurt that is when things get done or new laws are made. Why does it have to come to that? Why do our children have to suffer? Is there not anyone anymore that believes in doing what is right? Has society come to that point where it is ok to put in danger innocent children to make sure that they don’t make a mistake? When a father gets locked for hurting another person that hurt their child people always ask why did he do that? This is why. Any parent will tell you that if you hurt my child I will come after you, or when a father tells his daughters boyfriend you hurt her and your dead. How come we will say it and then when something happens to our children the people always turn to the parent? Why not turn to the court system for not protecting the children enough? But wait we do turn to the courts to protect our children and what happens they tell us if he is not in immediate danger there is nothing you can do. This is what makes parents so angry and irritated with the courts. Why does the child have to be in immediate danger for us to take action? I had a lawyer today tell me that the justice system is flawed and doesn’t always work the way it should. They are right when a child comes to an adult to look for protection to we just turn and walk away? If a child is drowning in a pool do you just look the other way? When will someone step up to the plate and ask the courts When is Enough, Enough? When will we do what is right?
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DB (concerned parent)
welcome.... However, why don't you/your mother just move? :shrug: If it bothers you that badly :shrug:
