Who pays for the wedding?

[dixiepeach]

Having this discussion in my now. Sister and soon to be are both college grads with good jobs. My parents paid for her BA degree. She now wants parents to shell out $10,000 for a wedding. I told her she's a selfish brat. My parents don't have college degrees and are very "working class". What say you?

 

[Otter]

Age?

 

[Larry Gude]

Having this discussion in my now. Sister and soon to be are both college grads with good jobs. My parents paid for her BA degree. She now wants parents to shell out $10,000 for a wedding. I told her she's a selfish brat. My parents don't have college degrees and are very "working class". What say you?

If the family is traditional and this is a first marriage, then sissies folks get to run the show and pay the dough.

 

[morningbell]

Having this discussion in my now. Sister and soon to be are both college grads with good jobs. My parents paid for her BA degree. She now wants parents to shell out $10,000 for a wedding. I told her she's a selfish brat. My parents don't have college degrees and are very "working class". What say you?

Money is tight, sister is a spoiled brat. If sister can't afford nuptials then they shouldn't marry :shrug:

 

[vraiblonde]

Bridezillas are expected to pay for their own weddings these days. Mommy and Dad picking up the tab is a leftover from back when you paid someone to take your daughter off your hands in the form of a dowry.

 

[Rommey]

The least Mom & Dad could do is offer to drive them down to the courthouse to see the JP.

 

[migtig]

Most couples (bride2b and groom2b) pay for their own weddings. Sometimes families will contribute by purchasing the dress, paying for the rehearsal dinner, wedding cake, etc. But the family doesn't pick up the whole tab, nor should they.

 

[kvj21075]

tell your mom she will pay for the wedding, but the limit is $200

 

[kvj21075]

4d and I are paying for most of the wedding.

My Mom and Dad are taking care of the honeymoon and catering.

my biological dad and step mom are taking care of my dress and wedding cake.

its up to us for the rest.

she should feel lucky they paid for her degree!

 

[morningbell]

4d and I are paying for most of the wedding.

My Mom and Dad are taking care of the honeymoon and catering.

my biological dad and step mom are taking care of my dress and wedding cake.

its up to us for the rest.

she should feel lucky they paid for her degree!

Would she rather have paid for a wedding instead of an education?

 

[frozenrain]

Having this discussion in my now. Sister and soon to be are both college grads with good jobs. My parents paid for her BA degree. She now wants parents to shell out $10,000 for a wedding. I told her she's a selfish brat. My parents don't have college degrees and are very "working class". What say you?

from the age of 13 I was expected to get a saturday job and pay for all my clothes bath products etc.I never got a penny from them for anything after that .I am not saying this is right and with my children I will help them until they are adults but it shocks me to think that people expect money from their parents as adults.If a parent has money and wants to contribute that is great.I know I would move the earth,the sun and the stars to help my kiddos but I would not like it if they had an attitude such as this.In this economy 10,000 may as well be a million to some.
My wedding was a cheap affair. My dress was too big around waist as it was not fitted. I got some flowers last minute at the local florist.The florists were shocked that it had been a last minute decision. They were lovely flowers though!
I did not do a gift list as I do not like to ask for things from people. Even if I was rich I would not have wanted a big affair.To spend so much money on one day and get into debt like some people do is crazy.It can still be special even low budget.
If their parents can not afford it then they will have to try and plan a lower budget wedding.

 

[Vince]

Having this discussion in my now. Sister and soon to be are both college grads with good jobs. My parents paid for her BA degree. She now wants parents to shell out $10,000 for a wedding. I told her she's a selfish brat. My parents don't have college degrees and are very "working class". What say you?

You are correct. I recently put my daughter through college and when it came time for her to marry (last year), she didn't ask for any money. I told her here is your wedding present in the form of $5000. Spend it on a wedding or run away and get married and save it for something you want. She did the wedding and got the rest of the money from the ex. :shrug: I'm done supporting my daughter, but I taught her well and she's doing fine on her own with the help of her husband.

 

[dn0121]

from the age of 13 I was expected to get a saturday job and pay for all my clothes bath products etc.I never got a penny from them for anything after that .I am not saying this is right and with my children I will help them until they are adults but it shocks me to think that people expect money from their parents as adults.If a parent has money and wants to contribute that is great.I know I would move the earth,the sun and the stars to help my kiddos but I would like it if they had an attitude such as this.In this economy 10,000 may as well be a million to some.

You are an example of how all kids should learn fiscal responsibility. If more people were raised this way there would be a lot less Princess license plate frames and obese video game zombies.

 

[jsouthan]

When hubby and I got married, we paid for most of it ourselves. I had been out of college and he was just graduating. We did not have a lot of money by any means, but neither did our parents. We had a nice wedding (not lavish) with about 100 guests. We found ways to keep costs down (heavy hors d'oeuvres instead of a sit-down dinner). My parents paid for my dress and gave us some cash (about $1500, I think), while his parents took care of our honeymoon and hosted the rehearsal dinner at their house.

A little bit in your sister's defense, I know even in trying to keep costs down, our wedding was about $6000-7000 (including the contributions from my parents) and that was 13 years ago. This many years later, I don't think $10,000 is that much for a wedding, reception, dress and all that. I am just basing that on what we paid and given the passage of time, so I really don't know. However, just expecting to have that amount of money handed to you is a bit much.

 

[frozenrain]

You are an example of how all kids should learn fiscal responsibility. If more people were raised this way there would be a lot less Princess license plate frames and obese video game zombies.

I think there has to be a balance. over indulging children can have terrible consequences just as being very mean can. I would not want my child to feel bad at school if they had to wear the same outfit every day but nor would it be a shopping spree every week or two.

 

[dixiepeach]

Couple in question are 25 and 28. Mom and Dad offered a local wedding at The Crystal Room but that doesn't suit sis and her snotty upity groom. They want it in Charleston SC grooms hometown because St Mary's county has "nothing suitable for their finer taste".

 

[BernieP]

Money is tight, sister is a spoiled brat. If sister can't afford nuptials then they shouldn't marry :shrug:

She can get married and have a honeymoon for well under $10,000.

 

[Otter]

Couple in question are 25 and 28. Mom and Dad offered a local wedding at The Crystal Room but that doesn't suit sis and her snotty upity groom. They want it in Charleston SC grooms hometown because St Mary's county has "nothing suitable for their finer taste".

Tell your parents to give them some scrapple and a dozen crabs as a dowry and say good luck.

 

[Vince]

Couple in question are 25 and 28. Mom and Dad offered a local wedding at The Crystal Room but that doesn't suit sis and her snotty upity groom. They want it in Charleston SC grooms hometown because St Mary's county has "nothing suitable for their finer taste".

Sounds like champagne taste on a beer budget. Live within your means and in today's economy they'd better learn that quickly. Mom and Dad should tell them that they're on their own and just give them a wedding gift.

 

[kvj21075]

When hubby and I got married, we paid for most of it ourselves. I had been out of college and he was just graduating. We did not have a lot of money by any means, but neither did our parents. We had a nice wedding (not lavish) with about 100 guests. We found ways to keep costs down (heavy hors d'oeuvres instead of a sit-down dinner). My parents paid for my dress and gave us some cash (about $1500, I think), while his parents took care of our honeymoon and hosted the rehearsal dinner at their house.

A little bit in your sister's defense, I know even in trying to keep costs down, our wedding was about $6000-7000 (including the contributions from my parents) and that was 13 years ago. This many years later, I don't think $10,000 is that much for a wedding, reception, dress and all that. I am just basing that on what we paid and given the passage of time, so I really don't know. However, just expecting to have that amount of money handed to you is a bit much.

4d and i are having a very nice weddin at about 10k. but we are searching and planning constantly to find the best price but we are doing a great job on it i think our wedding would normally cost about 20k.