SoMDGirl42
Well-Known Member
My opinion, you have more serious underlying issues with your husband and you are using a 10 year old discussion as an excuse to bail out now.
Are you upset that he talked the boy's mother about you two not getting along? I just want to make sure this is the issue.
It created more drama by him running to the ex to "discuss" his wife. That would have pissed me off, too. If hubby and the ex still wanted to be a family with their children, they shouldn't have gotten divorced.
It created more drama by him running to the ex to "discuss" his wife. That would have pissed me off, too. If hubby and the ex still wanted to be a family with their children, they shouldn't have gotten divorced.
He considered it serious enough 10 years ago to tell her not to tell me he called her because I would leave. He has never after that even contacted her. I raised their son, did the best I could for what I had to work with. She moved out of state leaving him with us at 8 years old and spoiled to the hilt. Expected everything and my husband felt sorry for him so no punishments. This would take too long.
He considered it serious enough 10 years ago to tell her not to tell me he called her because I would leave. He has never after that even contacted her. I raised their son, did the best I could for what I had to work with. She moved out of state leaving him with us at 8 years old and spoiled to the hilt. Expected everything and my husband felt sorry for him so no punishments. This would take too long.
EXACTLY! He should have discussed it with me. Whatever....should not have spread my business. Thought that maybe some of you older ones that have been married would understand. Would take too much time to write the entire situation....nevermind.
well considering its their child, he has every right and responsibility to discuss things like this with her. If it was your kid you would want your ex to inform you if he was calling step mom names and generaly acting disrespectful. This lady is just getting her panties in a wad because dad talks to mom and she is jealous.
It created more drama by him running to the ex to "discuss" his wife. That would have pissed me off, too. If hubby and the ex still wanted to be a family with their children, they shouldn't have gotten divorced.
He has never after that even contacted her.
So you want to leave because 10 years ago he called and consulted with his ex about how you and their son did not get along?
NO, he was telling her that I was the one being nasty....which far from the truth. I am not jealous of his exwife....I have been with my husband for 20 years, his ex is married to a very nice man, and as a matter of fact, I like her alot. Some people think its weird we are friends. They were only married a year....so to me that is not an ex, thats an acquaintance.
NO, he was telling her that I was the one being nasty....which far from the truth. I am not jealous of his exwife....I have been with my husband for 20 years, his ex is married to a very nice man, and as a matter of fact, I like her alot. Some people think its weird we are friends. They were only married a year....so to me that is not an ex, thats an acquaintance.
Then let it go. He made a mistake 10 years ago, one that hasn't been repeated. So why are you still upset and what do you want him to do about it?
NO, he was telling her that I was the one being nasty....which far from the truth. I am not jealous of his exwife....I have been with my husband for 20 years, his ex is married to a very nice man, and as a matter of fact, I like her alot. Some people think its weird we are friends. They were only married a year....so to me that is not an ex, thats an acquaintance.
It happened 10 years into your marriage with him and you've stayed with him an additional 10 years and even made a baby with him 7 years ago. I don't understand why you would want to use this as an excuse to end your marriage when the entire ordeal wasn't enough to stop you from bringing a child into the mix.And let's say you do divorce... are you willing to accept him not discussing your daughter's new babymomma dramas with you when he shacks up again...:shrug:
It happened 10 years into your marriage with him and you've stayed with him an additional 10 years and even made a baby with him 7 years ago. I don't understand why you would want to use this as an excuse to end your marriage when the entire ordeal wasn't enough to stop you from bringing a child into the mix.And let's say you do divorce... are you willing to accept him not discussing your daughter's new babymomma dramas with you when he shacks up again...:shrug: