Would you divorce because of this?

SoMDGirl42

Well-Known Member
My opinion, you have more serious underlying issues with your husband and you are using a 10 year old discussion as an excuse to bail out now.
 
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wkndbeacher

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Are you upset that he talked the boy's mother about you two not getting along? I just want to make sure this is the issue.

Yeah thats the part im gathering. He doesnt have a right to her his EX on whats going on in their relationship, sounds like he has a communication problem with stylin and not talking to her about it.
 

tommyjones

New Member
It created more drama by him running to the ex to "discuss" his wife. That would have pissed me off, too. If hubby and the ex still wanted to be a family with their children, they shouldn't have gotten divorced.

well considering its their child, he has every right and responsibility to discuss things like this with her. If it was your kid you would want your ex to inform you if he was calling step mom names and generaly acting disrespectful. This lady is just getting her panties in a wad because dad talks to mom and she is jealous.
 

stylin

New Member
It created more drama by him running to the ex to "discuss" his wife. That would have pissed me off, too. If hubby and the ex still wanted to be a family with their children, they shouldn't have gotten divorced.


That is exactly how i feel. His ex up and left his child with us. why discuss anything with her. I just found out about all this, this past weekend. Still a little fresh. It is just shocking to me.

Thanks VRAI
 

tommyjones

New Member
He considered it serious enough 10 years ago to tell her not to tell me he called her because I would leave. He has never after that even contacted her. I raised their son, did the best I could for what I had to work with. She moved out of state leaving him with us at 8 years old and spoiled to the hilt. Expected everything and my husband felt sorry for him so no punishments. This would take too long.

gee, do you think your attitude is part of the probelm?
 
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Kain99

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He considered it serious enough 10 years ago to tell her not to tell me he called her because I would leave. He has never after that even contacted her. I raised their son, did the best I could for what I had to work with. She moved out of state leaving him with us at 8 years old and spoiled to the hilt. Expected everything and my husband felt sorry for him so no punishments. This would take too long.

If I were you, I would question why he was walking on egg shells. Vrai has a nice solution for a stable situation but in reading your posts I get the feeling things have been tenuous for quite some time.
 
EXACTLY! He should have discussed it with me. Whatever....should not have spread my business. Thought that maybe some of you older ones that have been married would understand. Would take too much time to write the entire situation....nevermind.

I said he DIDN'T have to clear it with you first since the emotional dramas in his son's life were his mother's business too.

Age has nothing to do with common sense, BTW I've been married 17 years and will be 41 this year.
 

stylin

New Member
well considering its their child, he has every right and responsibility to discuss things like this with her. If it was your kid you would want your ex to inform you if he was calling step mom names and generaly acting disrespectful. This lady is just getting her panties in a wad because dad talks to mom and she is jealous.


NO, he was telling her that I was the one being nasty....which far from the truth. I am not jealous of his exwife....I have been with my husband for 20 years, his ex is married to a very nice man, and as a matter of fact, I like her alot. Some people think its weird we are friends. They were only married a year....so to me that is not an ex, thats an acquaintance.
 

Pete

Repete
It created more drama by him running to the ex to "discuss" his wife. That would have pissed me off, too. If hubby and the ex still wanted to be a family with their children, they shouldn't have gotten divorced.

It was 10 years ago.
 
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Kain99

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NO, he was telling her that I was the one being nasty....which far from the truth. I am not jealous of his exwife....I have been with my husband for 20 years, his ex is married to a very nice man, and as a matter of fact, I like her alot. Some people think its weird we are friends. They were only married a year....so to me that is not an ex, thats an acquaintance.

Difficult teenagers are a dime a dozen... Sounds like you engaged the kid and that wasn't smart.
 

tommyjones

New Member
NO, he was telling her that I was the one being nasty....which far from the truth. I am not jealous of his exwife....I have been with my husband for 20 years, his ex is married to a very nice man, and as a matter of fact, I like her alot. Some people think its weird we are friends. They were only married a year....so to me that is not an ex, thats an acquaintance.

you dont know what he told her, but if thats what he said i am willing to bet its true. (judging from your posts)
 

stylin

New Member
Then let it go. He made a mistake 10 years ago, one that hasn't been repeated. So why are you still upset and what do you want him to do about it?

I don't know. I guess because I feel betrayed? I just found out about it. I know I should talk to him about it but whats the sense, what is done is done. Yes there have been problems lately, like I said in my first post...icing on the cake I guess.

I do not have an attitude about it. People are misreading my posts...I am very upset not angry...if that makes sense
 
NO, he was telling her that I was the one being nasty....which far from the truth. I am not jealous of his exwife....I have been with my husband for 20 years, his ex is married to a very nice man, and as a matter of fact, I like her alot. Some people think its weird we are friends. They were only married a year....so to me that is not an ex, thats an acquaintance.

It happened 10 years into your marriage with him and you've stayed with him an additional 10 years and even made a baby with him 7 years ago. I don't understand why you would want to use this as an excuse to end your marriage when the entire ordeal wasn't enough to stop you from bringing a child into the mix. :confused: And let's say you do divorce... are you willing to accept him not discussing your daughter's new babymomma dramas with you when he shacks up again...:shrug:
 

SoMDGirl42

Well-Known Member
It happened 10 years into your marriage with him and you've stayed with him an additional 10 years and even made a baby with him 7 years ago. I don't understand why you would want to use this as an excuse to end your marriage when the entire ordeal wasn't enough to stop you from bringing a child into the mix. :confused: And let's say you do divorce... are you willing to accept him not discussing your daughter's new babymomma dramas with you when he shacks up again...:shrug:

:yeahthat: It was 10 years ago. I'm sure he's done a lot worse things since then :whistle:
 
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Kain99

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It happened 10 years into your marriage with him and you've stayed with him an additional 10 years and even made a baby with him 7 years ago. I don't understand why you would want to use this as an excuse to end your marriage when the entire ordeal wasn't enough to stop you from bringing a child into the mix. :confused: And let's say you do divorce... are you willing to accept him not discussing your daughter's new babymomma dramas with you when he shacks up again...:shrug:

Great Post! Read that one twice sugar pants!
 
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