19 Y/O Woman Charged w/Attempted Murder Due to Abuse of Newborn

[vraiblonde]

There really should be a more realistic class on parenting. This way, teens will have more of a clue of what they are getting themselves into. The delusion that it's just like babysitting is as far from reality as it can be. I've heard many teen girls saying this and I don't know whether to laugh or be scared.

I completely and wholeheartedly agree with this. It's definitely not like what you see on TV, that's for sure.

They need to get a realistic Baby Alive - one that cries incessantly and cannot be consoled whatsoever. And it needs to blow out its ill-fitting diaper when you're in line at the grocery store. Then it needs to turn into a toddler that can destroy a room in the time it takes you to go pee. And, last but not least, it needs to become a teenager that gives you smart talk and wants to take your car out joyriding.

I'll bet teenage girls across America will superglue their knees together.

 

[Ken King]

I have some sympathy for this girl.

I know, I know. It's no excuse. But I remember what it was like to be 19 years old with an infant that wouldn't stop crying and a husband who worked long hours.

Granted, I didn't throw my son around, but I did leave him to cry in the crib while I went out front to smoke a cigarette and drink an iced tea, and calm down. And I remember thinking, "This is why these girls shake their babies or smother them to death." I was literally afraid to touch him when we were both jacked up like that.

And don't any of you try to pretend you were some Mother of the Year who never got frustrated by a crying baby.

Ideally this young woman would have been taught what to do when this sort of thing happens (and it WILL happen) so that she could deal with it more effectively and not lose her mind. Call your Mom. Call your friend. "PLEASE come over here and sit with the baby for a few minutes while I get myself together!!!"

I feel sorry for her.

I have no sympathy for her. We all deal with life's problems and sane, rational people don't go around throwing infants to the floor or into a wall, driving them into a lake, drowning them in the tub, or whatever these sick vermin do.

Feeling sorrow for those that do harm to helpless children is just a step or two away from tolerating and accepting it. Sorry, I just can't do that.

 

[tastycakes]

I completely and wholeheartedly agree with this. It's definitely not like what you see on TV, that's for sure.

They need to get a realistic Baby Alive - one that cries incessantly and cannot be consoled whatsoever. And it needs to blow out its ill-fitting diaper when you're in line at the grocery store. Then it needs to turn into a toddler that can destroy a room in the time it takes you to go pee. And, last but not least, it needs to become a teenager that gives you smart talk and wants to take your car out joyriding.

I'll bet teenage girls across America will superglue their knees together.

Thank you so much for this. It's given me the laugh I've needed all day.

Lucky for me, my teenage daughter gets to help out with her infant brother so she is in no hurry to have kids. At this point she is swearing off ever having kids. Gotta love it.

 

[vraiblonde]

Lucky for me, my teenage daughter gets to help out with her infant brother so she is in no hurry to have kids. At this point she is swearing off ever having kids. Gotta love it.

Best birth control in the world

 

[vraiblonde]

Feeling sorrow for those that do harm to helpless children is just a step or two away from tolerating and accepting it. Sorry, I just can't do that.

Having been in her shoes, I can feel sympathy for her.

 

[tomchamp]

Having been in her shoes, I can feel sympathy for her.

But, you decided to go have a "Tea and a smoke"!

 

[vraiblonde]

But, you decided to go have a "Tea and a smoke"!

Barely. And this was the person I loved more than anything else in the world - that I'd have died to protect. Yet there were times....

Maybe this girl didn't have that bonding that mothers have for their babies, and that's why she couldn't control herself. :shrug:

 

[Nickel]

I have no sympathy for her. We all deal with life's problems and sane, rational people don't go around throwing infants to the floor or into a wall, driving them into a lake, drowning them in the tub, or whatever these sick vermin do.

I agree, there is no excuse for this behavior. I too was a 19 year old mother...my son had colick, I had NO "baby daddy" to speak of to help me out in any way. Sure, my mom helped some (and for that I am grateful), but he's my kid, and the responsibility of parenting him fell on my shoulders alone. Now he's 4, and a force to be reckoned with. I have been out of my mind with frustrations more times than I can count, since the day he was born, but NEVER have I EVER lost my temper.

 

[cholo]

What a handsome young lady...

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[missperky]

I have some sympathy for this girl.

I know, I know. It's no excuse. But I remember what it was like to be 19 years old with an infant that wouldn't stop crying and a husband who worked long hours.

Granted, I didn't throw my son around, but I did leave him to cry in the crib while I went out front to smoke a cigarette and drink an iced tea, and calm down. And I remember thinking, "This is why these girls shake their babies or smother them to death." I was literally afraid to touch him when we were both jacked up like that.

And don't any of you try to pretend you were some Mother of the Year who never got frustrated by a crying baby.

Ideally this young woman would have been taught what to do when this sort of thing happens (and it WILL happen) so that she could deal with it more effectively and not lose her mind. Call your Mom. Call your friend. "PLEASE come over here and sit with the baby for a few minutes while I get myself together!!!"

I feel sorry for her.

I had my first kid a lot younger then 19, there was no help from the sperm donor dad or much help from anywhere, yes sometimes it can be frustrating but there is no excuse to hurt your own kid.

 

[beavis]

Just on the news and they said the baby was still in NICU.

the news is wrong...at least according to my cop friend. He said she was released from the hospital a few days ago.

the whole incident happened early last week, but the mother wasnt charged until yesterday.

 

[kom526]

What a handsome young lady...

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Her eyes are "dead".

 

[bygeorge]

The husband had called the police for help just about one week before this happened.
The police let the woman leave the home with the baby.
The day the mother hurt the baby, the husband was gone for about 2 hours.

 

[bresamil]

Her eyes are "dead".

Exactly. Soulless. She gets no sympathy from me. None. I think they should bash her head into the floor repeatedly.

 

[pixiegirl]

I agree, there is no excuse for this behavior. I too was a 19 year old mother...my son had colick, I had NO "baby daddy" to speak of to help me out in any way. Sure, my mom helped some (and for that I am grateful), but he's my kid, and the responsibility of parenting him fell on my shoulders alone. Now he's 4, and a force to be reckoned with. I have been out of my mind with frustrations more times than I can count, since the day he was born, but NEVER have I EVER lost my temper.

My ex husband would have rather gone out and played playstation and smoked pot then have been a father. I had zero help from him and a babe that I could not put down. I literally had to get one of those backpack thingies to do housework. Did I get frustrated? Beyond belief! Did I take it out on my kid? Nope. I was the one who got knocked up by the idiot and baby daddy was the one still acting like an idiot. I knew things were only going to get worse upon returning to work after maternity leave; baby daddy got his walking papers. Life was stressful and he was one less stress to worry about. I did have help from my mom. (thanks ma! ) Though it was limited and while she often held my hand she made sure to make me stand on my own two feet.

If she just "had" to lose her temper she should have at least done it with someone who could have defended themselves like her husband. There is no excuse at all for taking out your frustrations on a defensless 18 day old child; none.

 

[vraiblonde]

Well, you all are just perfect little Mommies.

Each one of you that say you have no sympathy for this girl admit you had a mother close by who relieved you on occasion. Yes, you were the primary caregiver but you weren't completely alone. At least you had someone to talk to when the going got tough.

I don't know this girl's situation - whether she had family nearby or not - but I remember quite well being completely alone, half a continent away from my family, with a crying infant.

I'm not offering any excuses or suggesting she should not be punished, but I do understand what prompted her to do it.

 

[vraiblonde]

Her eyes are "dead".

How is she supposed to look in a mugshot after she's just killed her baby? Bright and smiling? Mascaraed and a touch of lipstick?

 

[bresamil]

Well, you all are just perfect little Mommies.

Each one of you that say you have no sympathy for this girl admit you had a mother close by who relieved you on occasion. Yes, you were the primary caregiver but you weren't completely alone. At least you had someone to talk to when the going got tough.

I don't know this girl's situation - whether she had family nearby or not - but I remember quite well being completely alone, half a continent away from my family, with a crying infant.

I'm not offering any excuses or suggesting she should not be punished, but I do understand what prompted her to do it.

I had no assistance. My husband's assistance would be - "could you get him to stop crying? I'm trying to (watch tv, sleep, etc)." Many times I would lay him down, close the door, and cry myself. But I NEVER hurt him. NEVER. And mine was a 11pm to 4am nonstop screamer for 2 months.

 

[Nickel]

I had no assistance. My husband's assistance would be - "could you get him to stop crying? I'm trying to (watch tv, sleep, etc)." Many times I would lay him down, close the door, and cry myself. But I NEVER hurt him. NEVER. And mine was a 11pm to 4am nonstop screamer for 2 months.

And how about all the military wives that do it with multiple children, completely on their own, in a place they aren't even comfortable calling home? I have no sympathy. You need to grow up when you have a child, and she obviously didn't get that memo.

 

[MMDad]

Well, you all are just perfect little Mommies.

Each one of you that say you have no sympathy for this girl admit you had a mother close by who relieved you on occasion. Yes, you were the primary caregiver but you weren't completely alone. At least you had someone to talk to when the going got tough.

I don't know this girl's situation - whether she had family nearby or not - but I remember quite well being completely alone, half a continent away from my family, with a crying infant.

I'm not offering any excuses or suggesting she should not be punished, but I do understand what prompted her to do it.

I can't say I have "sympathy", but I do understand where you are coming from. I've dealt with PPD, so I have a little understanding of what mental state she may have been in. Bebe Daddy may not have been the one to hurt the kid, but morally he shares just as much blame.

I understand the frustration. I had to walk away a few times. I will never understand how someone can take it to that next level.