Cowgirl
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You are really Captain Obvious, aren't you?
Well, I thought it might help in this case.
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Well, I thought it might help in this case.
Beta84
They're out to get us
Sounds like you've been meeting the wrong kind of chicks
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Only 1 chick was no good and that was the one I referred to with the crappy condom. The rest that I've dated have been just wonderful
oh and yay for disclaimers! i still don't date chicks with kids in almost all cases though. :shrug:
sunflower
Loving My Life...
Why not? How would you feel if you had kids and the ladies wouldnt date you for such reasons...
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toppick08
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Sounds like you've been meeting the wrong kind of chicks
Most people I know use myspace to keep in touch with people they don't get to see all the time... sometimes people use it for dates, but I use it to have a place to express myself in writing and update my friends and family on life in my world.
You just lost me......thanks a lot.
Cowgirl
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Before you had kids, did you ever date anyone with kids?
Beta84
They're out to get us
well if it's just for fun then that's fine...but i'm young and don't want to be thinking about kids right now, so I won't do that in most cases. if i find someone to be special and worth a shot then ok, but otherwise i'm gonna pass. plus that brings me back to my previous post where I had the disclaimer that kinda discusses my opinions of that.
if someone used a good condom (even if it broke, that's hard to control) and birth control and still got knocked up then that sucks. otherwise there was more that could have been done and it was that woman's choice. granted, divorce cases are different than the unwedded ones who got knocked up so the whole protection part doesn't apply there. But if someone wasn't careful (and not married) and got pregnant, why should I pity them? I don't understand why I should take exception to someone with a kid if they made a mistake. That's not my fault. If they had an extreme amount of bad luck but were being responsible then ok, i'll talk. Otherwise, I don't wanna end up being baby daddy #2 (or 3 or 4 or ...). Then again, wouldn't wanna be baby daddy #1 either.
Honestly, the whole baby daddy thing is usually a bad scenario. Sure, sometimes the guy is ok...but most cases I've seen is with some jerk that you have to deal with and sometimes the chick ends up wanting to get back with baby daddy or just sleep with him again or who knows what. I know it's not always the case, but is it really worth trying to sift through and see if those complications arise? Especially when there are plenty of single women that don't have kids. Like I said, it's not something I'd always say no to...but if I dated someone with a kid, I'd probably have to get to know them VERY well first so I know their situation enough to make a good judgement call.
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morningbell
hmmmmmm
I know this wasn't directed to me.... but I thought about it and no I never dated anyone with kids. I found out once the guy I was seeing had kids, and well a wife too and broke it off...
But I loved kids so much and didn't want to have any of my own at that point in my life so I would date a guy with kids.
sunflower
Loving My Life...
I was young when I had my first so no, but throughout the years I have dated men with kids.
It didnt bother me. Those kids already had a mom and my son had a dad.
Cowgirl
Well-Known Member
I'm sure it's much different when you have your own kids. It can be extremely difficult at times dating a single parent when you don't have your own kids. I don't really blame anyone for saying they won't date someone with kids. It can be really great, but it can also be a huge headache.
Beta84
They're out to get us
It's alot easier to date someone with kids when you have one. You can understand the situation much better. Much tougher from the outside looking in.
This_person
Well-Known Member
So, Dad's responsible for the child and pregancy if the mom chooses, but has no choice if she chooses to kill the child?
itsbob
I bowl overhand
A thought, though, is that none of us would be here if mommy had decided it was better that our brain be sucked out while we were in the womb.
I think your mommy did have your brain sucked out..
morningbell
hmmmmmm
It's different. My son recently drew a picture of his family. He included me, him and my BF, the sweetest pic ever.
It's different. My son recently drew a picture of his family. He included me, him and my BF, the sweetest pic ever.
Its all fun and games until you and the BF break up and your son gets really confused why his daddy left him.
Beta84
They're out to get us
pretty much. gotta love it!
This_person
Well-Known Member
Here, I thought mother and father were both responsible for the baby once they decided to take action to make it.
I guess that means that the father has equal rights to call for an abortion, since it's his child too?
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kris31280
Guest
You forgot the disclaimer on this one...
I was engaged to my son's father... We were kinda planning a family and the wedding at the same time, knowing that I had been told it would be difficult to become pregnant because of an injury from a car accident.
Doctor's lie... Engaged for a week and baby was conceived. In retrospect, we probably should've taken it slower, but I'm not going to regret it now because my son is the absolute light of my life and I don't know how I loved and lived before he came along.That being said, I've been on BC since a month and a half after my son was born... why? Because I don't want any more kids at this point in my life. I love my son... but one's good.
Every situation is different... and who am I to judge someone else's decisions when faced with their own situation?
theArtistFormerlyKnownAs
Well-Known Member
Not the whole thing...just the portion that would GAF what you say.
Way to bring everyone down ya pessimist
Cowgirl
Well-Known Member
Regardless, it's his decision to say "no kids" if he wants. :shrug: Besides, I don't think you* really want to have to guilt someone into dating you because you're a single parent.
*Not you in particular.