Advice please - It's that time

clockaleanie

clockaleanie

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I have finally come to the conclusion that it is time to have my cat put to sleep. She would be 20 in April, she looks great, eats, sleeps, pees and poops in the right place, BUT she has a tumor on her top lip which is ulcerated and has spread up to her nostrils and it's getting bigger. It's obviously painful to her , and she has trouble eating, although she always manages to finish her bowl.

I'm not going down the chemo/radiation route - she is 19 years old, with a heart murmor and kidney disease, so I don't think she would survive even the initial surgery.

I would really prefer that it happen at home, but I don't think my vet (VCA St Mary's) does house calls. I know there is a mobile vet in Calvert but I can't remember her name. Has anyone else had the vet to the house? Is there anything that could go wrong? I really don't want her last hour to be a stressful drive ( she hates the car). My husband wants to hold her but would she struggle and would that be more stressful for everyone involved?

Has anyone else done the at home thing?
 
mamatutu

mamatutu

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Clock, her name is Dr. Kristina Darnell. 443-975-2495. I am so sorry that you have to face this decision. We used her when we had to put both our dogs down last year/6 mos. apart. She is wonderful and her love for the animals is amazing; even under such sad circumstances. I highly recommend her. I understand what you are going through. :huggy:

She also takes care of our cats for yearly well check ups. I like that I don't have to crate them and haul them to the vet because they are indoor cats (one is deaf), and it is traumatizing to them.

Darnells Mobile Veterinary Service / Home
 
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Tomboy38

Tomboy38

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You can hold her until the end they will put a small needle in her paw and bandage it so as she won't be hurt. They will give he a shot to put her to sleep. After she sleeps they will administer a dose to stop the heart and they will allow you to hold her the whole time. No stress to the pet at all

So sorry prayers and thoughts
 
clockaleanie

clockaleanie

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Tomboy38 said:
You can hold her until the end they will put a small needle in her paw and bandage it so as she won't be hurt. They will give he a shot to put her to sleep. After she sleeps they will administer a dose to stop the heart and they will allow you to hold her the whole time. No stress to the pet at all

So sorry prayers and thoughts
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Reading that made me break down, but it does help to know what happens. I have had pets all my life, but have never had to put one to sleep. They have all either gone naturally, or when i have been on vacation (lucky me so far).

Thanks everyone, for all your thoughts, I don't know how to make the phone call now. I can't even talk about it without bawling, but I know I have to. I'm not sure if it's good or bad that I also have her litter mate still here, so I wonder how she will react. She's a bit senile, so hopefully she won't notice. Ugh, this is horrible.
 
ginwoman

ginwoman

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So sad. Sorry you are going thru this. Bless your kitty cat. Sounds like she has had a good life.
 
luvmygdaughters

luvmygdaughters

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So sorry you're going thru this and no matter how hard the decision was to make that call, rest assured, you're doing the right thing. 19 years is a long time and I'm sure you gave her a wonderful life. Our dog was 18 when I had to have her put down. Absolutely one of the hardest things I've had to do, but she was ready. Bless you for being a responsible and loving pet owner.:huggy:
 
MarieB

MarieB

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So sorry :huggy:

We went through this with our dog a few months back. All I can add is that it was one of the hardest things I had to do and we were so sad BUT also relieved
 
ArkRescue

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So sorry yet so grateful to everyone who posted to support the unfortunate end to what sounds like a wonderful life the kitty had. :huggy:
 
frequentflier

frequentflier

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clockaleanie said:
Reading that made me break down, but it does help to know what happens. I have had pets all my life, but have never had to put one to sleep. They have all either gone naturally, or when i have been on vacation (lucky me so far).

Thanks everyone, for all your thoughts, I don't know how to make the phone call now. I can't even talk about it without bawling, but I know I have to. I'm not sure if it's good or bad that I also have her litter mate still here, so I wonder how she will react. She's a bit senile, so hopefully she won't notice. Ugh, this is horrible.
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Larry Gude

Larry Gude

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clockaleanie said:
I have finally come to the conclusion that it is time to have my cat put to sleep. She would be 20 in April, she looks great, eats, sleeps, pees and poops in the right place, BUT she has a tumor on her top lip which is ulcerated and has spread up to her nostrils and it's getting bigger. It's obviously painful to her , and she has trouble eating, although she always manages to finish her bowl.

I'm not going down the chemo/radiation route - she is 19 years old, with a heart murmor and kidney disease, so I don't think she would survive even the initial surgery.

I would really prefer that it happen at home, but I don't think my vet (VCA St Mary's) does house calls. I know there is a mobile vet in Calvert but I can't remember her name. Has anyone else had the vet to the house? Is there anything that could go wrong? I really don't want her last hour to be a stressful drive ( she hates the car). My husband wants to hold her but would she struggle and would that be more stressful for everyone involved?

Has anyone else done the at home thing?
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Take her out back and put a .22 or two in the back of her head, right between the ears. Make sure to be shooting down and into the ground.

I don't mean that as horrible and it ain't for everyone and simply may not be practical depending on where you live (or legal? Maryland probably has rules on even this) but,
there is absolute closure taking your pets life, being the one seeing them off instead of some stranger sticking them with a needle in some strange surrounding. And it is humane. Anyone who says it isn't can kiss my ass. As a side benefit, it is cheaper.

You are doing the right thing by letting her go.
 
frequentflier

frequentflier

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Larry Gude said:
Take her out back and put a .22 or two in the back of her head, right between the ears. Make sure to be shooting down and into the ground.

I don't mean that as horrible and it ain't for everyone and simply may not be practical depending on where you live (or legal? Maryland probably has rules on even this) but,
there is absolute closure taking your pets life, being the one seeing them off instead of some stranger sticking them with a needle in some strange surrounding. And it is humane. Anyone who says it isn't can kiss my ass. As a side benefit, it is cheaper.

You are doing the right thing by letting her go.
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Good God, Larry. You can be so rude and crude sometimes. Maybe YOU could do this- maybe you were raised on a farm or in a barn or something. But I can safely assume I can speak for a majority of the animal lovers here: your suggestion "ain't for everyone" In fact, I would venture to say it "ain't for a majority of us"
Having a compassionate vet come to our homes and euthanize our beloved pet humanely; with the family present, which we get to hold them and stroke their fur in their comfortable surroundings, tell the we love them and have enjoyed every minute they have been in our lives and so on as opposed to taking them outside and shooting them in the head....no comparison. None.
And I am not kissing you ass. You may have the right to your opinion but your post is heartless, lacks any kind of compassion and sickening in my book.
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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Larry Gude said:
Take her out back and put a .22 or two in the back of her head, right between the ears. Make sure to be shooting down and into the ground.

I don't mean that as horrible and it ain't for everyone and simply may not be practical depending on where you live (or legal? Maryland probably has rules on even this) but,
there is absolute closure taking your pets life, being the one seeing them off instead of some stranger sticking them with a needle in some strange surrounding. And it is humane. Anyone who says it isn't can kiss my ass. As a side benefit, it is cheaper.

You are doing the right thing by letting her go.
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Wow.

So who holds the cat down while she's shooting it? Or should she just track it arcade-style and hope the first shot does the trick?

You think the dumbest things sometimes.
 
SoMDGirl42

SoMDGirl42

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vraiblonde said:
Wow.

So who holds the cat down while she's shooting it? Or should she just track it arcade-style and hope the first shot does the trick?

You think the dumbest things sometimes.
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:huggy: I'm very happy you survived your divorce and he doesn't have the same opinion for ex-wives.

I thought that was pure heartless.
 
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