Child abuse with movies...

[Pandora]

I abuse my children?

Because I let my 7 and 11 year old watch Nightmare on Elm Street....

 

[vraiblonde]

Because I let my 7 and 11 year old watch Nightmare on Elm Street....

I don't have so much of a problem with movies like that, it's the more sexually gratuitous ones that I wouldn't let my kids watch. They have plenty of time for that sort of thing.

 

[MMDad]

It is absolutely appropriate for a parent to decide that a movie is appropriate for their child. It becomes neglect when the parent allows the child to watch whatever they want to without deciding if it is appropriate. It only becomes abuse when porn is involved.

Screaming nightmares would make me re-evaluate my decision to allow a child to watch violent movies.

I don't see my kids being ready for scary movies for a long time, based on their reaction to violence in kid oriented programs. Personally, I'm glad that they are not desensitized. However, it is necessary to expose them to the real world as they grow, or they will be overwhelmed when I no longer have control.

 

[Geek]

I think I have been lucky to work with kids before I had my own. I had training and experience. I can tell you that no child should be forced to watch an R rated movie. If you are renting a movie for yourself, as an adult, you should watch it alone. Kids are dealing with a lot more now then we have ever asked of children in the past. They will be asked to handle adult topics earlier than we ever were. Let them be kids while they can. Parenting is a tough role where you have to make choices and tell your kids that even though they want something, they may not be able to have it. You can not try to be your child's friend. I guess I do want to give kids direction. It is what I did before I had kids, it will be what I do when my kids are grown. I am excellent at it. I suck at many other things ,but I would step in front of a bullet for any child. Even if that bullet is a lazy parent.

 

[Larry Gude]

I got the hots for the...

My 3 year old learned to run for cover from tornados after watching Wizard of Oz repeatedly...

...Wicked Witch of the West from that at age 10. Now, I've got this thing for green make-up and authoritarian women. It hasn't affected my life though...

 

[vraiblonde]

Now, I've got this thing for green make-up and authoritarian women. It hasn't affected my life though...

Is that why you get all silly when I do my avocado face mask?

 

[Geek]

I abuse my children?

Because I let my 7 and 11 year old watch Nightmare on Elm Street....

Pandora..I think you love your kids a lot. I do think they are too young for this type of movie and I think you are way too smart to show it too them.

 

[MMDad]

I think I have been lucky to work with kids before I had my own. I had training and experience. I can tell you that no child should be forced to watch an R rated movie. If you are renting a movie for yourself, as an adult, you should watch it alone. Kids are dealing with a lot more now then we have ever asked of children in the past. They will be asked to handle adult topics earlier than we ever were. Let them be kids while they can. Parenting is a tough role where you have to make choices and tell your kids that even though they want something, they may not be able to have it. You can not try to be your child's friend. I guess I do want to give kids direction. It is what I did before I had kids, it will be what I do when my kids are grown. I am excellent at it. I suck at many other things ,but I would step in front of a bullet for any child. Even if that bullet is a lazy parent.

Sorry, but what you say is just not true. Kids have been in the middle of wars, famines, and massacres throughout recorded history.

You may have been shielded from this, but maybe that is what is wrong with society today? Kids aren't expected to grow up until they are 18, then suddenly we thrust them out into society and expect them to handle it.

Today we think that the early twenties is too early to marry. 100 years ago, 20 was late. People didn't change, society did.

 

[Somdmommy]

I abuse my children?

Because I let my 7 and 11 year old watch Nightmare on Elm Street....

Dont even worry about that. I grew up watching that.

I have the dvd collection.

I even had a HUGE movie poster above my bed of Freddy above my bed!

Those movies are stupid now anyways, not even scary!!!

 

[Geek]

Sorry, but what you say is just not true. Kids have been in the middle of wars, famines, and massacres throughout recorded history.

You may have been shielded from this, but maybe that is what is wrong with society today? Kids aren't expected to grow up until they are 18, then suddenly we thrust them out into society and expect them to handle it.

Today we think that the early twenties is too early to marry. 100 years ago, 20 was late. People didn't change, society did.

Showing kids scary movies does not help them grow up. Give them a job to do, make them be respectful. Do not lie for them. Let them feel the consequences of their actions. Encourage them to save money. Lead by example. Plopping kids in front of a violent movie and video game does not make them an adult any earlier. It just scares them or scars them.

 

[vraiblonde]

Geek, you have some very serious control issues. I agree with you about adult content in movies (to some extent) but you have no right to tell other people how to raise their children. Okay, I mean, you CAN tell them what to do, but you can't be surprised when they tell you to mind your own business.

Statements like this:

I would step in front of a bullet for any child. Even if that bullet is a lazy parent.

go way further than simply voicing concern. Now you're literally trying to usurp parental rights.

 

[Somdmommy]

Scary movies help kids learn that monsters are not real.

I will let my son watch the whole set of Elm streets if he wants to!!

 

[Pandora]

Scary movies help kids learn that monsters are not real.

I will let my son watch the whole set of Elm streets if he wants to!!

My oldest son has seen the Exorcist too… edited of course… no masturbating with a crucifix. It was the same version televised on National television.

Geek,

You raise your children your way and I will raise mine, my way.

I just happen to find your definition of “abuse” humorous, because you obviously have no clue what real abuse consist of at all.

Subjecting your children to topics and issues that are age appropriate allows a parent to openly discuss the content with their child(ren). It is a cruel world out there and I just hope that whatever guidance I offer is something they can use later in life, instead of being overwhelmed by the reality of the world.

 

[kwillia]

I pick and chose the "adult" movies my kids are allowed to watch. I did let my son watch Jurassic Park when he was 5-6 years old. He was major into dinosaurs at that time and after I watched it first... I decided to let him watch it. He handled it fine... :shrug: By the same token... within the same year he watched "Mouse Hunt" and had a hard time sleeping because he feared the mean cat from the movie.

He is 13 now... I let him watch some movies with bad language such as "Smokey and the Bandit"... but if a movie frequents the 'F' word... it's a no go. Nothing with sexually mature scenes is allowed...

 

[Somdmommy]

My oldest son has seen the Exorcist too… edited of course… no masturbating with a crucifix. It was the same version televised on National television.

Geek,

You raise your children your way and I will raise mine, my way.

I just happen to find your definition of “abuse” humorous, because you obviously have no clue what real abuse consist of at all.

Subjecting your children to topics and issues that are age appropriate allows a parent to openly discuss the content with their child(ren). It is a cruel world out there and I just hope that whatever guidance I offer is something they can use later in life, instead of being overwhelmed by the reality of the world.

If parents are Making their kids sit and watch porn, yeah thats on the lines of abuse.

 

[Nickel]

I pick and chose the "adult" movies my kids are allowed to watch. I did let my son watch Jurassic Park when he was 5-6 years old. He was major into dinosaurs at that time and after I watched it first... I decided to let him watch it. He handled it fine... :shrug: By the same token... within the same year he watched "Mouse Hunt" and had a hard time sleeping because he feared the mean cat from the movie.

He is 13 now... I let him watch some movies with bad language such as "Smokey and the Bandit"... but if a movie frequents the 'F' word... it's a no go. Nothing with sexually mature scenes is allowed...

I think that's a good rule of thumb...just use common sense. :shrug: I remember my youngest brother having nightmares from watching Scooby Doo on Zombie Island...a dang cartoon. Some kids handle things differently. :shrug: I watched part of a very scary movie (without my parents' permission ) when I was around 7 or 8...The Gate. It's cheesy as hell, but at the time scared the pants off of me. I grew up to be a relatively well adjusted adult, and don't have any lingering fears about demons or eyeballs growing out of my palms. :shrug:

 

[Somdmommy]

No movies ever scared me as a child. Thats most of what I watched, and still is. Now had I known that Wes Craven wrote Nightmare On Elm Street about something he read in a paper yeah I might have been a little worried about it!

 

[Somdmommy]

Kids have to learn sometime. They wont be scared of monsters under the bed if they have watched a few movies and the parents told them about it.

Also helps them to learn that what they see on tv is not real! Now kids watching the news, not a good idea!

 

[Geek]

Geek, you have some very serious control issues. I agree with you about adult content in movies (to some extent) but you have no right to tell other people how to raise their children. Okay, I mean, you CAN tell them what to do, but you can't be surprised when they tell you to mind your own business.

Statements like this:

go way further than simply voicing concern. Now you're literally trying to usurp parental rights.

I have control issues no doubt. Most come from what I consider to be the most important job of my life, being a parent. Next up is wife and third, teacher. I worked in a home for abused emotionally disturbed kids. I also had to deal with the parents. Parents that had pimped out their kids to support their drug habits. The courts work really hard to keep biological parents with their kids no matter what. I am not sheltered. I believe kids should not watch adult movies. They can see all the adult movies when they get older. Go out and play with them instead. Have a game night. Talk to each other. Don't watch people killing people. Find another way to bond.

 

[Somdmommy]

I have control issues no doubt. Most come from what I consider to be the most important job of my life, being a parent. Next up is wife and third, teacher. I worked in a home for abused emotionally disturbed kids. I also had to deal with the parents. Parents that had pimped out their kids to support their drug habits. The courts work really hard to keep biological parents with their kids no matter what. I am not sheltered. I believe kids should not watch adult movies. They can see all the adult movies when they get older. Go out and play with them instead. Have a game night. Talk to each other. Don't watch people killing people. Find another way to bond.

What if we let them watch them on movie night!!