Dating ?
- Thread starter Tigerlily
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As usual, your advice sucks.Qpid said:im actually giving you good advice,u should listen
People come in and out of kids' lives all the time. Will they keep the same teacher throughout their whole life? No. Will they have the same friends their whole life? No. So what's the big deal? They meet your guy under casual circumstances, get used to him and his kids, either get along or don't.
My kids met almost every guy I ever dated, along with any offspring that might have been part of the picture. It was no big deal. Of course, 99% of the guys I ever dated, my kids knew them socially before we even started dating, but still. I think kids have a hard time when they feel pressured to like someone because their parent is dating them.
Just keep it casual and light. Don't even introduce him as your boyfriend - just say, "This is my friend, So-and-So." It's not like you're going to be making out in front of them.
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Very good points Vrai. The concept of this is to be able to spend time with eachother and our children at the same time. With both of our schedules it makes it that much harder to find time together if you have to get a babysitter. Also because my time is limited I want to spend as much of it as I can with my kids.
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Kizzy
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I'm glad things are going so well.
Qpid
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vraiblonde said:
I dont usually give advice on here so you wouldn't be able to even make that kind of judgement....
Damn shame you let your kids see how many male "friends" you had while they were growing up....
Kids are smarter than you think.
"mommy has a new friend every month....hmmmmmmmmm, I wonder what they are doing in there??"
it will fawk a kid up in a heartbeat if you do that.
sockgirl77
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You do what you think is best. Screw the year waiting. Fact is that you don't want to spend the time away from your kids. So, why not incorporate them in your activities? Especially if his kids are around the same ages! Don't let anyone in here tell you how to be a parent! You are doing a great job of it.Tigerlily said:
You assume I was shacking up with every guy I dated and dragging them home to be my kids' new daddy.Qpid said:
Not everyone is you, sweetie pie.
Qpid
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vraiblonde said:
You probably weren't!!! But your kids probably thought you were....how you make things look around your children is KEY.
if you dont want them to think your loose...dont act like it by bringind tom, dick and harry around every 3 months but claim this is just mommies "friend".
Again, I wasn't sticking the kids in front of the TV so Biff and I could go shake the mattress in the next room. I realize this may be hard for you to comprehend, but you can actually sit in a room with your beau and keep your hands off him in front of the kids.Qpid said:
sockgirl77
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So, let me ask you this? A majority of my friends are male. I love to shoot pool and go to the races so it has always been easier for me to hang out with the guys. So, I shouldn't introduce my son to my friends because they are men?Qpid said:
Aps you are on a roll today.
sockgirl77
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yeah, that would be healthy parenting!aps45819 said:Just tell him you're a lesbian so he doesn't get the wrong idea
sockgirl77
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Oh and my roomate is a man. Should I not bring him around either?sockgirl77 said:
sockgirl77
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as long as she's not being affectionate in front of the kiddies what the hell's the difference.Qpid said:
where in the hell is the tall glass of stfu i've been looking for?
