Divorce/Separation process

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czygvtwkr

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Never2Late said:
So if she isn't good at sex, it's her fault? - sorry but men have some responsibilty in sex too and good sex does not make a good marriage, it's the other way around.
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Never said it was her fault, I was just curious. You know in case she goes through with it. :killingme
 
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playerhater

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Well someone has to make the first move and start the process, divorce is never easy on the feelings. Men hate to let there good ole coochie go. Worst fear, another man all up in it. It won't ruin the lives of the entire family as someone stated earlier, been there done that, rough in the beginning though. Then life goes on, and you put your azz back on the market LOL.
 
happyazz

happyazz

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So, after reading this whole thread........What is the REAL reason you want a divorce?
Reading through your posts, you change your story, first your marriage is crap, then he is a good husband and provider, but bad father. You say you are still engaging is sex, so what is it??:confused:
 
jaclyn

jaclyn

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happyazz said:
So, after reading this whole thread........What is the REAL reason you want a divorce?
Reading through your posts, you change your story, first your marriage is crap, then he is a good husband and provider, but bad father. You say you are still engaging is sex, so what is it??:confused:
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My marriage is crap because he treats my kids like ####. That's a far cry from "changing my story".
 
itsbob

itsbob

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happyazz said:
So, after reading this whole thread........What is the REAL reason you want a divorce?
Reading through your posts, you change your story, first your marriage is crap, then he is a good husband and provider, but bad father. You say you are still engaging is sex, so what is it??:confused:
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I think you are the only one that didn't "get it"...
 
itsbob

itsbob

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Never2Late said:
Maryland divorce laws need to be changed, protect yourself before you separate. You must be separted in order to divorce, and unless you can agree to do this amicably, (separate) you may end up loosing everything.
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You are somewhat right..

You never have to "officially seperate" you just have to have lived apart and seperate without any freaky deaky for 12 - 24 months (depending on the circumstances).

You don't have to pay a lawyer to write up a seperation agreement, the court doesn't care if it's official or not.. You just have to be physically seperated.

Once you get lawyers involved you are both GUARANTEED to lose, it's just the winner is decided by who loses the least. They will put everything on the table and it will be up the judge what happens to ALL joint property. Cars, Appliances, HOUSE.. everything, including kids. So some stranger that doesn't know you OR your kids, get to decide on their futures because the two adults that are their parents can't communicate and be adults to decide how to best take care of them.

The courts only get involved in what you want, or let them, get involved in, and they usually make decisions nobody is happy with. They don't really have to be involved in anything short of supplying signatures saying the marriage is dissolved.
 
Gilligan

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itsbob said:
You are somewhat right..

You never have to "officially seperate" you just have to have lived apart and seperate without any freaky deaky for 12 - 24 months (depending on the circumstances).

You don't have to pay a lawyer to write up a seperation agreement, the court doesn't care if it's official or not.. You just have to be physically seperated.

Once you get lawyers involved you are both GUARANTEED to lose, it's just the winner is decided by who loses the least. They will put everything on the table and it will be up the judge what happens to ALL joint property. Cars, Appliances, HOUSE.. everything, including kids. So some stranger that doesn't know you OR your kids, get to decide on their futures because the two adults that are their parents can't communicate and be adults to decide how to best take care of them.

The courts only get involved in what you want, or let them, get involved in, and they usually make decisions nobody is happy with. They don't really have to be involved in anything short of supplying signatures saying the marriage is dissolved.
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Given all the misinformation that has permeated this thread, I have to say that this is the most accurate overall summation I've yet seen. I say that as someone who has become a 'reluctant expert' in the process after nearly three years (and still counting) of being stuck in it and learning things I never imagined were a part of it.

And no judge in MD is ever going to get involved with anything in the actual 'mechanics' of separating, except in the case of a very real, clear and imminent threat to the children being proven. The party that wants to be separate is the party that has to act to be separate. Period. If that action involves convincing the other party to leave..great. But its all on you, the party wanting it over..no outside help will be forthcoming there.
 
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jaclyn said:
My marriage is crap because he treats my kids like ####. That's a far cry from "changing my story".
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You keep saying "my kids", didn't you say one of them is his. Do you say "my kids" to him? It would make me resentfull if I was hearing that.

What I'm seeing when I read this is; he's working 6-7days a wk but you are upset that he's not spending quality time with the kids when you leave them with him. You leave them with him to go to work or out with friends.

Work I understand but why would you not spend quality time with your husband on the only 1-2 days a week he's home. When are you having "family" time or time with just each other?
 
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