I honestly don't worry about being "damned" because I told my children there was a Santa Claus. My kids are like yours in the fact that they have differing beliefs... what is, IS.
None though fault me for the "magic" of Santa. All say they enjoyed it and believed totally. Which does bring up something else??? Do they believe me now? On anything?
Yes.
I think there really is no "wrong" or "right" in this debate. It all depends on the child...and I'd hope most would know which way their own child would lean. Hope that makes sense.
There isn't a right or wrong.
Taking that truckload to the dump clearing for the new was disgusting.
If you can afford it, go for it! If you think the landfills or your home can contain it all go for it.
I hate the materialism but still get my kids perishables (there's still Haloween candy to be consumed...it has a 3 day shelf life now) and if they really need/want something they will get that as well.My soon to be stepson asked for a football today (he really wants one and the old one is shot) I will gladly be the Momma Claus to get him the best available.
At his other home he will probably get 1K of gifts he doesn't even want.
I know he will love this.
Moderation.
I can almost smell the Roast Beast and Yorkshire Pudding: See all of my beloved family in front of me. Christmas is near.