Don't want baby to reek of cigarette smoke

[CalvertNewbie]

"Someone she has loved has passed away, and now she has another someone to love.....just as soon as she quits smoking. " Just tell her that.

She's so excited about the baby. Hubby is convinced that she'll quit before she even comes down here but we'll see. She had quit for a year after going through chemo. Yes, that's what it took for her to finally quit - not just finding out she had cancer but actually going through the chemo. She only started smoking again when my Dad was really going downhill and I certainly wasn't going to give her too much of a hard time for it. She's said that she'll quit again so maybe this will be what she needs to help her. I could never break her heart by refusing to let her see her grandson. But everytime she does see him, it'll probably be for a week or so being that she lives out of state.

 

[kwillia]

When you say "exposed to smokers" do you mean people who are actively smoking, or people who have residue odor on their clothing? Because, again, I don't think it's unreasonable to ask people to not smoke around your child.

In M's case, it was the active smoke that set him off. Let's see if I can quantify it... he was able to be in the house of a smoker, but he could not sleep in the bed of a smoker because of the close proximity of the allergens on the bedding being breathed in while he slept. If we brought his own bedding, he was fine.

 

[JULZ]

I knew I'd get this exact response from those who smoke and no, I don't plan to raise my son in a bubble. I know it sounds as though I'm one of those neurotic mothers-to-be. This wouldn't be as big of a deal to me if she lived close by and was coming over for the day. She's going to be here for 2 weeks straight, right after he's born. And Kwilla was right - when we go up to NY to visit my family, we'll probably stay with my Gram who only lives 10 minutes from my Mom.

I'm a smoker desparately trying to be a nonsmoker and have smoked for 27 years. Over the past year I have noticed more and more I can't even stand the smell of smoke, on me, on others, in my car, in my home but yet I still smoke. Even after smoking a ciggy the first thing I do is pop a mint or gum to get rid of the taste, spray perfume, spray frebreeze, whatever I can to mask the smell. To be honest, the only one ciggy a day I truly enjoy is the first ciggy with my first cup of coffee.

Recently, after being hospitalized and being told I HAVE to quit smoking I still can't kick it completely. While I was in the hospital I had no problem but when I came home all the triggers were tempting me and I went back, albeit I smoke much less, the fact is I'm still smoking.

It's baffling the power this addicition has over one's self...I didn't quit for my kids even when they begged me and I haven't quit for my health even though I've seen a picture of my diseased lungs. As well, I'm sure you can't imagine how your Mother just cannot NOT smoke to see her grandbaby.

 

[JULZ]

If that were true, we'd all be dead by now.

If half of what "they" said were true, we would have been dead a loooooong time ago. How did we ever make to now with so many things we did growing up that is now a hazard.

 

[Larry Gude]

Are you asking her to not smoke in your house or around the baby (reasonable) or asking her to quit altogether because her residue smell bothers you (unreasonable)?

If you love your Mom and want her to have a relationship with your child, I'd think a bit of unpleasant smell would be worth putting up with. But that's just my opinion. Others will tell you that if your Mom wanted to have a relationship with your baby, she would quit smoking.

:shrug:

But good luck with it, whatever you decide to do.

See, you should share your smokers hygiene tips because you don't reek anywhere near as much as the typical smoker.

PSA time.

 

[CalvertNewbie]

Are you asking her to not smoke in your house or around the baby (reasonable) or asking her to quit altogether because her residue smell bothers you (unreasonable)?

If you love your Mom and want her to have a relationship with your child, I'd think a bit of unpleasant smell would be worth putting up with. But that's just my opinion. Others will tell you that if your Mom wanted to have a relationship with your baby, she would quit smoking.

:shrug:

But good luck with it, whatever you decide to do.

She's 59 yrs old so I certainly can't tell her what to do with her life. Sure, I'd love her to stop smoking but I can't expect her to quit completely just because I don't like it. The fact is, though, I don't know of a smoker who can give up smoking for 2 weeks when they smoke like a chimney.

I guess my real issue is that I don't want the baby being held so close to someone and breathing in the smoke from her shirt, hair, etc. Their lungs are still developing after they're born. And I don't want to hold the baby and breathe in the smoke from his clothes. I grew up with 2 parents that smoked and I just hate the smell of it. It's killed many relatives of mine and so I guess that's why I am so against it.

 

[JULZ]

See, you should share your smokers hygiene tips because you don't reek anywhere near as much as the typical smoker.

PSA time.

I often wondered if it's the brand of ciggy. I noticed some people reek so much worse than others (I'm of course still speaking of ciggy reek, not typical bo).

 

[kwillia]

See, you should share your smokers hygiene tips because you don't reek anywhere near as much as the typical smoker.

PSA time.

Interesting point! Now that I think about it I can honestly say I've never been around Vrai and thought she smelled like a wet ciggie or a used ashtray... even when others she was with did.

 

[CalvertNewbie]

And BTW, CalNew... my 1st born developed an allergic reaction to ciggie smoke at the age of 11 months old. Being exposed to smokers never seemed to bother him for the first 11 months than WHAMMO! Hospital bound whenever anyone lite up in the same room with him.

Yeah, I developed asthma as a child when I was probably around 6 or 7. Of course, the doctor blamed my parents from exposing me to smoke all those years. Who knows? Glad your son is ok!

 

[cattitude]

Nobody is really allergic to cigarettes. It's an irritant...just like perfume or any other chemical.

 

[Larry Gude]

Nobody is really allergic to cigarettes. It's an irritant...just like perfume or any other chemical.

That's not true! My dad took me to an allergist when I was 14 and they said I was allergic to cigarettes, dope, beer, wine, booze, not doing my homework, not getting enough sleep...wait...


Hey.

 

[CalvertNewbie]

See, you should share your smokers hygiene tips because you don't reek anywhere near as much as the typical smoker.

PSA time.

See, Larry gets where I'm coming from! That's exactly the info I was looking for. I don't hold really high hopes that Mom will quit anytime soon, certainly not in the next 4 weeks. So what can I strongly suggest she do to mask the smell of smoke other than washing her hands and changing her clothes?

 

[kwillia]

Nobody is really allergic to cigarettes. It's an irritant...just like perfume or any other chemical.

It's a summation... just like it's not the actual cat my hubby is allergic to but rather the dander and other irritants the cat bestows upon him.

 

[JULZ]

See, Larry gets where I'm coming from! That's exactly the info I was looking for. I don't hold really high hopes that Mom will quit anytime soon, certainly not in the next 4 weeks. So what can I strongly suggest she do to mask the smell of smoke other than washing her hands and changing her clothes?

Febreeze... and plenty of it.

 

[cattitude]

It's a summation... just like it's not the actual cat my hubby is allergic to but rather the dander and other irritants the cat bestows upon him.

Nope, it's entirely different. And I know this because I've had problems with tobacco smoke for years and been treated for bronichial issues and have been to allergists, ENTs, etc. for 30 years.

 

[Cowgirl]

Can someone explain to me why smokers get offended when people ask them not to smoke around them or in their house?

 

[CalvertNewbie]

I'm a smoker desparately trying to be a nonsmoker and have smoked for 27 years. Over the past year I have noticed more and more I can't even stand the smell of smoke, on me, on others, in my car, in my home but yet I still smoke. Even after smoking a ciggy the first thing I do is pop a mint or gum to get rid of the taste, spray perfume, spray frebreeze, whatever I can to mask the smell. To be honest, the only one ciggy a day I truly enjoy is the first ciggy with my first cup of coffee.

Recently, after being hospitalized and being told I HAVE to quit smoking I still can't kick it completely. While I was in the hospital I had no problem but when I came home all the triggers were tempting me and I went back, albeit I smoke much less, the fact is I'm still smoking.

It's baffling the power this addicition has over one's self...I didn't quit for my kids even when they begged me and I haven't quit for my health even though I've seen a picture of my diseased lungs. As well, I'm sure you can't imagine how your Mother just cannot NOT smoke to see her grandbaby.

I really wish you luck! At least you're smoking a lot less than you were - it's a great start. I know it's not easy to quit, practically my whole family smokes or used to smoke. And living with someone trying to quit can be...shall we say.....eventful. My brother & I have fond childhood memories of Mom & Dad trying to quit. Now my brother's GF gets to deal with his pleasant mood swings everytime he tries to quit. My Mom quit years ago, for about 5 yrs, after getting hypnotized (sp). It worked for her that time but I know it doesn't work for everyone.

 

[SoccerMom2]

I had the same issues. No one is allowed to smoke at our house. Hubby smokes outside then waits 5 mintues, washes hands. My Parents and brother hate it but it about the health of my kids.

 

[cattitude]

Can someone explain to me why smokers get offended when people ask them not to smoke around them or in their house?

Why don't you call Ott? I'm tired of asking him.

 

[JULZ]

Can someone explain to me why smokers get offended when people ask them not to smoke around them or in their house?

You mean why "some" smokers.