Don't want baby to reek of cigarette smoke

[vraiblonde]

Maybe when she stays with you she can smoke outside while wearing a coat, then leave coat on a hook outside or in a garage? Wash her hands when she comes in and maybe brush her teeth as well.

The first two weeks with your baby and getting to share that time with your mom will be worth the extra effort on her part and understanding on yours.

With your father's recent passing, I would try and include her as much as possible. Nothing can motivate people like a baby, if she was looking for a reason to quit.

And I am an anti smoking person for what it's worth.

That might be the best post I've ever seen of yours.

And CalvertNewbie, I'm impressed that you admitted you might be overreacting. I don't think I've ever seen anyone do that on here, no matter how much they *were* overreacting. Anyway, good luck - I'm sure it will work out fine. And congrats on your future new baby!

 

[CalvertNewbie]

Yes enjoy the time with her, you do realize how fragile time is. I am a smoker and was thinking about this situation. She already knows that she has to smoke outside, so thats a non-issue. Most people go and wash their hands before picking up a baby anyway. I understand you don't want the smell on the baby, so after they have play time together ask her to give him his bath. She would love that! The baby will be going through frequent outfit changes due to spit up and nasty diapers. So I really don't think the smoke smell will stay too long on him or you will be able to smell it over the spit up. :shrug: Let her pamper him, by changing his clothes and rubbing lotions on him. It will all be cool and memorable. I don't think I would even bring it up to her and risk hurting her feelings or ruining her visit. Burn candles and enjoy her visit.

Yes you're right, I sure do realize how fragile time is and how important it is to make the most of the time we have here. You raise some really good points that I hadn't thought of. I guess there will be plenty of other foul odors to "enjoy" in addition to the smoke, lol. Calgon, take me away!

The lotion is a great idea and I was already anticipating changing him every couple of hours, just got all his 0-3 month clothes washed yesterday knowing he'll go through so many outfits every day. Guess I just hadn't thought of him not smelling so much like smoke when he'll be in fresh clothes so often.

Thanks so much!

 

[CalvertNewbie]

That might be the best post I've ever seen of yours.

And CalvertNewbie, I'm impressed that you admitted you might be overreacting. I don't think I've ever seen anyone do that on here, no matter how much they *were* overreacting. Anyway, good luck - I'm sure it will work out fine. And congrats on your future new baby!

Thanks, that's the whole reason I posed the question. Because part of me felt like I was sweating the small stuff and part of me felt like I was going to need to an oxygen mask to get through the 2 weeks. And I'm still not sure. I got some good ideas from my fellow forumites. I know that some people think I'm neurotic and others understand how I feel. It's all good.

BTW, the drama on this forum is funnier than hell and it's really because so many people refuse to admit that they don't know everything. They're never wrong and they never overreact. Good times here on somd.com!

 

[mrztsrobinette]

i had the same problem and I made my mom wear a jacket when she went outside to smoke and then she took the jacket off and washed her hands when she came in. if she still smelled like smoke i asked her to change clothes. babies noses are sensitve, as much as it bothers us it bothers them waay more. my kids are 8 months and 3 years and i still do the same thing. my 3 year old was pretending to smoke the other day after my mom came to visit. i called and told her and i think it was her wake up call to stop... or at least i hope it was. it sucks being a ##### but when it comes to the well being and health of my kids i dont care. u either do what i ask or u dont have to be around my kids. it sucks but u have to protect your kids from the big things and the little things! good luck!

 

[jetmonkey]

Your baby is going to be really pissed if it grows up to be a smoker.

 

[JULZ]

But they will - just you wait. You can drive yourself crazy worrying about all the things "they" say will kill you. Remember when bebe mama called me to inquire where our bananas came from, because she was worried that the girls would get a flesh-eating virus?

I would have loved to be an ear to that conversation and see the reaction on your face.

 

[JULZ]

YOUR MOTHER LET YOU SMOKE WHEN YOU WERE 3 YEARS OLD???

Bless you my dear!

 

[Larry Gude]

I would have loved to be an ear to that conversation and see the reaction on your face.

That was real early on when Varia was already looking in the mirror every morning screaming at herself; "What did I DO????"

Let's just say it didn't help.

 

[tiltedangel]

I'm not trying to start a thread to bash smokers. To each his/her own unless they're going to be around our baby boy, who is due in a month. Hubby & I don't smoke. Anyone who visits us & needs to smoke, does so outside.

My mother, who I guess never plans to quit smoking again, will be staying with us for a couple of weeks when our son is born. As much as we love spending time with her & we're really looking forward to her being able to bond with her first grandbaby, I need some advice.

The smell of cigarette smoke makes me sick. Since I've been pregnant, it's been worse for me - it bothers my throat, eyes, stomach & makes me congested. Hubby hates the smell also. Whenever someone comes in from outside, they don't leave the smell out there. My Mom will obviously be holding the baby a lot & I don't want him reeking of smoke. I don't want to insult Mom. She already knows how I feel about her starting to smoke again back in August & she was supposedly going to quit after "getting through the holidays". My family had a horrible year last year & she needs this time to be happy. What can I do without being a biatch to my Mom, who I love & appreciate so much? Just spraying Febreeze & washing her hands everytime she comes inside won't work. I can't expect her to shower & change clothes 15 times a day, can I?

I would just tell her to stay home if you are going to make her visit so unwelcoming...heck hook up a webcam and let them visit that way...geeez! it's only for a couple weeks! or just ask her to stay out in the cold extra long so she doesn't smell of cigarette smoke...

 

[CalvertNewbie]

I would just tell her to stay home if you are going to make her visit so unwelcoming...heck hook up a webcam and let them visit that way...geeez! it's only for a couple weeks! or just ask her to stay out in the cold extra long so she doesn't smell of cigarette smoke...

Sounds like a plan, thanks for the fabulous advice.

 

[vraiblonde]

Sounds like a plan, thanks for the fabulous advice.

Don't listen to her. The rest of us already gave you good advice.

 

[sockgirl77]

If that were true, we'd all be dead by now.

It's true. It can cause ear infections. I've had an ENT and a pediatrician tell me this.

 

[vraiblonde]

It's true. It can cause ear infections. I've had an ENT and a pediatrician tell me this.

Yeah, and they also tell you that babies will die if you so much as let them smell rice cereal before they're 15 years old.

Neither of my kids ever had an ear infection. Not a single one.

But other people can do what they want with their kids and it makes no difference to me.

 

[CalvertNewbie]

Don't listen to her. The rest of us already gave you good advice.

Yes you all did and I've already followed it. Everyone is looking forward to the new baby and we always have a great time when Mom comes for a visit. Thanks again!