Females with no female friends

[Cowgirl]

I have a very small group of best girlfriends. Other than that, I'm VERY slow to make new girlfriends. Until just recently, I haven't liked other females my age because they're very immature and I found I had very little, if anything, in common with them. I just met a nice gal my age and we have lots in common, so we could end up being good friends. Who knows.

 

[BadGirl]

I have to admit, that my circle of really, really good girlfriends is pretty small. I have lots of friends that are girls, mind you, but few that really know what there is to know about me. I notice that my need to confide in my girlfields has narrowed as I've aged; when I was younger, I had no problem telling my girlfriends almost everything about me. Now, I prefer to be a little more cautious about what I say, and who I say it to.

Having said that, I really do enjoy my girlfriends and just wish I had more time to spend with them.

Ironically, my best girlfriend from 8th grade is someone that I absolutely adore. We rarely speak to one another (maybe one or two phonecalls every year or so, or a periodic card in the mail, and I haven't seen her in 15 years or so), but that doesn't mean that I don't think about her frequently and wonder what she's up to. She lives in CA, for the record.

My most recent best friend (going on 25 years!) is someone that lives 2 hours away, and we still rarely see each other. We only call each other about once a month. It's pretty sad, really. But I blame it on her being a stinkin' Liberal.

 

[Cowgirl]

I notice that my need to confide in my girlfields has narrowed as I've aged; when I was younger, I had no problem telling my girlfriends almost everything about me. Now, I prefer to be a little more cautious about what I say, and who I say it to.

That's interesting. When it comes to really personal stuff, I really only confide in hubby and my sister. For some reason I don't feel comfortable talking to my 2 best girlfriends about some stuff.

 

[JLS]

Just b/c I know for a fact - someone like u from what I've seen - and me - would totally 100% not be friends.. Plus I don't go out to be mean to other people but I do stand up for myself and my friends if someone is hurting them or doing wrong by them.. I do go and try to help my friends and would give the shirt off of my back to help them.. but I'd also appreciate the same from them as well..

What's wrong with that? If you do something careless or downright mean, others have a right to form an opinion of you based on your behavior.

 

[vraiblonde]

Just b/c I know for a fact - someone like u from what I've seen - and me - would totally 100% not be friends..

How judgmental of you.

 

[Vince]

I have to admit, that my circle of really, really good girlfriends is pretty small. I have lots of friends that are girls, mind you, but few that really know what there is to know about me. I notice that my need to confide in my girlfields has narrowed as I've aged; when I was younger, I had no problem telling my girlfriends almost everything about me. Now, I prefer to be a little more cautious about what I say, and who I say it to.

Having said that, I really do enjoy my girlfriends and just wish I had more time to spend with them.

Ironically, my best girlfriend from 8th grade is someone that I absolutely adore. We rarely speak to one another (maybe one or two phonecalls every year or so, or a periodic card in the mail, and I haven't seen her in 15 years or so), but that doesn't mean that I don't think about her frequently and wonder what she's up to. She lives in CA, for the record.

My most recent best friend (going on 25 years!) is someone that lives 2 hours away, and we still rarely see each other. We only call each other about once a month. It's pretty sad, really. But I blame it on her being a stinkin' Liberal.

 

[Dye Tied]

I think there are a lot of dynamics that can be explored as to why someone may or may not have friends, regardless of gender, but because this is female specific, I've known a few. I say to each their own, but I see where the poster is coming from.....I am from this area, the very close friends I grew up with moved away to college and never came back, I made another close friend and she moved to FL a few years back because her hubby is in the military-but we've visited each other since. However, I have friends of both genders, but I do like my alone time too, who doesn't.

Wait-does my opinion count? I'm a lesbian! Just kidding! (Not on the lesbian part but my opinion)

Cheers everyone!

Melissa Etheridge aside, you are my favorite lesbian

 

[TurboK9]

How judgmental of you.

I be your fwiend...

Fra- -ennnnnd.

 

[LadyWolf]

Lately, this topic has come up for discussion several times. I've known a few guys that have dated women, who had no female friends.
It's very hard to like those women because they are always looking at you like you are the competition, gonna steal their man and they cannot communicate with you because you are the enemy.

Have you known women like this, that feel threatened by other women? That have no female friends and cannot establish a chick bond?

What's your take on this kind of female and why they have no female friends?

I used to have female friends, but a lot of them moved away or we grew apart over the years. Now, I don't have female friends but not because I don't want them, I'm not sure why. Women can be very competitive, but generally it's not your friends, it's the women you don't know that give the other girls the dirty looks and the typical, Did you know she and she's such a and did you see how short her and would you just look at her hanging all over she is such a floozy!

 

[Bann]

"Make new friends, but keep the old..." (once a GS, always a GS! )

I have some female friendships I've made over the years with women who continue to be good friends to this day. Some from HS. I love how we can get together after long periods of time & we just pick right up where we left off. It's like putting on a comfy jacket you haven't worn since the last cold spell.

However, when I moved up here (having been gone 11 years)divorced, I had a limited number of friends and virtually no family for support. I work for a small company, so I have no co-workers. Kind of limiting. So, with 2 kids (1 with developmental issues & needed more supervision than most his age) and working full time after not having worked in 15 years, I became a little isolated from focusing mostly on working & making a new life for my kids & I.

But, I've gradually made more GF friendships here and love them all. Some of them I've even met from these forums! I think the best thing I've done in the past 2 years is selecting the house in the neighborhood I did! I've met the best group of gals who have become very good friends. Lots in common and our ages are varied which makes it all the more interesting & fun.

 

[Lollapalooza]

I have zero female best friends! I haven't had a female friend since 2007! All of my female friends moved away in the same year...four of my best female friends all left in 2006 to other military bases. I was only 16 then, and was growing up as a "military brat". In that lifestyle, I frequently had to part with friends. I guess I haven't been able to recover since. :/

I don't think it's fair to judge a woman with no other female friends, unless you know her situation. Nor a male with no male friends.

I have a boyfriend and some male friends for now, that I support by going to their shows/watching them perform and another male friend that I used to go skateboarding with. I would love to have girlfriends again though! Sigh.

I used to have female friends, but a lot of them moved away or we grew apart over the years. Now, I don't have female friends but not because I don't want them, I'm not sure why. Women can be very competitive, but generally it's not your friends, it's the women you don't know that give the other girls the dirty looks and the typical, Did you know she and she's such a and did you see how short her and would you just look at her hanging all over she is such a floozy!

I find that it is more difficult to make friends with other women because of the cattiness. :/

 

[SamSpade]

When I was single, this was a red flag to me - a woman who can't make friends with other women usually had issues that would doom a relationship with me. Ditto if they detest children.

Not sure why, but my guess is, such women are overly dramatic and can only make friends with guys who aren't especially known for their drama or cattiness. We can have our own issues with emotions and expression (or lack of it) and hygiene and poor communication, but most guys I know are fairly dog-like in their live and let live attitude.

A lot of guys require the emotional attachment and outlook of an iguana. And they're fairly content to sit around and do nothing almost endlessly. Frankly, it's hard to tell them apart sometimes.

And the opposite was usually a good sign for me - when a woman EASILY made friends with other women, I knew she was the *right* woman for me.

 

[mgdbaa]

Lately, this topic has come up for discussion several times. I've known a few guys that have dated women, who had no female friends.
It's very hard to like those women because they are always looking at you like you are the competition, gonna steal their man and they cannot communicate with you because you are the enemy.

Have you known women like this, that feel threatened by other women? That have no female friends and cannot establish a chick bond?

What's your take on this kind of female and why they have no female friends?

Well my reason is that women are so full of drama. I mean, one minute they are your friend and then the next they are running their mouths about you to other women. Then those women turn around and pass it on. " omg, guess what so and so said about so and so". Drama drama drama. I have one good gf and she is like me. No drama. I can tell her anything and she tell me anything. A good friend is someone you can talk to for advice and it not spread around. Women seem to be in a compitition with one another for some stupid reason.


Me, I do not care what other women think of me. Those that run their mouths about other people are insecure about something.
Oh and women tend to get their feelings hurt easy. No sense of humor. Most of them anyway. Cry me a river.

Well thats why I chose to not make women friends.

 

[vraiblonde]

omg, guess what so and so said about so and so". Drama drama drama.

And you think guys don't do that?

 

[mgdbaa]

And you think guys don't do that?

Oh yea they do. My bf and I spend all our time together. He feels like I do. I mean, I know alot of people, men and women but my bf and I just choose not to put ourselves in those situations. We do everything togther. I recently had an old friend resurface, and I thought maybe I could try to do girl things again, well that didn't last long at all. There was that same drama from many years ago. It was a lesson to remind me why I chose not to have personal friends. I am not saying I dislike women, I just chose not to have them as good friends. If I see women I know, I say hi, how have you been, it was good seeing you. But thats it. I do not make plans hang out.

 

[ladyhawk]

Lately, this topic has come up for discussion several times. I've known a few guys that have dated women, who had no female friends.
It's very hard to like those women because they are always looking at you like you are the competition, gonna steal their man and they cannot communicate with you because you are the enemy.

Have you known women like this, that feel threatened by other women? That have no female friends and cannot establish a chick bond?

What's your take on this kind of female and why they have no female friends?

This is not a gender related problem!
I know men that have more female friends than male apparently for the same reasons as a woman having more male friends than female. Over time I have seen the common denominators... Lack of self-esteem, backstabbing, jealousy and all the drama that comes with it.

Those of us that are fortunate enough to be bluntly honest with each other regardless of our relationships know who our true friends are because the others disappeared! You can't have a proper relationship without disagreement from time to time... We know where we stand with one another, and we are there for each other no matter what life brings!

Do I have any regrets regarding those other "friends".
My life is much more peaceful without them! I'd rather have just a few friends... There are drawbacks to being popular, you don't know who you can trust...

No regrets!

June

 

[stars24]

Lately, this topic has come up for discussion several times. I've known a few guys that have dated women, who had no female friends.
It's very hard to like those women because they are always looking at you like you are the competition, gonna steal their man and they cannot communicate with you because you are the enemy.

Have you known women like this, that feel threatened by other women? That have no female friends and cannot establish a chick bond?

What's your take on this kind of female and why they have no female friends?

To a new acquaintance, I probably seem like this type of female. I'm introverted and meeting new people is hard for me in general, but I have an especially difficult time meeting/interacting with new females. It's not that I see other females as "the enemy" but it's just more difficult... I feel like there is a gene for female communication that I just don't have.

In reality, I do have good girl friends from college & high school that just get me.... but it took a long time to get there and part of the reason it worked is because we either a) grew up together, or b) lived through the whole college experience together. Starting those same kinds of friendships for me now is difficult because... well... because of circumstances, I guess.

Some people can make friends wherever they go... that's cool. Some of us take longer to trust and be trusted... I think that's okay too.

 

[softcrab]

here's why

Wah, wah wah. Who gives a *uck? Girl's want to explore, talk, understand by explanation. Sometimes it is, cause it is. Do you cry if there are no "facilities" or you break a fingernail? Can you look at a dead animal? Even so crying and belittling other females cause they don't join the sorority, is why. Go figure!!

 

[Christy]

I adore and appreciate all of my girlfriends and my guy friends appreciate the fact that they don't have to be subjected to the discussions I have with my girls.

 

[LadyWolf]

I have zero female best friends! I haven't had a female friend since 2007! All of my female friends moved away in the same year...four of my best female friends all left in 2006 to other military bases. I was only 16 then, and was growing up as a "military brat". In that lifestyle, I frequently had to part with friends. I guess I haven't been able to recover since. :/

I don't think it's fair to judge a woman with no other female friends, unless you know her situation. Nor a male with no male friends.

I have a boyfriend and some male friends for now, that I support by going to their shows/watching them perform and another male friend that I used to go skateboarding with. I would love to have girlfriends again though! Sigh.



I find that it is more difficult to make friends with other women because of the cattiness. :/

Yep, I completely agree!! It is so childish. Sometimes I find that some of the females do or say things deliberately... just because. I don't need the hassle.