kom526
They call me ... Sarcasmo
The youngest is 12 and the oldest is in college in PA and comes home this weekend, this will help a lot. As long as they don't kill each other after a couple days.
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RareBreed
Throwing the deuces
That sounds like my youngest the 4th quarter last year. Three or four weeks in, I get an email asking if there was an issue logging in because my youngest hadn't logged in at all. He had been lying to me about doing his work.that's awful!
I agree on the mental health thing. My kiddo is mostly an independent introvert but definitely enjoyed in-person school and some outside fun with a few neighborhood kids. He's really struggling lately and spends far too much time alone - not much can be helped with that though. The few kids here close to his age aren't allowed to play with anyone outside the family since March. when I actually have to work in the office, upon returning he follows me around like a lost puppy. It breaks my heart because he is just bored and lonely. He does ok with the virtual learning, but like any typical 13 yo, you have to keep up with him on it and nudge him from time to time. Some classes lend well to being taught online better than others too. He has no problems with Math or Spanish, but we just got a personal email from the art teacher asking where ALL oif his 2nd Q work is
I'll just say his older brother is very lucky to have graduated: he would never have even bothered to show up for virtual learning.
I basically had to be on him constantly and that still didn't work for some classes. He managed to pass Art and one other subject by literally spending one entire day (the last day to submit work) doing everything he hadn't before. My oldest graduated HS in 2019 and hates doing college online. He is getting good grades but wants to be in a classroom badly.
lucky_bee
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That sounds like my youngest the 4th quarter last year. Three or four weeks in, I get an email asking if there was an issue logging in because my youngest hadn't logged in at all. He had been lying to me about doing his work.
My oldest graduated HS in 2019 and hates doing college online. He is getting good grades but wants to be in a classroom badly.
not that I'm glad to hear we're in the same boat, but it is nice to know we're not the only ones struggling with kids who used to be stellar students. This year already feels like a wash at this point.
RareBreed
Throwing the deuces
Hopefully both of yours will turn around like mine did. I believe if Calvert Co kept things the way they were at the end of the year for this year, I would be in the same boat as you two. Because there is more structure and actual "zoom" classes, he is doing so much better. He needs structure and to be told what to do and when to do it or he will not do anything. He is thriving in ROTC and I think that the military is definitely where his path should take him. He needs that sort of life. I don't think a nagging wife would do any good.
I nagged him all 4th quarter and it went on deaf ears.
NorthBeachPerso
Honorary SMIB
I hate to say this but I have the feeling that this year is going to be a "lost year" for an awful lot of kids. For every parent who keeps on their kid to do their work, and actually follows through with making sure, there is likely at least one (or more likely more than one) who's too busy, too illiterate, too disorganized or too lazy to do so.
Bottom line in a lot of cases is that the "smart" kids essentially teach themselves no matter what the format (they see something that sounds intriguing so they investigate it further for example) while it's the average kids who have to have a push who will fall through the cracks this year. That's not even taking into account the 20% (or more) that are behind, have little encouragement or supervision at home, whose parent(s) him or herself is barely functional, who are going to absolutely crash and burn this year.
It will take years to catch them up, if it ever happens. These are also the kids that are the ones for whom year round school is being advocated for because they lose so much just in the 2+/- months of Summer.
Bottom line in a lot of cases is that the "smart" kids essentially teach themselves no matter what the format (they see something that sounds intriguing so they investigate it further for example) while it's the average kids who have to have a push who will fall through the cracks this year. That's not even taking into account the 20% (or more) that are behind, have little encouragement or supervision at home, whose parent(s) him or herself is barely functional, who are going to absolutely crash and burn this year.
It will take years to catch them up, if it ever happens. These are also the kids that are the ones for whom year round school is being advocated for because they lose so much just in the 2+/- months of Summer.
Mommy Defeness ..... my 15 yr old has the same problem, but she dare not ignore the 300 lb gorilla in the room, if I have to get involved.
NorthBeachPerso
Honorary SMIB
Your conjecture is mostly wrong. High performing students are, generally, fairly competitive academically for a number of reasons but the average, run of the mill kid in the general (non-Honors/AP) classes really isn't.
Yes some of them will work and get As but it doesn't consume them like it does the top 10% or so.
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And she's a teacher!
SamSpade
Well-Known Member
My academic star is the same. Normally either all A's or just a couple B's - got two F's and a D among her grades.
SERIOUSLY degraded. This no in-person situation is destroying her academic career. She misses stuff, ignores others - I don't know what to do.
I've helped her with homework, but I wonder if the teacher is relying a LOT on student homework and self-taught material in place of in person teaching - because she gets what I think is a seriously obscene amount of homework.