Here I am..31 going on 5!
- Thread starter mrboswell
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Ambivalent
Marriage is hard,like work is hard,however both should have a pay off,otherwise it is all for nothing. Let me expound on my reasons for wanting out..first,I truly belive he is bi-polar. I don't mean I think it,I mean I KNOW it. Life with him is either wonderful,or horrible. He will be a joy to live with,for about three to four days..sometimes a week. Then,he crashes. He will come home from work near tears over something minute. He will sream at our children,and say awful things to me. He will threaten to kill himself. Then,like that POOF! he will come to me and say hey,I am just stressed at work,and then be great again. It is very hard for me and my kids to live this way. I know marriage is work,no sh*t,but that is simplistic to say that hey we need to work harder..I am the only one working while Norman Bates is going to work one way and coming home a different person. He has never attempted suicide,or hurt any of us physically,he just seems to spiral down to a point where we all avoid him. He has gone so far in these dark moods to tell me he never loved me,that I was a freind and that he simply stays because it is right. Then when the mood lifts,he loves us all again. Prime example,tonight,our daughter is sick. She was so congested she said she was having trouble breathing. Being a nurse,I stayed home with her to keep an eye on her and asked him to go to Walmart for some medicine. He looked at me incredulously and said - IN FRONT OF HER - "WalMart?!?" "I guess now I wont have time to cut my hair.Maybe I will find some money on the road or something to get it done tomorrow.God damn,it's just a cold". The look on her face made me want to leave him on the spot. I would drive to anywhere for either of my children and he makes me furious when he does this. Our youngest is only 7 and she seeks out male attention in a way that really worries me,because he does things like promise her he will spend time with her,and then not show up or tell her to shut up. Her school is having a thing for dads next week,and she is on pins and needles as to whether he will even come. His answer when she was so excited was "We'll see. Anything can happen between now and then". Sorry for this long azz post,but seeing "marriage is work" really got me riled.
usagent
New Member
Why don't you go away and stop stalking people?
Good work! Your friends are watching!
meangirl
Nice lady!
Well, you didn't even hint at any of this in your first post. It sounded more like you thought he was a great guy but you wanted out to test drive something new. I'm not trying to be mean but that's how it came across. This is a whole new ballgame. I personally would not stay in that situation.
backagain39
New Member
Excuse me but you really didn't go into all of that upfront.....I think with all this long post that you just answered your own question. Life is too short to be that miserable..........its time to go.
Yep..I know. I suppose I just want to hear someone else say yes,leave. Its right and ok. My family only sees the front he puts up and they really do not understand what I go through. I talk to my mom and she tells me he pays the bills,so deal. I can't imagine what I am teaching my girls by letting them see this though.
backagain39
New Member
No one can make the decision for you....when the time is right you will know....and nothing will stop you from second guessing yourself.
Otter
Nothing to see here
godsbutterfly
Free to Fly
Defnitely time to go when the kids are being confused and hurt. Take care and good luck to you and your children.
You're divorced, you're not supposed to post in this tread.
My bad.
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Mousebaby
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I am bipolar too, there is no way in hell I would ever talk to my children that way. And I am the first one to jump in the car and take them to the hospital if I think they need to go. Your children deserve better! You deserve better! Get out while the getting is good! I tell you what a good guy is. I stay depressed a lot and I am sick a lot due to things beyond my control. My husband works all day then comes home and does 90% of the housework and laundry because I am unable to go up and down the stairs to do the work myself. He also helps our children with their homework! Most of the time he even cooks dinner! I stay in pain all the time and am on so many medications its not funny. You would think he would be absolutely miserable (I still secretly wonder) but he acts and shows that he absolutely adores me and I have no clue why!! This is what a good man is. He has also put up with my mean and horrible mouth to him and still keeps on loving me. The only thing I can think of that keeps him here is the love he has for our children and the fact that our family truely LOVES to be together! He says he is much richer since we (I) came into his life. I feel that I am the rich person here! I thank God everyday for the love this man gives me, and I will never stop! There are more of him out there so don't sell yourself short! Leave and find your happiness! 
Completely off topic..what is CIP?
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Mousebaby
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Cheeseburger in Paradise
No, if that was you, you'd post some skinny hottie wearing very little clothing as your avatar.
