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K_Jo

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vraiblonde said:
If he wanted you, there would be nothing that could keep him away. Men don't do drama like women do - they're pretty simple creatures. "I need space" is standard code for "I'm done with our relationship."

Sorry. :huggy:
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I really think some of them (the young ones) actually need space to decide if they want to move on together or apart. I've seen it happen. Truly! Not to me, of course. I'm way too awesome.
 
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Whenever I start to create the space I need she fills it with a baby or a cat.
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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K_Jo said:
I really think some of them (the young ones) actually need space to decide if they want to move on together or apart. I've seen it happen. Truly!
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I'll have to take your word for it. :shrug: My experience is that guys jerk you around with their "space" needs, typically because they're interested in another woman. Then, as soon as you start dating someone else, they come sniffing around again because they can't stand losing.

But of course you wouldn't know that because you're so awesome! :love:
 
migtig

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lnmarsh said:
Like I mentioned before, I actually always lived in MD so family, etc isnt a problem. I do have my own job and my own money, etc. Right now we're not even living together... we both think its kind of crazy to pay money to rent a place (why pay someone else's mortgage), so we unfortunately both live with our parents. We pay rent to our parents to cover food, etc., but both his family and my family are cool with having us stay home as long as we 1.) continute to pay rent and 2.) contribute to the house. We wanted to wait to live together until we bought a house together because if we're going to be paying anyone's mortgage, it might as well be our own. Right or wrong, thats just the mentality we have I guess

I definitely have my own friends, job, money, car, hobbies, etc. I just hoped to always have him around, too :frown:
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:huggy: I did misunderstand and was worried you were here without a support network.

Then you are doing way better than most, and trust me you have a lot going on that makes you the most worthwhile thing ever. But take this weekend to think about if you want to stay with him yourself. You may discover some things that surprise you.

So now my advice is to hide your phone from yourself, stockpile your favorite bad foods (doritos, chocolate, ice cream - whatver) in your room, put on your comfy clothes, and start listing things you'd want to change in your life (both the things you have control over and those you don't) and the things that make you happy, and the things that he does that makes him worthwhile and the things that he does that doesn't make him worthwhile, and then visualize where you want to be in 20 years. Then sit back and take stock and see where he fits in the big picture.

And check with your job/insurance and get your own counseling. Miscarrying can be quite tramatic and some women need a sounding board to work out the hormones, and feelings and all. There is no shame in that. :huggy:

good luck and best wishes for your happiness.
 
vraiblonde

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migtig said:
So now my advice is to hide your phone from yourself, stockpile your favorite bad foods (doritos, chocolate, ice cream - whatver) in your room, put on your comfy clothes, and start listing things you'd want to change in your life (both the things you have control over and those you don't) and the things that make you happy, and the things that he does that makes him worthwhile and the things that he does that doesn't make him worthwhile, and then visualize where you want to be in 20 years. Then sit back and take stock and see where he fits in the big picture.
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Or you could simply go out and get laid.
 
migtig

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vraiblonde said:
Or you could simply go out and get laid.
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She can do that next week. When he comes back, she's going to be looking her best. If he says he's walking, she can call up her gals and go out on the town. If he says he realizes he was a fool, then she can let him mess up her hair.
 
K_Jo

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migtig said:
She can do that next week. When he comes back, she's going to be looking her best. If he says he's walking, she can call up her gals and go out on the town. If he says he realizes he was a fool, then she can let him mess up her hair.
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OR she could say..."Yeah, I kinda liked that whole 'space' thing. Bye-bye!"
 
vraiblonde

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K_Jo said:
OR she could say..."Yeah, I kinda liked that whole 'space' thing. Bye-bye!"
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Or, "Listen, I have a date with a really hot guy this Saturday, so could you possibly hold off on this until maybe Monday or so?"

When the puppy pees on the carpet, we correct its behavior, we don't reward it with affection.
 
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Has anyone else noticed that she is conveniently ignoring comments from the guys? Well, ok.... some of them she should.....


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Cowgirl

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migtig said:
So now my advice is to hide your phone from yourself, stockpile your favorite bad foods (doritos, chocolate, ice cream - whatver) in your room, put on your comfy clothes,
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I'm going to disagree here. Eating junk and wearing comfy clothes will make her feel worse. She needs to be out and about doing things! Take a walk (raise your endorphins!), dress nicely, and go have fun! Don't sit home and wait around.
 
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