kom526
They call me ... Sarcasmo
Amen, darling. I guess they can go ahead and cancel Christmas this year.
How do I get him to take care of his son??????????
- Thread starter chemommy25
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Amen, darling. I guess they can go ahead and cancel Christmas this year.
daisycreek
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if you have the city and state he can be found. when BOSE verifies the address you request that the case be registered for enforcement in Texas. Texas then will charge him with contempt.
And miss all this juicy drama? Bite your tongue, woman.
Now I will give my take, after skimming and getting a gist.
CHEMOMMY:
You need to grow the hell up. You are obviously using your son as a pawn to "get back" at his father, and now his grandparents. While you've tried to paint yourself as all innocent and such, anyone with half a brain can see through your bull. If I were Chedaddy, I'd have run like hell, too. And if I were Suz, I would get a lawyer, show him this thread, and see what I could do about getting custody of my grandchild.
SUZ
If you don't want the public drama, stop instigating and perpetuating it. Most adult women, when they have a problem with the people in their life, deal with it privately, not on a freakin' public forum. Most people would have had no idea you were even involved until you jumped in. You should have ignored this thread and not responded, because to do so makes you look like an immature drama queen, and you are way too old for that. Had you not stoked it, this thread would have died very shortly after it was created.
Frankly, both of you are a pair of kooks. Suz should have raised a better son, and Chemommy shouldn't have gone rutting with a punk.
And one more thing:
Chemommy has said that Suz was willing to help her with diapers, clothing and other essentials but won't give her money. I think that is the correct thing to do, because I wouldn't give her money either. Especially when she makes juvenile public forum threads like this.
they probably have it set that way so YOU don't contact them and get him riled up and pissed off.. you seem pretty well at that...
how can you blame Suz for any of this? you must be a kook to.. Suz raised chedaddy the same i was raised and honestly i'm doing pretty damn well for myself..
i have NO kids, NO baby momma drama.
i have a job that i make great money at, and i'm probably doing better then half the people my age are..
Wasn't there a thread a long time ago about Suz not respecting Chemommy's requests about feeding her son or something?Wasn't it a battle about adding cereal or not adding cereal?
chemommy just like to start drama and bull#### anytime she is able to do so.. it's her nature..
chemommy25
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I'll tell you how:
If my son ran out on his bebes, I would have a word with him. And since he respects my opinion and doesn't want me to think he's a loser jerk, he would most likely step up. Of course, it's unlikely he would put himself in the position of having me (or his dad, or his step-dad, or his grandparents) think less of him in the first place.
If Suz has any kind of relationship with her son, she should have some influence over him. And if she has that influence, she should tell him to take care of his children and stop being a dirtbag.
Now I'm not all up on the dirt, so it's possible that Suz has no relationship with her son and hasn't seen or spoken to him in years. And you'd have to wonder about that as well - what caused that and what Suz's role is in the situation.
LusbyMom
You're a LOON :)
From previous posts from over a year ago it doesn't sound like Suz even had much of a relationship with her son anywa. And chemommy was still with her son at this time. What is ironic is that she had no problem being with him when it sounds like he was ALREADY a deadbeat for his first child. What did she expect? Reminds me of when my ex and I go to court and some deadbeat is there with his knocked up girlfriend. I always think those girls are stupid... umm he is already a deadbeat.. do you think he will support yours?
http://forums.somd.com/parenting-children/126479-cereal-bottle-4.html#post2849997
http://forums.somd.com/parenting-children/126479-cereal-bottle-4.html#post2850296
http://forums.somd.com/parenting-children/126479-cereal-bottle-5.html#post2850357
http://forums.somd.com/parenting-children/126479-cereal-bottle-5.html#post2850425
http://forums.somd.com/parenting-children/126479-cereal-bottle-5.html#post2850454
This one is interesting... She is praising how good of a dad he is
http://forums.somd.com/parenting-children/126479-cereal-bottle-6.html#post2851900
http://forums.somd.com/parenting-children/126479-cereal-bottle-6.html#post2852223
I always think those girls are stupid... umm he is already a deadbeat.. do you think he will support yours?
Well, there's that part of it.....
You have to wonder what these girls are thinking.
Bay_Kat
Tropical
My favorite quote from the cereal thread. What a difference a year makes.
01mds10
If I had a deadbeat Brother, older or younger, I would kick his ASS.
Family is very important.
Get on your brothers ass, and have him take responsibility for tagging some nasty ass.
Good luck.
Suz,
You can only do your best.
Help out when you can, but get on your son's ass, as stated above.
If I had a deadbeat Brother, older or younger, I would kick his ASS.
Family is very important.
Get on your brothers ass, and have him take responsibility for tagging some nasty ass.
Good luck.
Suz,
You can only do your best.
Help out when you can, but get on your son's ass, as stated above.
pixiegirl
Cleopatra Jones
Hell if she can't! In MD there are abandonment laws. Who the hell are any of you for telling her she is wrong for taking steps to make sure her kids isn't disappointed? Where's your psyc degree that gives you the knowledge and education to say that its better for a child to grow up disappointed and hurt all the than to never know that pain because they don't know what/who they're missing.
I agree that Chemommy shouldn't have come on here blabbing when she knew Suz was a regular here. She shouldn't hold them responsible for their son's actions; especially if they aren't supporting him.
BUT they should have no problem doing what she's asking if that's all she's asking. She has sole custody so guess what, she does have the right to say who her son does and does not get to talk to on the phone. The son may have court ordered visitation but that doesn't give him the right to come and go as he pleases. The court will most likely side with her and she would probably NOT be held in contempt.
My son hasn't seen his bio father in 3 years and it'll be a cold day in hell before he sees him again. Matter of fact I plan on very soon taking him to court to have his rights disolved if he doesn't agree to voluntarily terminate them. My son is 7 and still has a handful of memories of that POS. You know what happens to that poor kid, he takes the blame upon himself. He wants to know why his daddy doesn't see him. I've had to sit down and explain to a crying child that his father wasn't ready to be a husband or a father; that it's nothing to do with him or me or anything else, he just didn't want to have that life. I bring myself into it so that he can relate and see that it wasn't just him. Guess what, still doesn't happen. He says to me "He doesn't want to be my dad." You think he'd have those memories and say those things if contact had been cut before his 2nd b-day. Hell no, he wouldn't remember.
I know Suz and I like her just fine. I don't think its her responsibility to pay any support to Chesmommy if she's not financially supporting her son. I don't know Chesmommy at all but I've absolutely lived what she's living. I do however think if she's not going to allow any contact than she should cease all efforts to collect support. She needs to make that choice. If you want to cut him off completely than you need to do just that and that includes any money he may owe you. I personally think that's the best thing for the child but that's my opinion. I think that if Suz wants to have visitation in her home than she needs to abide by not letting her son have any contact with a child he doesn't support. Chesmommy has custody and gets to make those choices; plain and simple. She has no right to over-ride the choice of the one parent that is actively there and cares for the child.
LusbyMom
You're a LOON :)
First off I never said it was better for a child to grow up disappointed. The fact is that it's not that simple to just terminate a father's rights. And yes a court order does give a NCP the right to come and go as they please. The NCP has the option to exercise or not exercise their visitation.
I have sole custody of my child also but that doesn't mean I can go against the court order even if I feel it's in her best interest.
pixiegirl
Cleopatra Jones
Really... If the NCP does not exercise their "rights" to visitation to the point where you believe that the child is being emotionally harmed you may deny those rights and the NCP would have to take you back to court where their dirty laundry would be told and taken into consideration by the court. Chances are if they're not paying support or taking full advantage of their visitation they are not going to take you to court. They just don't care that much plain and simple.
You may not have outright said that it was better for a child to grow up disappointed but you sure are $hit jumped all over that girl for denying her POS ex phone calls with his son. If there is no clause in her custody agreement that says the father is to have XX amount of phone calls per week/month/whatever than she 100% has the right to deny those calls. Additionally, she has sole custody and she is responsible for what's in the custody agreement. No one else has the right to interfere. If they won't interfere on behalf of the child when it comes to financial support what gives them to interfere on behalf of the father when he "feels" like talking to the kid? The mother has every right to dictate 110% of what happens with her son when he's not in her care.
Grandparents rights (which you brought up) are written so losely in the state of MD that they're pretty much a joke. My parents have looked into them in regards to my neice and nephew and my ex MIL I'm sure consulted a lawyer in regards to my son (she brought them up and talked about seeking them, when I laughed at her and told her to please do she quickly dropped the subject). There is like 1 line of written law that states something to the affect of "grandparents MAY be granted visitation if it is found to be in the best interest of the child." My lawyer told me that if they are not abiding my wishes in regards to my son and what is done/told to him than they are not acting in the best interest of the child because I have sole custody. They are not fostering a good relationship.
All involved need to grow up a little and take a healthy dose of reality. If chesmommy doesn't want any contact than she needs to stop seeking support and let everything just disolve on its on. Suz needs to realize that chesmommy is the only parent Che has and respect her wishes, all wishes when it comes to Che.
Black-Francis
New Member
......this is getting way out of control.....
Black-Francis
New Member
Sorry, I just feel sorry for this kid that has to grow up in such dysfunction!
