o.k. thanks to all who gave me some feedback.
i have been in touch with my local Child support enforcement agency. and the agency and I did figure out a plan that we hope will work out.
And, i just want to say that i never once said that my son's grandparents could not see thier grandson. not ever. like she stated in earlier posts. i did ask for some assistance financially from her because i didn't want to pay my bills late. but she told me it was not her responsibility so i let it go. she also told me if my son needed diapers, food, etc.. she would help me out with that. But my son comes before everything including bills. so he never goes without. Che has food, diapers, clothes, everything he needs before i even think about putting money towards a car payment. so i already have everything that che needed.
Grandma texted me and asked if she could have the little guy for a couple of days. I said yes. but i only asked two things of her. That she provide transportation for the visit both ways. (its about an hour drive one-way.) and that she does not let her son (the sperm donor) have any contact with my son. When my son visits she tells him daddys on the phone and lets his dad talk to him on the phone. I am very much against this, For one he doesnt deserve to talk to him on the phone because, being a father isn't making a restricted phone call less than once a month and tell the kid its daddy. he doesnt pay child support, he doesnt even call and ask me how my son is. he does nothing. so why is it so easy for him to pick up the phone and make a call, but not easy to do anything else for him. nobody even has any contact information for him, so my son's father only gets to know whats going on with him, when he decides he wants to know. But claims he misses him so much. and the while family makes such a big deal over this ridiculous phone call. and the second reason i am against this so much is because my son has no clue who his father is. my son is not even 20 months old and has not seen his father since the beginning of january. So when you tell my son " daddy is on the phone" he has no idea who he is talking to.
So to get to see Che, you have to provide all transportation and not let Che have contace with his father. And that can change as soon as his father starts acting like a father. I figured maybe it would be some incentive to step up to the plate and take care of his responsibilities.
Her response at first was offering me ten dollars to pick him up on sunday. i told her it was not my responsibilty, as she told me when i asked a favor of her. Then she cancelled the whole weekend even though i said she could see him because my "DEMANDS" were immature. and she would give up time to see her grandson because she has to drive both ways for her own visit. and not let che have contact with his father. i also said if i find out that they are letting sperm donor talk to the child he completely abandoned behind my back, just to help out thier son, who refuses to take care of his son. that they will no longer be able to have visits with Che. it's thier visit. not thier son's visit. it shouldnt matter if Che's dad really misses him. he should have thought about that before he moved halfway acrossed the country and is working harder at dodging child support then actually paying it.