Originally posted by vraiblonde
What I thought was interesting was Pix and PF's responses that they'd never date a guy with kids, even though they have kids themselves.
I thought I was pretty clear about why I said that? But again I don't want to deal with either a bitchy ex or a behavior problem. It's not that I'm not willing to compromise in a relationship but I've learned from experience. It's also a lot easier with a kid as young as Noah is to go the route of someone without a kid.
B has been around since Noah was 3 months old. He really does love him like he's his own. There is no conflict in parenting style. I do what I think is best and he's seen me raise a very smart good natured kid; when we have our own it'll make things that much easier.
I don't want someone who already has a kid who has they're parenting style already in place. Especially when it comes to step children. I'm already going to be the mean mommy, I don't want that renforced by having a potential pushover part time parent around. There are going to be things that I won't let my son do; I don't want there to be a conflict because "stepdad" let's "stepbrother" or "stepsister" do it.
Now if I were older and still single of course I'd see things a little differently. Or if Noah was older. But now I'm 24 and he's 2 and that's the way things are. I've dated several guys with kids and haven't had a good experience beit the ex or the kid with the behavior problem. I won't subject my son or myself to it again.