I am so tired of my EX and her CRAP!!!

[julz20684]

Please clarify what actions you are specifically talking about. I have not tried to discredit her in anyway prior to him asking. I kept my mouth shut for years not saying anything and I let them believe what she told them.

My lack of visitation was not by choice. I offered her many times to put them on a plane and I would pay for it. It was her that said NO. It was easier for me to fly both of them up and have them stay with me during the summer and holidays then for me to go to FL...get a hotel and so on. I have no family there. And it would cost me a couple thousand dollars for a couple weeks. She also refused to meet me anywhere halfway. I would have to all the way to get them. I did it once when I lived in TX and it wasn't too bad. But I was able to fly there...rent a car and drive back and forth and then fly back...the flights were paid for by my company because it was business related. You don't seem to understand that she is supposed to pay for half of all travel expenses. And since I was giving up over half my net income...coming up with that kind of money to visit was nearly impossible without any help from her. I visited when I could also. Just last weekend, she finally agreed to meet in NC to bring my daughter up for a visit. It cost me nearly $600 for the trip and I had to give her money also. I could write a book on everything that has happened and maybe then you would understand. I did get to see them when I could....it's not as much as I would have liked. I also don't claim to be the perfect father...I have made mistakes..but I am learned from them..and admitted them to my kids. They are old enough to understand and realize that things aren't nearly as bad as their mother claimed them to be

There is a MD law, I believe (Powell v. Powell) that states for visitation if the custodial parent lives more than 50 miles away from non custodial parent, both parties are to share the distance between the two for transfer of visitation.

I'm not sure if this applies since you are the non custodial parent who moved out of state where the custodial parent lives, but it might be worth having your attorney look into.

 

[BillnChristi]

You sound like a great dad.

I try to be..but I am not perfect. I have made mistakes. There have been times, but not often, when I have let my feelings for her interfere with my relationship with my kids. I have tried not talking to her when I call (that way to avoid confrontation)..but it is one of her requirements. I have bent over backwards at times to see them, talk to them and even to be decent with her. But she makes it very difficult.

Once again...I admit I am not perfect. I admit I have made mistakes and I am not Mr. Cleaver. But I do realize that...and I try to be the best Dad I can. That is all I can do.

 

[BillnChristi]

There is a MD law, I believe (Powell v. Powell) that states for visitation if the custodial parent lives more than 50 miles away from non custodial parent, both parties are to share the distance between the two for transfer of visitation.

I'm not sure if this applies since you are the non custodial parent who moved out of state where the custodial parent lives, but it might be worth having your attorney look into.

The law is true for FL as well and it is in our divorce papers....however, there is no law to enforce it. They will not enforce visitation expenses. I have tried. So when she says she doesn't have the money..there is nothing I can do about it. It's either pay it all myself or go get them or I don't get to see them.

Thanks for the input though.

 

[aps45819]

There is a MD law, I believe (Powell v. Powell) that states for visitation if the custodial parent lives more than 50 miles away from non custodial parent, both parties are to share the distance between the two for transfer of visitation.

My X moved to Seattle, told me if I want to see my daughter, send a round trip ticket.
States attorney has no way to enforce MD law on somebody in another state.