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Kain... I don't think kindness is a weakness at all, sure it gets old when you get taken advantage of, or when people cut you off or whatever nasty scenario you can conjer up... but that just makes me try even harder to find the good in people....we all were kids once, sometimes I try to imagine what they looked like as a little kid and it softens my heart to them some.....and then I recall that odds are we are probably more alike than differnt.
As for me... I don't let the mean people in the world defeat me and rent space in my head.... I won't become a scrooge or a miser or anything like that... that would mean they have gotten the best of me and I've given into their mean behavior ... I work even harder at being even nicer if that makes any sense. I like me and I like the fact soo many folks think I'm kind... I'd much rather be thought of in those terms than someone who has succumbed to lifes trials, tribulations and meanness from other humans. Be you, and continue to be the big sweetheart you are...don't let the mean people in the world win.
As for me... I don't let the mean people in the world defeat me and rent space in my head.... I won't become a scrooge or a miser or anything like that... that would mean they have gotten the best of me and I've given into their mean behavior ... I work even harder at being even nicer if that makes any sense. I like me and I like the fact soo many folks think I'm kind... I'd much rather be thought of in those terms than someone who has succumbed to lifes trials, tribulations and meanness from other humans. Be you, and continue to be the big sweetheart you are...don't let the mean people in the world win.
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KCM said:Well put.
That too... don't have expectations of other people and you won't get hurt.
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Ken King said:I knew there was a vacancy and this confirms it.
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dems4me
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Ken King said:I knew there was a vacancy and this confirms it.
maybe at times in the head... but never in the heart...
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justhangn said:
it wasn't THAT funny... 
You will be forgiven as you forgive.Kizzy said:Yes, kindness is a weakness
I use to believe in the "turn the other cheek" "pick yourself up, even when other put you down" "treat others and you wish to be treated" and all the other
But any reasonable person can only handle so much, then your kindness just breaks. You stand there thinking you only had the best intentions, but of course most people only want to remember those "bad" things that happen, never the good.
I don't see it as a weakness at all, even if that kindness is taken advantage of. It is done because deep down I know it is the right thing to do. I do what I know is right - most of the time (because I am not perfect).
Whether the other person feels the same way does not matter because I firmly believe that they will have to answer for their actions as some point down the road. It may be while they are on earth or it may be after they are gone but they will have to answer for their actions just as I will.
Whether the other person feels the same way does not matter because I firmly believe that they will have to answer for their actions as some point down the road. It may be while they are on earth or it may be after they are gone but they will have to answer for their actions just as I will.
That's EXACTLY it. If you see a lady struggling with packages and toddlers at the post office, the least you can do is open the door for her or try and help her carry something. If you do this and she doesn't even say thank you or maybe even snarls at you - "I didn't need your helpjusthangn said:
- oh well. You still did a nice thing for someone else.What comes around, goes around. :shrug:
To those that think kindness is a sign of weakness, you are so wrong. It takes true strength to show kindness especially when it is not appreciated. Although non-Christians show kindness, it is a fruit of the Holy Spirit. You know whether you are practicing the sinful nature of man or the fruits of the Spirit.
Christians are instructed to show kindness.
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vraiblonde said:That's EXACTLY it. If you see a lady struggling with packages and toddlers at the post office, the least you can do is open the door for her or try and help her carry something. If you do this and she doesn't even say thank you or maybe even snarls at you - "I didn't need your help
What comes around, goes around. :shrug:
I agree with you !!!!
cattitude
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vraiblonde said:That's EXACTLY it. If you see a lady struggling with packages and toddlers at the post office, the least you can do is open the door for her or try and help her carry something. If you do this and she doesn't even say thank you or maybe even snarls at you - "I didn't need your help
What comes around, goes around. :shrug:
Years ago I got some very good advice from a therapist.
I was lamenting that people around me didn't seen to share my feelings..they weren't as happy about something as I was...that I felt good being nice or helping but it didn't seem appreciated...that I loved somebody but didn't feel like they loved me..along those lines. My therapist told me he was going to give me a good piece of advice that maybe I wouldn't understand right then but after a while what he was saying would become obvious. That advice was that you wake up in the morning feeling good about yourself and how you feel about people and situations and be pleased that you feel the way you do and you cannot project your feelings on people because we are all individuals and we feel and love differently. Took me a long time to "get it." But I did.
I don't think kindness is a weakness unless you depend on the acts of kindness to feed your ego or fill voids in your life. I think genuine kindness just comes naturally..you either are a giver or you aren't. You give of yourself and be at peace with that. No strings..no conditions. You cannot expect anything in return and you don't remind people of the kidnesses you show them. I just think you do it and feel good about it and that's the end of it.
Good post!cattitude said:
Being kind is a trait of good character - of WHO *you* are. It has nothing to do with what other people do to you. But it probably doesn't make sense to those who think that being kind is a quid pro quo and amounts to being a doormat when people aren't nice in return. It takes strength to be kind if you are strong already; you don't have much choice if you're weak. Weak, sycophantic little quislings are 'kind' because they're vulnerable; they HAVE to act that way. But it's a trait of strength if you're already strong.
It's like observing an elephant. They're extremely powerful, and when provoked, people learn the hard way just how dangerous they are. But they can be extraordinarily gentle. You can't be 'gentle' unless you already possess the ability to completely flatten someone - then, you're showing restraint.
Being kind may depend a little on whether you're more like "The Rock" or more like Gilbert Gottfried, at least from a physical standpoint. If you're weak, it might look like letting people walk all over you; if you're strong, it might look more like not kicking the crap out of someone who deserves it.
It's like observing an elephant. They're extremely powerful, and when provoked, people learn the hard way just how dangerous they are. But they can be extraordinarily gentle. You can't be 'gentle' unless you already possess the ability to completely flatten someone - then, you're showing restraint.
Being kind may depend a little on whether you're more like "The Rock" or more like Gilbert Gottfried, at least from a physical standpoint. If you're weak, it might look like letting people walk all over you; if you're strong, it might look more like not kicking the crap out of someone who deserves it.