Is kindness weakness?

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Kizzy

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I will put up with way more from a close friend than I would ever put up with a stranger, an acquaintance, a boss that I don't work for anymore. The next time that SOB calls, say I will actually come and pick-up my check and I'll be happy to answer any questions after that. If he says, check not ready, say guess I don't have an answer to your question. You don't owe him anything, he owes you.
 
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Kain99

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Kizzy said:
I will put up with way more from a close friend than I would ever put up with a stranger, an acquaintance, a boss that I don't work for anymore. The next time that SOB calls, say I will actually come and pick-up my check and I'll be happy to answer any questions after that. If he says, check not ready, say guess I don't have an answer to your question.
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Great advice! That's exactly what I'm gonna do! :notworthy
 
vraiblonde

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Kain99 said:
This was about my old boss.
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Kain, I wish you would be clearer in your communication. I assumed you were talking about a friend or relative.

Business is business. It's not "kind" to work for free for someone who is abusing your good will - it's just stupid. And I think he has a hell of a lot of nerve calling you for help when he fired you and hasn't paid you yet. Tell him that he is not to call you again - that you're coming to pick up your check and if it's not ready, you're next call will be to a lawyer.

So in your case, yes, your "kindness" is a weakness. But we don't call that "kindness" where I come from - we call that spineless, wimpshit and I-am-a-doormat-walk-on-me.
 
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Kain99

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vraiblonde said:
So in your case, yes, your "kindness" is a weakness. But we don't call that "kindness" where I come from - we call that spineless, wimpshit and I-am-a-doormat-walk-on-me.
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God I feel so much better now!

Merry Christmas Momma! :killingme
 
Ken King

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vraiblonde said:
Merry Christmas, Kain. Now go get your friggin' money and quit giving your talent away for free. :bonk:
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But Great Mills road is already overrun with talented women. :biggrin:
 
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justhangn

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Ken King said:
But Great Mills road is already overrun with talented women. :biggrin:
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I was wondering if she was giving her professional or marital advice.........thanks for clearing that up. :yay:
 
2ndAmendment

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Kain, Vrai is right. We are not talking about kindness here. Your former employer should have no expectation of work for free. Take Kizzy's advice, get the money he owes you before doing any more work and only do that on a pay as you go basis. He has proven that he does not repect you enough to pay you.

To the person who gave me bad karma for posting that you will be forgiven as you forgive, you are forgiven. Merry Christmas.
 
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Kain99

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2ndAmendment said:
Kain, Vrai is right. We are not talking about kindness here. Your former employer should have no expectation of work for free. Take Kizzy's advice, get the money he owes you before doing any more work and only do that on a pay as you go basis. He has proven that he does not repect you enough to pay you.

To the person who gave me bad karma for posting that you will be forgiven as you forgive, you are forgiven. Merry Christmas.
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I know you are right 2A.... I'm telling him in the morning.

JH.....STFU! I don't think you of all people, should take the high road buddy!
 
vraiblonde

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SmallTown said:
Can someone give me the short short version of this thread? TIA
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Kain got fired a week or so ago. Her boss still hasn't paid her the money he owes her. He calls her wanting her to do free work for him. She does it. Now she's feeling put-upon because she feels she was "kind" to him and he #### on her.
 
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Kizzy

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SmallTown said:
Can someone give me the short short version of this thread? TIA
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Kain asked if kindness is a weakness, everybody jumped in giving an opinion then we all found out that Kain was being a wus and she was doing work for free when she hasn't even gotten her final check.
 
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Kain99

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Kizzy said:
Kain asked if kindness is a weakness, everybody jumped in giving an opinion then we all found out that Kain was being a wus and she was doing work for free when she hasn't even gotten her final check.
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Maybe Kain knew when she wouldn't sign the handbook that her boss would have no choice. Maybe Kain knew how afraid he was. Maybe Kain is trying to bethe bigger person.


Just maybe. :diva:
 
SmallTown

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Kain99 said:
Maybe Kain knew when she wouldn't sign the handbook that her boss would have no choice. Maybe Kain knew how afraid he was. Maybe Kain is trying to bethe bigger person.


Just maybe. :diva:
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:nono:
:lmao:
 
vraiblonde

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Kain99 said:
Maybe Kain is trying to bethe bigger person.
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Kain, I'm dying to know how doing free work for a former employer who owes you money is "being the bigger person".
 
SmallTown

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vraiblonde said:
Kain, I'm dying to know how doing free work for a former employer who owes you money is "being the bigger person".
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:offtopic:

Sorry Vrai for the 'You Suck' statement to Kain. I didn't realize this was the peaceful religion forum.
 
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Kain99

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vraiblonde said:
Kain, I'm dying to know how doing free work for a former employer who owes you money is "being the bigger person".
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He's an idiot... No matter what, he will be out of business in six months tops. I knew the handbook was a desperate measure. I know he fired me twice but I felt sorry for him.


Just stamp sucker on my forehead!
 
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