You read my mind.crabcake said:bend over
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Kizzy
Guest
Kain,
You think that by being "nice" you are the better person, but all that gets you is walked on and your feelings hurt. Eff it, be firm, you haven't got the time for somebody like him, you gave your generosity and because he didn't value your opinion on that ridiculous contract he wanted you to sign, he let you go. No compromises, no hey this is how I feel, just :slam: My world, you just live in it, my way, screw your viewpoint. You owe him nothing, not one word, he owes you for what you have done for him. Don’t give him respect, he never gave it to you.
I am not as dumb as I play and I do come across as free spirited. I am a rather pleasant person, just when my hornet’s nest is kicked; it is usually because it was toyed around with for awhile. There is no way in hell I'd do what you have done and continued to put my self in the line of fire and let him hold the cards. Learn.
You have already tried to reason with this person, it didn't work, like I said some people just can never be satisfied or pleased, he is one of them. There was a long string of failed employee/employer relationships before yours developed, and I am sure there will be many more if HE doesn't change. Now grab your crotch, you have work to do. Go get paid!
You think that by being "nice" you are the better person, but all that gets you is walked on and your feelings hurt. Eff it, be firm, you haven't got the time for somebody like him, you gave your generosity and because he didn't value your opinion on that ridiculous contract he wanted you to sign, he let you go. No compromises, no hey this is how I feel, just :slam: My world, you just live in it, my way, screw your viewpoint. You owe him nothing, not one word, he owes you for what you have done for him. Don’t give him respect, he never gave it to you.
I am not as dumb as I play and I do come across as free spirited. I am a rather pleasant person, just when my hornet’s nest is kicked; it is usually because it was toyed around with for awhile. There is no way in hell I'd do what you have done and continued to put my self in the line of fire and let him hold the cards. Learn.
You have already tried to reason with this person, it didn't work, like I said some people just can never be satisfied or pleased, he is one of them. There was a long string of failed employee/employer relationships before yours developed, and I am sure there will be many more if HE doesn't change. Now grab your crotch, you have work to do. Go get paid!
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Dang. I thought that was just a rumor.Hello6 said:
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Bruzilla
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Getting back to the core question, I don't think the question is answerable. For example:
Holding the door for a person who's arms are full? Is this being kind? Yes. Is it being weak? No.
Letting a tennant skip a rent payment to buy presents? Is this being kind? Yes. Is it being weak? If you need to make a mortgage payment, and as a landlord your responsibility is collecting the money to make that payment, then yes. If the property is paid for, and you're not putting yourself in financial jeopardy, then no.
Shooting a terminally ill friend, who's in great pain and wants to die, in the head. Is this being kind? Yes. Is it being weak? That depends on who you ask. Strict religious types would say yes; secular types would say no. As for what the Judge would say, I guess it doesn't really matter... you're going to jail (where one hopes you'll be strong.)
Letting your kids stay up all night to play video games when they have school in the morning because they've been pleading to? Is this being kind? Yes. Is it being weak? It sure is.
There is no real answer for the question because there are too many variables and motivations involved. By being kind you can inflict great pain and hardship (or even death) along with joy and happiness. As a result, you can have shown weakness or strength, again, depending on the situation.
Holding the door for a person who's arms are full? Is this being kind? Yes. Is it being weak? No.
Letting a tennant skip a rent payment to buy presents? Is this being kind? Yes. Is it being weak? If you need to make a mortgage payment, and as a landlord your responsibility is collecting the money to make that payment, then yes. If the property is paid for, and you're not putting yourself in financial jeopardy, then no.
Shooting a terminally ill friend, who's in great pain and wants to die, in the head. Is this being kind? Yes. Is it being weak? That depends on who you ask. Strict religious types would say yes; secular types would say no. As for what the Judge would say, I guess it doesn't really matter... you're going to jail (where one hopes you'll be strong.)
Letting your kids stay up all night to play video games when they have school in the morning because they've been pleading to? Is this being kind? Yes. Is it being weak? It sure is.
There is no real answer for the question because there are too many variables and motivations involved. By being kind you can inflict great pain and hardship (or even death) along with joy and happiness. As a result, you can have shown weakness or strength, again, depending on the situation.
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justin anemone
AKA BK
I think that one of the things that frustrates me the most on the forums here is that everyone (yes, everyone) that I've met is a kind-hearted, caring, nurturing, loving person.
Yet, they appear on a forum and show the most serious signs of UNkindness. I've been capable of it myself, so I do acknowledge that it may be the situation in which we find ourselves rather than the people.
I guess that's why I'm not surprised to see the number of people who've said here that kindness is weakness.
And in response, it absolutely is not.
Kindness, as said before, should be given without condition. Therefore, there is no reason or capability of disappointment when people don't respond in kind or respond negatively.
The bottom line is that to ask "Is kindness weakness?" is to beg a question that asks the listener to compare apples and oranges. Kindness is not a trait or quality that could be considered "weak"; it's a virtue.
And...as we're told...It's the meek who'll inherit the earth.
Yet, they appear on a forum and show the most serious signs of UNkindness. I've been capable of it myself, so I do acknowledge that it may be the situation in which we find ourselves rather than the people.
I guess that's why I'm not surprised to see the number of people who've said here that kindness is weakness.
And in response, it absolutely is not.
Kindness, as said before, should be given without condition. Therefore, there is no reason or capability of disappointment when people don't respond in kind or respond negatively.
The bottom line is that to ask "Is kindness weakness?" is to beg a question that asks the listener to compare apples and oranges. Kindness is not a trait or quality that could be considered "weak"; it's a virtue.
And...as we're told...It's the meek who'll inherit the earth.