Ladies: If your s/o was buying drinks in the club...

kwillia · Mar 23, 2007

vraiblonde said:
Larry buys drinks for people, including women, all the time. I've had drinks bought for me many times. I dance with other men frequently, and Larry dances with other women...well, not as often because he hates to dance.

What's the big deal?

Exactly!

Qurious · Mar 23, 2007

smoothmarine187 said:
Just some random woman that he doesn't know?

Damn people.... :lmao:

here's the scenario....

He goes to the bar to get you and him a drink. Nice lookin lady next to him says " i love your watch." He says "Thank you." She says "here alone?" He says " no." They talk about the gorgeous weather we are having and the next thing you know you look up at the bar and she's laughing and you see your man handing her a drink.

HE JUST MET THIS WOMAN.

your okay with this?

jazz lady · Mar 23, 2007

julz20684 said:
Does that mean I will have to rub uglies with you later?

Do we get to watch? :really:

julz20684 · Mar 23, 2007

jazz lady said:
Do we get to watch?

We should save this for that new personal forum.

smoothmarine187 · Mar 23, 2007

Qurious said:
Damn people.... here's the scenario....

He goes to the bar to get you and him a drink. Nice lookin lady next to him says " i love your watch." He says "Thank you." She says "here alone?" He says " no." They talk about the gorgeous weather we are having and the next thing you know you look up at the bar and she's laughing and you see your man handing her a drink.

HE JUST MET THIS WOMAN.

your okay with this?

It would be ok if his date was bi and he was hoping for a 3 way!

vraiblonde · Mar 23, 2007

Toxick said:
Are these people friends?

Or does he buy drinks for strange women while you dance with strange men?

He will buy drinks for strange women but I typically don't dance with strange men. However I have danced with friends' husbands any number of times.

Just the other night he bought a drink for a little gal we got into conversation with at the Outback bar. "Get her one, too..." It's no big deal and I don't think any more of it than when we get to chatting with some guy at a bar and Larry buys him a drink or he buys us one.

kwillia · Mar 23, 2007

julz20684 said:
We should save this for that new personal forum.

I agree... Jazz... go knock on "Heinz & Hosiery"..... Julz... look for the "Ketchup: wax on... wax off" thread. :yay:

jazz lady · Mar 23, 2007

kwillia said:
I agree... Jazz... go knock on "Heinz & Hosiery"..... Julz... look for the "Ketchup: wax on... wax off" thread.

I'm on it. :yay:

Toxick · Mar 23, 2007

vraiblonde said:
He will buy drinks for strange women but I typically don't dance with strange men. However I have danced with friends' husbands any number of times.

I have absolutely no problem with her dancing with any of my friends, her own friends (that I know, or am made aware of), my relatives, her relatives or anything like that.

However, if I turn around, and she's boogying down with some random Swinging Richard, I will have something to say about it. It's never happened, but I'm fairly certain that I'd turn a shade of green or two.

vraiblonde said:
Just the other night he bought a drink for a little gal we got into conversation with at the Outback bar. "Get her one, too..." It's no big deal and I don't think any more of it than when we get to chatting with some guy at a bar and Larry buys him a drink or he buys us one.

Again, I think this situation is also different than what the original question implies.

The original question seemed (to me at least) to suggest that the man goes to the bar - the lady he's with is off elsewhere - and spots a cutie a few seats down and tells the bartender, "Get her another one of what she's having, on me"...

There's only one reason to do that. And it's not because you and your wife were having a nice chat with her.

Conversely, if the man runs off to the bathroom, and suddently his woman gets a drink from Mr. Smooth down the bar - and she accepts it, instead of sending the "I'm with someone" message back with the bartender. This, to me, is a signal to Mr. Smooth that his advance is acknowledged, and is on some level appreciated.

Tinkerbell · Mar 23, 2007

My hubby has a habit of buying EVERYONE drinks, whether I'm there or not. Honestly, I could care less. I buy guys drinks - some he knows, some he doesn't know. He doesn't care. He knows I love him and only him.

We look at going out to a bar as a social thing. We do not have the type of relationship where we feel we have to be stuck up each other's butts all the time. I actually wander away from him and socialize with people in the bars.

And I have to wonder, what man in his right mind is going to try and hook up with some chick when his S/O is 10 feet away waiting for her drink? If he's that stupid, you need to get rid of him anyway, cause he isn't worth two cents.

julz20684 · Mar 23, 2007

jazz lady said:
I'm on it.

Is my

tread in there.

kwillia · Mar 23, 2007

Toxick said:
I have absolutely no problem with her dancing with any of my friends, her own friends (that I know, or am made aware of), my relatives, her relatives or anything like that.

However, if I turn around, and she's boogying down with some random Swinging Richard, I will have something to say about it. It's never happened, but I'm fairly certain that I'd turn a shade of green or two.

Again, I think this situation is also different than what the original question implies.

The original question seemed (to me at least) to suggest that the man goes to the bar - the lady he's with is off elsewhere - and spots a cutie a few seats down and tells the bartender, "Get her another one of what she's having, on me"...

There's only one reason to do that. And it's not because you and your wife were having a nice chat with her.

Conversely, if the man runs off to the bathroom, and suddently his woman gets a drink from Mr. Smooth down the bar - and she accepts it, instead of sending the "I'm with someone" message back with the bartender. This, to me, is a signal to Mr. Smooth that his advance is acknowledged, and is on some level appreciated.

I completely agree with you. I believe I am not seeing it the way you and Qurious are seeing it because my husband are never in a "pick up" situation as described by you. It's always a situation as described by Vrai.

vraiblonde · Mar 23, 2007

Qurious said:
He goes to the bar to get you and him a drink. Nice lookin lady next to him says " i love your watch." He says "Thank you." She says "here alone?" He says " no." They talk about the gorgeous weather we are having and the next thing you know you look up at the bar and she's laughing and you see your man handing her a drink.

Now that you've finally laid a scenario

That's one of the problems with your stories, Qurious - you don't give details until after everyone responds.

In the situation you described above, it's obviously flirting and yes, I would be going :eyebrow:

. But just a little - we all like our egos tickled on occasion, no harm no foul. If they exchanged phone numbers or started getting physically familiar (rubbing legs, touching while talking, that sort of thing), that would be going too far and I'd step in.

jazz lady · Mar 23, 2007

julz20684 said:
Is my tread in there.

Oh yeah.

Qurious · Mar 23, 2007

Tinkerbell said:
I actually wander away from him and socialize with people in the bars.

And I have to wonder, what man in his right mind is going to try and hook up with some chick when his S/O is 10 feet away waiting for her drink? If he's that stupid, you need to get rid of him anyway, cause he isn't worth two cents.

If I'm going to the club/bar with my man what in the blue hell am I doing leaving him to talk to complete strangers of the opposite sex?? and then what am I doing accepting drinks from these men?

WHOOOAHHH NELLY!!! :lmao:

Your husband is going to do what you allow him to do. So if you have no problem with him buying drinks at the club for other women (especially women who look hotter than you) then you probably wouldn't have a problem with him sleeping with her either.

yes I said it!

All the men who have bought me drinks in the club wanted something as I mentioned earlier...whether that be conversation, my phone number or even a chance for a one night stand. If you are there with your man and a guy asks to buy you a drink your reply should be: "im here with my husband, thanks anwyay." By you accepting the drink, (no matter what you think) the man is thinking "she's interested."

Why lead him on? Thats why chicks be getting called sluts, hoes' and gold diggers. You do not accept a drink unless you are interested in the guy.

Qurious · Mar 23, 2007

vraiblonde said:
Now that you've finally laid a scenario That's one of the problems with your stories, Qurious - you don't give details until after everyone responds.

In the situation you described above, it's obviously flirting and yes, I would be going . But just a little - we all like our egos tickled on occasion, no harm no foul. If they exchanged phone numbers or started getting physically familiar (rubbing legs, touching while talking, that sort of thing), that would be going too far and I'd step in.

Didn't know I had to write out a scenario? I said it was a complete stranger from jump....I shouldn't have even had to break it down for all of you. Its common sense.

kwillia · Mar 23, 2007

Qurious said:
Didn't know I had to write out a scenario? I said it was a complete stranger from jump....I shouldn't have even had to break it down for all of you. Its common sense.

Again, I disagree! I believe someone can carry on a conversation with a complete stranger of the opposite sex and that doesn't mean they are trying to get in their pants.

julz20684 · Mar 23, 2007

jazz lady said:
Oh yeah.

:snort:

julz20684 · Mar 23, 2007

Qurious said:
If I'm going to the club/bar with my man what in the blue hell am I doing leaving him to talk to complete strangers of the opposite sex?? and then what am I doing accepting drinks from these men?

WHOOOAHHH NELLY!!!

Your husband is going to do what you allow him to do. So if you have no problem with him buying drinks at the club for other women (especially women who look hotter than you) then you probably wouldn't have a problem with him sleeping with her either.

yes I said it!

All the men who have bought me drinks in the club wanted something as I mentioned earlier...whether that be conversation, my phone number or even a chance for a one night stand. If you are there with your man and a guy asks to buy you a drink your reply should be: "im here with my husband, thanks anwyay." By you accepting the drink, (no matter what you think) the man is thinking "she's interested."

Why lead him on? Thats why chicks be getting called sluts, hoes' and gold diggers. You do not accept a drink unless you are interested in the guy.

So if we are there without our husband then we can accept the drink :yay:

kwillia · Mar 23, 2007

julz20684 said:
So if we are there without our husband then we can accept the drink

Are you going to try and get me drunk this evening? :blushing:

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