Ladies: If your s/o was buying drinks in the club...
- Thread starter Qurious
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Unapproachable beyotch, isn't she? 
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BS Gal said:
kwillia
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Again, I agree with you! My husband would be considering decking someone in scenerio #1, and he wouldn't be accepting drinks from a tramp. On the other hand, we had scenerio #2 a few weeks back at a big ole birthday bash and when I was on the dance floor dancing to "my humps" he gave permission to the 20something dude that asked if he could go up and dance with me.Toxick said:
I'm quite secure in my relationship.
That doesn't mean I'm going to grin and watch while my wife sashay's around the dance floor with some effing jerk who's imagining what she looks like naked, and is wondering how quick he can stop imagining.
It also doesn't mean I'm going to buy (or accept) drinks from some tramp at a bar.
But if we're still talking about sitting at Outback (or whatever) and striking up platonic conversations with whomever... or going to a wedding where everyone knows everyone... or at a cocktail party... I'm cool.
It's all in how it's playing out.
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Toxick said:
I'm quite secure in my relationship.
That doesn't mean I'm going to grin and watch while my wife sashay's around the dance floor with some effing jerk who's imagining what she looks like naked, and is wondering how quick he can stop imagining.
It also doesn't mean I'm going to buy (or accept) drinks from some tramp at a bar.
But if we're still talking about sitting at Outback (or whatever) and striking up platonic conversations with whomever... or going to a wedding where everyone knows everyone... or at a cocktail party... I'm cool.
Ok, I didn't say I was sashaying around the floor with some jerk
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Qurious said:Let me guess....
you and Larry are swingers. if your not, you mise well be....
weirdos.
If we tell you what you WANT to hear, will you go away?
Toxick
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julz20684 said:
But that's what the original question was all about.
Everyone is answering as if the question was regarding "safe" platonic scenarios. Nobody cares (at least I don't) if you're dancing with your best friend's husband or your husband's best friend, or your brother in law, or anything along those lines.... If you can't deal with that sort of thing, then you need therapy.
I was answering as if my wife and I found ourself in 'Legends' or something like that, with the air saturated in hormones and sweat, and we found ourself in a position with the opportunity to dance or drink with random singles.
I am most definitely not cool with that.
Qurious
Im On 1.
Tinkerbell said:Oh for christ sakes, do you take EVERYTHING wrong. I didn't say I run around the bar talking to strangers. I talk to people I know.
Am I supposed to stand by the pool table like a lump while his buddies and him play pool? Why? Because "He's my man and I'm all insecure that he might cheat on me." Please.
I don't care if he buys a woman a drink because WHAT'S THE BIG DEAL????? You said buying her a drink, not hammering her on the bar! Christ, decide what you want to know. Hell, no, I'm wouldn't "let" him screw some other woman. But, hey, dummy, when a man cheats on you, it's not about what you "let" him do. From what I understand, they don't exactly ask first.
So, are you in an insecure relationship and feel that you need to have complete and total control over his every waking moment or he will leave you for someone hotter? Do you feel that if your man glances at another woman, he is going to start screwing her? Do you worry when he goes out to Lowe's that he might not just pick up a new hammer?
Get a grip.
Damn I forgot about that Disclaimer: "This is not about me." for some of you.
anddddd even if it was I have enough respect for my relationship that I would NEVER and I mean never (even if he said I could) out step my boundaries and except a drink from another man. Even when my man isn't there I am not going to be excepting drinks. I can buy and pop my own bottles. If your hubby says "sure honey its okay for you to bring another man into the house when I'm not home." are you going to do that too? These are just topic of conversations.....its funny and interesting to see alot of peoples thought process when it comes to relationships and scenarios.
But I wonder how much they go for. 
kwillia said:Agreed! I admit I am very naive about how the current "dating scene" works. In fact, I wasyesterday when I learned that lots of "hook-ups" between forumites really did come about because someone would send someone else a karma saying "Do ya wanna
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Really!?!
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Toxick said:
Let me see if I can explain this better (and no I'm not married, so this is my answer in the event I were married). In a social situation, I'm okay with sharing conversation, drinks, dancing with people we have met.
Now there is a big difference between dancing and grinding and hooking up at the bar with a "hey how you doin' " drink.
The point is I would not be with a man that would be disrespectful enough to even consider picking up another woman or dancing, "grinding" with another woman at a bar whether I was there or not. And if I am in a relationships, I certainly would not be that disrespectful either.
I guess what I'm trying to say, is in my relationship it would never be something to even think about.