Late bloomers

[vraiblonde]

It is with regret that I put the brakes on a budding romance with an attractive, mature, responsible and financially stable man with whom I have a lot in common.

His deal-breaker?

He is the custodial father of a young daughter and there's a crazy ex-wife/mommy hovering in the background.

Um, no thanks. That didn't work out so well for me last time.

What is with these guys waiting until they're in their late 40s to have children??? Jeeminy Christmas, your kids should be grown and gone by then, or at least fixing to get that way. In the last month or so I've met at least three guys who are my age or older that still have young kids at home. The above guy? His kiddo is my grandson's age.

So for real, you guys who are inching toward your 30s and still haven't gotten your starter marriage and procreation out of the way? Ya'll better get it on or you're going to have a hard time finding any women who'll want to start over again with you at age 40+.

Yeesh.

 

[somdfunguy]

Lol

 

[BadGirl]

It is with regret that I put the brakes on a budding romance with an attractive, mature, responsible and financially stable man with whom I have a lot in common.

His deal-breaker?

He is the custodial father of a young daughter and there's a crazy ex-wife/mommy hovering in the background.

Um, no thanks. That didn't work out so well for me last time.

What is with these guys waiting until they're in their late 40s to have children??? Jeeminy Christmas, your kids should be grown and gone by then, or at least fixing to get that way. In the last month or so I've met at least three guys who are my age or older that still have young kids at home. The above guy? His kiddo is my grandson's age.

So for real, you guys who are inching toward your 30s and still haven't gotten your starter marriage and procreation out of the way? Ya'll better get it on or you're going to have a hard time finding any women who'll want to start over again with you at age 40+.

Yeesh.

What are you trying to tell Bob here??

You realize WE have kid and grandkids the same age?

WE think it's pretty cool.



Hopefully he won't be trying to start over again, ever.

 

[vraiblonde]

What are you trying to tell Bob here??

You realize WE have kid and grandkids the same age?

WE think it's pretty cool.



Hopefully he won't be trying to start over again, ever.

He wasn't the custodial parent of a toddler. Big difference. Plus you wanted your own child - my baby making days are long over.

See, that's what this guy needs: someone like you who is older but never had kids, and wants some. Good luck to him because I'm pretty sure Bob got the last good one.

 

[bcp]

He wasn't the custodial parent of a toddler. Big difference. Plus you wanted your own child - my baby making days are long over.

See, that's what this guy needs: someone like you who is older but never had kids, and wants some. Good luck to him because I'm pretty sure Bob got the last good one.

Now, when you say toddler,, are you saying that this guy is nearing 50 with a toddler under arm?

My hat is off to him. Im around that age with a 17 year old and I would most likely be a suicide statistic if I had a toddler at my age right now.

 

[vraiblonde]

Now, when you say toddler,, are you saying that this guy is nearing 50 with a toddler under arm?

Yes.

She's a nice enough little girl, I just don't want to get involved in her daddy's (or her mommy's) life. Plus he's not going to find her future stepmonster if he's wasting time with me.

 

[Bann]

It is with regret that I put the brakes on a budding romance with an attractive, mature, responsible and financially stable man with whom I have a lot in common.

His deal-breaker?

He is the custodial father of a young daughter and there's a crazy ex-wife/mommy hovering in the background.

Um, no thanks. That didn't work out so well for me last time.

What is with these guys waiting until they're in their late 40s to have children??? Jeeminy Christmas, your kids should be grown and gone by then, or at least fixing to get that way. In the last month or so I've met at least three guys who are my age or older that still have young kids at home. The above guy? His kiddo is my grandson's age.

So for real, you guys who are inching toward your 30s and still haven't gotten your starter marriage and procreation out of the way? Ya'll better get it on or you're going to have a hard time finding any women who'll want to start over again with you at age 40+.

Yeesh.

Welllllllllll, I totally get it.

 

[Toxick]

So for real, you guys who are inching toward your 30s and still haven't gotten your starter marriage and procreation out of the way? Ya'll better get it on or you're going to have a hard time finding any women who'll want to start over again with you at age 40+.

That's why if I find myself single, I'm going for chicks in their 20's.

 

[huntr1]

It is with regret that I put the brakes on a budding romance with an attractive, mature, responsible and financially stable man with whom I have a lot in common.

His deal-breaker?

He is the custodial father of a young daughter and there's a crazy ex-wife/mommy hovering in the background.

Um, no thanks. That didn't work out so well for me last time.

What is with these guys waiting until they're in their late 40s to have children??? Jeeminy Christmas, your kids should be grown and gone by then, or at least fixing to get that way. In the last month or so I've met at least three guys who are my age or older that still have young kids at home. The above guy? His kiddo is my grandson's age.

So for real, you guys who are inching toward your 30s and still haven't gotten your starter marriage and procreation out of the way? Ya'll better get it on or you're going to have a hard time finding any women who'll want to start over again with you at age 40+.

Yeesh.

I'm 41. I have a 4 year old daughter. Sounds like I fall into your category. Oh, wait, I found the right woman to spend the rest of my life with the first (and only) time around. Nebber mind. 20 years since we met this Memorial Day weekend. Started dating 3 weeks later. 17 years of marriage as of June.

 

[BadGirl]

I'm 41. I have a 4 year old.
.

I was one month shy of turning 43 when our son was born.

I am old.

Having said that, he came into my life exactly when I needed him most, and could appreciate him the most.

I was far too scatterbrained and without direction when I was younger, so likely wouldn't have made as good a parent as I am now.

 

[ICit]

I was one month shy of turning 43 when our son was born.

I am old.

Having said that, he came into my life exactly when I needed him most, and could appreciate him the most.

I was far too scatterbrained and without direction when I was younger, so likely wouldn't have made as good a parent as I am now.

.... ooohhh look there is still hope for me to have my own kid......

 

[withrespect]

It is with regret that I put the brakes on a budding romance with an attractive, mature, responsible and financially stable man with whom I have a lot in common.

His deal-breaker?

He is the custodial father of a young daughter and there's a crazy ex-wife/mommy hovering in the background.

Um, no thanks. That didn't work out so well for me last time.

What is with these guys waiting until they're in their late 40s to have children??? Jeeminy Christmas, your kids should be grown and gone by then, or at least fixing to get that way. In the last month or so I've met at least three guys who are my age or older that still have young kids at home. The above guy? His kiddo is my grandson's age.

So for real, you guys who are inching toward your 30s and still haven't gotten your starter marriage and procreation out of the way? Ya'll better get it on or you're going to have a hard time finding any women who'll want to start over again with you at age 40+.

Yeesh.

I understand that completely. It works the other way too... Piece of advice - Never date anyone who has kids only 3 or 4 years younger than you. It gets very awkward.

Now, when you say toddler,, are you saying that this guy is nearing 50 with a toddler under arm?

My hat is off to him. Im around that age with a 17 year old and I would most likely be a suicide statistic if I had a toddler at my age right now.

But you seem so calm and mild-mannered... You sure you don't want another one to paint chit all over your ####ing walls.

Welllllllllll, I totally get it.

That's why if I find myself single, I'm going for chicks in their 20's.

I thought you were in your 20's? How old are you?

 

[Larry Gude]

It is with regret that I put the brakes on a budding romance with an attractive, mature, responsible and financially stable man with whom I have a lot in common.

His deal-breaker?

He is the custodial father of a young daughter and there's a crazy ex-wife/mommy hovering in the background.

Um, no thanks. That didn't work out so well for me last time.

What is with these guys waiting until they're in their late 40s to have children??? Jeeminy Christmas, your kids should be grown and gone by then, or at least fixing to get that way. In the last month or so I've met at least three guys who are my age or older that still have young kids at home. The above guy? His kiddo is my grandson's age.

So for real, you guys who are inching toward your 30s and still haven't gotten your starter marriage and procreation out of the way? Ya'll better get it on or you're going to have a hard time finding any women who'll want to start over again with you at age 40+.

Yeesh.

This is crap. "late bloomers' have kids late, I ain't arguing that. What I am arguing is that he's 'mature' and 'responsible'. He can't be that AND have a 3 year old and nutso ex. He can be immature and irresponsible AND have a 3 year old and a crazy ex.

40 something guys, to early 50's, are probably the only thing keeping this planet from imploding from it's own stupidity. We really hit our stride around that age. Guys who were pretty hot #### in their late 20's into their 30's become kings of their realm in their 40's and 50'. Even #### ups tend to do fairly well come their 40's but, I ain't buying this 'mature' and 'responsible' bit WITH such a young kid and a crazy ex. If he were mature and responsible, he'd have made it work, no matter what, because guys CAN at that age or, he'd have never had her or the kid.

So, come on. You brought up. Let's hear the real deal.

 

[Toxick]

I thought you were in your 20's? How old are you?

They say you're only as old as you feel. Most of the time I'm about 16. The rest of the time, about 97.




My birth certificate says I'm 42.

 

[Misfit]

I'm 42 and have a 24 year old daughter. If my wife say's it's okay Vrai, you could date me for free meals. :shrug:









PS. I'm high maintenance.

 

[Bann]

I understand that completely. It works the other way too... Piece of advice - Never date anyone who has kids only 3 or 4 years younger than you. It gets very awkward.

And then there's this: I was nearly 32 & 36 when I had Thing1 & Thing2. Now I'm nearly 54. Thing2 is going to be out on his own next year, but Thing1 will be around awhile, due to his disability, and we're working on finding that happy medium in our family situation.

I never looked for the "right one" to date, since I wasn't really looking. But I did have a few criteria for what constituted the wrong one if I ever DID date. Kids still dependent on their parents was one of the criteria which would have been a deal breaker. (mostly because of the issue with the EX-es and well - children being children. ) With what I have on my plate, I can't parent anymore children than I already have. I don't want to, I guess. AND, I don't want or need the drama.

But that's okay - because someone who never had kids found me and doesn't have a problem with Thing1. Who knew?!

 

[sockgirl77]

I know an almost 77 year old man who is looking. He's definitely financial stable and is as sweet as can be. His kids are all grown. He does have grandchildren, but they are cute (I'm biased). Interested?

 

[vraiblonde]

This is crap. "late bloomers' have kids late, I ain't arguing that. What I am arguing is that he's 'mature' and 'responsible'. He can't be that AND have a 3 year old and nutso ex. He can be immature and irresponsible AND have a 3 year old and a crazy ex.

40 something guys, to early 50's, are probably the only thing keeping this planet from imploding from it's own stupidity. We really hit our stride around that age. Guys who were pretty hot #### in their late 20's into their 30's become kings of their realm in their 40's and 50'. Even #### ups tend to do fairly well come their 40's but, I ain't buying this 'mature' and 'responsible' bit WITH such a young kid and a crazy ex. If he were mature and responsible, he'd have made it work, no matter what, because guys CAN at that age or, he'd have never had her or the kid.

So, come on. You brought up. Let's hear the real deal.

If you're saying that he'd have to be crazy to want a toddler bouncing about at his age, I completely agree. However, you're full of chit on the rest of it.

Guys in the late-40s range are typically experiencing their mid-life crisis and do all sorts of stupid things. That's the age where they run off with their secretaries; buy a sports car; rub Propecia into their balding noggins; start wearing skinny jeans. It's a cliche for a reason.

I think the very fact that he's raising his child speaks to his maturity and responsibility.

As far as the crazy ex, her mental state is my inference based on the fact that she gave up her baby. He doesn't call her crazy, to his credit, or bust on her in any significant way. But I am biased, sexist, and judgmental, and think any woman who gives up her child - especially a very young daughter - must be an unstable mess. Your crazy ex being the perfect example.

 

[Lilypad]

"crazy ex-wife/mommy hovering in the background."
Right there, that...I would run not walk!

 

[frequentflier]

If you're saying that he'd have to be crazy to want a toddler bouncing about at his age, I completely agree. However, you're full of chit on the rest of it.

Guys in the late-40s range are typically experiencing their mid-life crisis and do all sorts of stupid things. That's the age where they run off with their secretaries; buy a sports car; rub Propecia into their balding noggins; start wearing skinny jeans. It's a cliche for a reason.

I think the very fact that he's raising his child speaks to his maturity and responsibility.

As far as the crazy ex, her mental state is my inference based on the fact that she gave up her baby. He doesn't call her crazy, to his credit, or bust on her in any significant way. But I am biased, sexist, and judgmental, and think any woman who gives up her child - especially a very young daughter - must be an unstable mess. Your crazy ex being the perfect example.

Love it!!